Help with Leooooo.

Leo man says he does not want to screw me over--doesn't want to get emotionally invested because I may be moving--says I make him happy--and that he likes me--so, then I said "what the hell are we even doing then?" I grabbed my coat and proceeded to leave, he pulled me back down, kissed me, and said "can we pretend this conversation didn't even happen? I feel like I just ruined a really good thing." He said he was afraid of commitment, and as an Aries, so am I. I hate the caged feeling. So, I understand that.

I just don't know what to do. His behavior hasn't changed--still initiates contact with me, etc.

He said the one thing he really likes about me is that he has no idea what to do with me. I don't even treetrunking know what that means.

When he invites me out, it's with his friends. He never ignores me, though. I asked him why he does this? and all he said was that, "that's me being scared to death."

I'm so lost.

Any help is appreesh!

i think this is a classic case of him REALLY liking you but afraid of losing you. His head is all over the place but from what im picking up is that he indeed wants you. i think its the you moving away part that is causing him to be this way. when a leo man begins to fall for someone, we fall hard lol. but yea, i think he is scared to death on the fact you might be moving.

Posted by AL4813
i think this is a classic case of him REALLY liking you but afraid of losing you. His head is all over the place but from what im picking up is that he indeed wants you. i think its the you moving away part that is causing him to be this way. when a leo man begins to fall for someone, we fall hard lol. but yea, i think he is scared to death on the fact you might be moving.

Thank you for your advice! And I understand, but regardless, how can you stop your emotions just because of someone moving away? I'm an Aries, and we're pretty headstrong--and even I cannot do that. Maybe it's more a male thing, I suppose. I told him it's uncertain still, and I don't know if I'll be moving. But he told me "if we're playing this by ear, then I can do that."

Posted by jdugan

Posted by AL4813
i think this is a classic case of him REALLY liking you but afraid of losing you. His head is all over the place but from what im picking up is that he indeed wants you. i think its the you moving away part that is causing him to be this way. when a leo man begins to fall for someone, we fall hard lol. but yea, i think he is scared to death on the fact you might be moving.

Thank you for your advice! And I understand, but regardless, how can you stop your emotions just because of someone moving away? ."

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i wouldnt say hes stopping his emotions, rather just detaching himself a little

Well for starters if you like him like he likes you, then you need not be so quick to run away when he opens up about his feelings. Him telling you about his fears of you moving was him opening up to you, and by you jumping up to leave instead of being a grown woman and digging deeper into his fears, you made him shut down and showed him he cannot open up to those fears again. Not good. You want your man to feel as though he can talk to you about anything. Even the things you may not want to hear. As an Aries, you love a direct mate, not one that plays silly games with your head, or mysteries, so don't be so quick to flee when you have one

If you are both scared of losing one another, or being hurt it is important to be open and honest about those feelings, and address them as a unit, rather than you both sweeping them under the rug to keep the peace. Because trust me, IF you do move, the peace will not last. You should??ve told him what your plans were on how to keep things going whether you move or not, and see what his ideas are on how to keep things together. The two of you need to put your heads together, and your fears aside if this is going to last. Personally I don't see it happening, because Leo men desire way too much of their partners attention. They like to be the center of your world. Aries are very fast paced, and when in love they are capable of showing their partner attention, but eventually the nagging of the Leo wanting more will get old if they are not careful to respect the Aries need for alone time and independence. So again, stop running and ignoring the obvious issue here, and address it TOGETHER.

"He said he was afraid of commitmen"

Of course he's afraid of commitment, he picked a woman whose LEAVING, that's right up his alley being a person with commitment issues.

He's going to be on his best behavior, initiate, all that because there comes a point when it will all end and he can move on to another situation where there is an ending.

Men with commitment issues are usually very charming, on their best behavior and attentive. Why? Because there comes a point when it will end. You'll be left with wonderful memories not knowing that those memories were cultivated by a man who is temporary and behaves really great b/c it's temporary.

Sounds negative I know but men with commitment issues love situations that have an easy out, an expiration date.

Even if you stay he'll eventually grow distant and cold. Hey, What happened to that great charming guy? He's gone forever.

Posted by pinklibra
Well for starters if you like him like he likes you, then you need not be so quick to run away when he opens up about his feelings. Him telling you about his fears of you moving was him opening up to you, and by you jumping up to leave instead of being a grown woman and digging deeper into his fears, you made him shut down and showed him he cannot open up to those fears again. Not good. You want your man to feel as though he can talk to you about anything. Even the things you may not want to hear. As an Aries, you love a direct mate, not one that plays silly games with your head, or mysteries, so don't be so quick to flee when you have one

If you are both scared of losing one another, or being hurt it is important to be open and honest about those feelings, and address them as a unit, rather than you both sweeping them under the rug to keep the peace. Because trust me, IF you do move, the peace will not last. You should??ve told him what your plans were on how to keep things going whether you move or not, and see what his ideas are on how to keep things together. The two of you need to put your heads together, and your fears aside if this is going to last. Personally I don't see it happening, because Leo men desire way too much of their partners attention. They like to be the center of your world. Aries are very fast paced, and when in love they are capable of showing their partner attention, but eventually the nagging of the Leo wanting more will get old if they are not careful to respect the Aries need for alone time and independence. So again, stop running and ignoring the obvious issue here, and address it TOGETHER.

You're so on point. I agree with you. Excellent reply.

Posted by tiki33
"He said he was afraid of commitmen"

Of course he's afraid of commitment, he picked a woman whose LEAVING, that's right up his alley being a person with commitment issues.

He's going to be on his best behavior, initiate, all that because there comes a point when it will all end and he can move on to another situation where there is an ending.

Men with commitment issues are usually very charming, on their best behavior and attentive. Why? Because there comes a point when it will end. You'll be left with wonderful memories not knowing that those memories were cultivated by a man who is temporary and behaves really great b/c it's temporary.

Sounds negative I know but men with commitment issues love situations that have an easy out, an expiration date.

Even if you stay he'll eventually grow distant and cold. Hey, What happened to that great charming guy? He's gone forever.

You make a valid point. When he told me this, I told him " Ok--you are afraid of commitment? Well, there's no sense on having such a ridiculous fear. I'll leave you alone." And then pleads, noooo noooo "that's not what I mean."

So, I don't know.

Oh they can be great pleaders and beggars, it's a very attractive to some women, what woman doesn't want the guy she's into/falling for to beg and plead for her to stay but it's all temporary.

When he grows distant, a bit aloof, cold that guy, the guy who pleads will be gone and he'll only surface when the fear that he's being abandoned presents itself.

True to form, men with commitment issues do not want to be left but they don't want to stay either. They want to be in control of whose going to leave whom and when.

You will see this for yourself, it's coming, no wait you're already experiencing the commitment issue dance...

At some point he'll get bored and leave and yet he'll still be there, he won't leave completely and at the same time he'll be absent but still manage to be there in some way or another but never be fully present and available like he used to be, it's maddening.

I suppose I'll just continue ignoring him. He already told me that 'silence kills him'. Regardless, ignoring has always been my method. Hopefully he'll survive. HA. Who am I kidding? Roar.

Get a better more informed idea what "commitment issues" him having them means for YOU and how his issues will effect you and your peace of mind.

Weigh the pros and cons so you can feel a level of control over yourself and your situation with him.

You're an Aries. A Queen Warrior so this should not be hard for you.