How does a leo guy behave when he wants to end a relationship?

I can't tell if he wants to end things or if he's just being a spoiled brat. Overall his attitude is hot and cold.
If I don't call him, he will text but not call me.
He gets very defensive when I try to express my feelings.
We set goals, but when it comes to making them happen, he doesn't put in the effort.

I think they would ignore you. And yes, they pout -- They are The Champions there. But with the pouting, the relationship is not necessarily over, he's just teaching you a lesson.

Posted by Impulsv
just stroke their ego
How great they are at ...

No.

It comes across as ass kissing, which induces pity for you.


Srsly.

Posted by Montgomery

Posted by Impulsv
just stroke their ego
How great they are at ...

No.

It comes across as ass kissing, which induces pity for you.


Srsly.

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Yea it seems like leos need to be treated with a balance of: being giving lots of attention and being ignored a bit.
If i give too much attention he seems to get bored, but when i pull away he comes running.

As i say this, it just sounds like a game that I'm not into! Is this what leos do?

Posted by Montgomery

Posted by Impulsv
just stroke their ego
How great they are at ...

No.

It comes across as ass kissing, which induces pity for you.


Srsly.

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Don't come across as fake. It just turns us off. When I was unhappy, I remember an ex just simply saying "thanks for making me laugh, that brightened my day". That kinda got the ball rolling on us putting some effort back I to the relationship.

Posted by Scorpico

Posted by Montgomery

Posted by Impulsv
just stroke their ego
How great they are at ...

No.

It comes across as ass kissing, which induces pity for you.


Srsly.

Yea it seems like leos need to be treated with a balance of: being giving lots of attention and being ignored a bit.
If i give too much attention he seems to get bored, but when i pull away he comes running.

As i say this, it just sounds like a game that I'm not into! Is this what leos do?

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Kind of like pillowfort said...

It's more about authenticity.

If you're setting goals-- idk, seems like a lot of work.

But if you just do your thing, he will come after you--

nothing wrong with that.

Let him pursue you, and through that, you will actually

end up with more control of the situation.

Posted by Montgomery

Posted by Impulsv
just stroke their ego
How great they are at ...

No.

It comes across as ass kissing, which induces pity for you.


Srsly.

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Yes.

Posted by Montgomery

Posted by Scorpico

Posted by Montgomery

Posted by Impulsv
just stroke their ego
How great they are at ...

No.

It comes across as ass kissing, which induces pity for you.


Srsly.

Yea it seems like leos need to be treated with a balance of: being giving lots of attention and being ignored a bit.
If i give too much attention he seems to get bored, but when i pull away he comes running.

As i say this, it just sounds like a game that I'm not into! Is this what leos do?

Kind of like pillowfort said...

It's more about authenticity.

If you're setting goals-- idk, seems like a lot of work.

But if you just do your thing, he will come after you--

nothing wrong with that.

Let him pursue you, and through that, you will actually

end up with more control of the situation.

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what if you tell them you'll be happy if they get you something.. n then they dont get it? no matter how long u waited? ... I know leos dont like to be demanded but dont leos like to make their partner happy?

Posted by TxOgal
what if you tell them you'll be happy if they get you something.. n then they dont get it? no matter how long u waited? ... I know leos dont like to be demanded but dont leos like to make their partner happy?

Yeaaa, thats the confusing part. They say leos will do anything to make their lovers happy,
but only when they feel like it or when they are self-satisfied.
So is it more like "They'll do anything to make their lovers happy…….when its on their terms."

Posted by Scorpico

Posted by TxOgal
what if you tell them you'll be happy if they get you something.. n then they dont get it? no matter how long u waited? ... I know leos dont like to be demanded but dont leos like to make their partner happy?

Yeaaa, thats the confusing part. They say leos will do anything to make their lovers happy,
but only when they feel like it or when they are self-satisfied.
So is it more like "They'll do anything to make their lovers happy…….when its on their terms."

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yes on their terms .. when they "feel" like it .. too bad this is only pushing me further away

Posted by Scorpico

Posted by TxOgal
what if you tell them you'll be happy if they get you something.. n then they dont get it? no matter how long u waited? ... I know leos dont like to be demanded but dont leos like to make their partner happy?

Yeaaa, thats the confusing part. They say leos will do anything to make their lovers happy,
but only when they feel like it or when they are self-satisfied.
So is it more like "They'll do anything to make their lovers happy…….when its on their terms."

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Well yeah, making others happy on your own terms is the only healthy approach. Most ppl can't give to others what they themselves don't have. That goes especially for inner peace.

I'm betting it has nothing to do with you. Maybe he's unhappy about where he is in his life, or where he's headed. Maybe he's going through a life-crisis of some sort. A miserable Leo is not good for himself or anyone else.

Contrary to popular belief stroking his mane is not gonna help either.. leos do actually have personalities too

Posted by enfant_terrible

Posted by Scorpico

Posted by TxOgal
what if you tell them you'll be happy if they get you something.. n then they dont get it? no matter how long u waited? ... I know leos dont like to be demanded but dont leos like to make their partner happy?

Yeaaa, thats the confusing part. They say leos will do anything to make their lovers happy,
but only when they feel like it or when they are self-satisfied.
So is it more like "They'll do anything to make their lovers happy…….when its on their terms."

Well yeah, making others happy on your own terms is the only healthy approach. Most ppl can't give to others what they themselves don't have. That goes especially for inner peace.

I'm betting it has nothing to do with you. Maybe he's unhappy about where he is in his life, or where he's headed. Maybe he's going through a life-crisis of some sort. A miserable Leo is not good for himself or anyone else.

Contrary to popular belief stroking his mane is not gonna help either.. leos do actually have personalities too

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I can agree with you. He does have a lot going on in the life.
I have to remember not to always take it personally, when it feels so personal.

When leos are miserable and down on themselves what do they need to get them out of it?

I have no idea. I don't know him, he's a person first and foremost. Maybe it's nothing deep and profound, I mean he could just be an emotionally inconsistant bitch who doesn't have real problems. He could be riding your ass bc you let him: I'm the first one to admit that one of leo's less charming sides is the tendency to take ppl for granted. Maybe he's a hunter and now that he's got his gazelle he just ain't too happy about the prospects of growing a pout-belly.

Or maybe you're asking too much of him and being unreasonable considering whatever it is his body and mind is preoccupied with at this point in his/your lives?

Have you actually asked/expressed your concerns to him? Has anyone asked you about your moon signs yet? Maybe your mercury is more relevant in this case..

While we're riding the leo train, I'm not ruling out you did or said something that short-circuited him but that he refuses to address or talk about... which leaves sulking the only way left to cope with it. Leos can be pretty self-sabotaging but that doesn't mean he wants things to end. Could be he's a cub that hasn't yet properly learned to use the tools life has given him..

Posted by enfant_terrible
I have no idea. I don't know him, he's a person first and foremost. Maybe it's nothing deep and profound, I mean he could just be an emotionally inconsistant bitch who doesn't have real problems. He could be riding your ass bc you let him: I'm the first one to admit that one of leo's less charming sides is the tendency to take ppl for granted. Maybe he's a hunter and now that he's got his gazelle he just ain't too happy about the prospects of growing a pout-belly.

Or maybe you're asking too much of him and being unreasonable considering whatever it is his body and mind is preoccupied with at this point in his/your lives?

Have you actually asked/expressed your concerns to him? Has anyone asked you about your moon signs yet? Maybe your mercury is more relevant in this case..

lol well said. I'm a woman, Of course I've asked him! 🙂 His answer varies. He usually says "nothings wrong, i'm fine" but eventuallyyyyy reveals he has a lot going on in his life. Which is understandable. When he eventually communicates that to me I become more supportive. But a girl can only take so much sulkiness, especially when nothing i do makes it better. And I do often feel taken for granted. Honestly, I can see that I'm asking a lot of him, I tend to take relationship seriously, BUT ONLY BECAUSE of the way he approached the relationship. He was all in, very open, ready to start a future together, then when I eventually came on board, I started to see this other side, lately more often then not. I'm starting to just focus more on myself and let him do him. I just don't want to end up in a relationship that drags on for years because no one actually says "lets break up."

I don't know my moon, I'll have to get back to ya on that

Posted by enfant_terrible
While we're riding the leo train, I'm not ruling out you did or said something that short-circuited him but that he refuses to address or talk about... which leaves sulking the only way left to cope with it. Leos can be pretty self-sabotaging but that doesn't mean he wants things to end. Could be he's a cub that hasn't yet properly learned to use the tools life has given him..

Lol yeas…that happens for sure.
I'm pretty blunt sometimes, on top of being sarcastic.

Posted by busyeyes88
Why wait for him to end the relationship with you.

Call him out on his bad behaviour and end it with him?!!!

I could never sit and wait for someone to end it with me!! Lol lol that's weird!!

I didn't read it as her wanting to end it, but her wondering if she's investing too much into something that he's not fully on board with.

Posted by Scorpico
lol well said. I'm a woman, Of course I've asked him! 🙂 His answer varies. He usually says "nothings wrong, i'm fine" but eventuallyyyyy reveals he has a lot going on in his life. Which is understandable. When he eventually communicates that to me I become more supportive. But a girl can only take so much sulkiness, especially when nothing i do makes it better. And I do often feel taken for granted.

Maybe he's naturally prone towards negativity and what you saw once was just a freak occurance. In which case you're simply not compatible and he needs to find himself a Cap chick, lol

It could be that he's just stuck in a negative loop bc as you say there's "a lot going on in his life" and needs some support and understanding to get out of it. And by that I don't mean asking him if everything is ok based on whatever the problem seems to be today, but rather addressing the big pic, where you see yourself heading or not heading with him depending on.. well, him and his attitude and whether it is temporary or just the way he copes with life.

Open the communication channels by showing him this thread 😛

Posted by Scorpico

/> Lol yeas…that happens for sure.
I'm pretty blunt sometimes, on top of being sarcastic.

Sarcasm doesn't sit well with me either tbh. It's just the lowest form of communication, be it during arguments or just trying to be clever/funny. I'm really good at it myself unfortunately..


Some food for thought:

"Everyone has someone in their life—possibly a boss, colleague, friend or parent who loves sarcastic, passive aggressive, barbed modes of communication. They love to ‘tease’ and think sarcasm is well-meaning. However, new research says that sarcasm is merely thinly veiled meanness. In fact, a recent study shows that teasers usually believe their words are less hurtful than their victim thinks. The dictionary defines Sarcasm as: “The use of irony to mock or convey contempt” Sarcasm is a simply a way of covering contempt or hate."


~ http://www.scienceofpeople.com/2011/12/sarcasm-why-it-hurts-us/