I F-CKED UP AGAIN!! :-(

As the title says, I f-cked up again.. Whats wrong with me. I got this good guy and I keep f-cking up.

I called him twice wednesday, he didnt pick up or call back. he texted me yesterday, I called him and we kind of got in to an argument, because I was like "I bet you were with another girl".. he got so angry over this, and said, why do you think im cheating on you bla bla. dont punish me for the mistakes of an x... I feel like you are trying to control me, i dont like it, i dont feel the need to call you everyday bla bla..

and he is right.. Im just so in love, and so afraid of losing him that I act like an idiot, really...

at the end of our conversation he said, "after this phone call and you accusing me, i dont feel the same about you, i dont like this side of you. I dont like you anymore" wow, that hurt.. But i guess i deserve it.

Did his feelings really change over this argument, or is he just mad? 😢

I asked him, do you never wanna see me again, and he said i dont wanna answer that question.. we had a date saturday - today, and he said, the way im feeling right now, i dont wanna see you tomorrow.

I can see that its my fault, so i texted him today saying "im sorry for the way i reacted yesterday, i have been thinking about what you said, and you were right. i dont like that side about my self either, i really wanna change, and i promise it wont happend again." he havent answered yet.. been 5 hours... maybe he never will.. I dont know.
maybe he needs some time to think it through..

I recently found out that he is a leo-virgo cusp, i really dont know what that means, his birthday is 21. august...

Im really embarrassed to come to this forum, and writing this, because I know its my fault, and that I act weird sometimes...

what do you think?

btw.. i didnt even know we were in a relationship, he said "if you do this so early in the relationship, how will you react in 2 or 3 months"...

sorry for my english, Im not so good.

TBH, If someone said that to me i'd get the fuck right out of their lives. You have got to cool down your responses to him, its all coming from emotion, you are letting your emotions run you. Can you step back from him and give him space so he can start breathing and think about what he wants from you - and at the same time you could be thinking what you want from him. The more afraid you are of losing him the quicker you will lose him. He can smell fear. You are too early into a relationship to be having this angst, why can't you just enjoy the time you have together, seeing or talking to someone everyday is for committed relationships. People have lives, if he doesn't respond to you just assume he is living his and go do the same, he would have gotten back to you, as he did.

Leo / Virgo cusper - my ex virgo is one too. he will be hugely affronted by the accusation, and his head rules everything (the one on his neck that is) so he will be thinking with that, his heart won't come into it. You've a double dose of pride there with that mix. And yes, he will say things to hurt you if you have accused him of this, they have cutting tongues - you may be deleted already.

You can see what you are doing to push him away, you now need to start acting on it otherwise no point in seeing it.

I don't know about other Leos but yes I can close off myself suddenly at least I can present it very convincingly; no drama or games, it's just not every thing is worth fighting for ? so why should I bother ?

Listen girl, you need sometime with yourself. Why don't you just take a break from dating ritual and focus on yourself. what sort of fulfillment you can get from a relationship if you are clingy, weak, suspicious and unhappy within yourself, you 'd incur more misery for you and drive others away .

BTW don't be embarrased to come and ask for help - its a great way of growing - and we all fuck up, we wouldn't be human otherwise. If further opportunity is afforded to you with this guy, and you want it, bring your Libra charms out, they work wonders on leos 🙂 Just leave wherever you are getting the jealousy and suspicion at home.

Thank You both of you 🙂
When we are together we are so good, there is this amazing chemistry between us, we get along very good. and Im not jealous or suspicious when we are together. its just on the phone 😢

I really hope he contacts me, because i really regret it.. And he knows that, because i apologized.

btw. his venus is in virgo too..

Posted by thisLIBRAgirl
Thank You both of you 🙂
When we are together we are so good, there is this amazing chemistry between us, we get along very good. and Im not jealous or suspicious when we are together. its just on the phone 😢

Then avoid chatting on phone 😛
Seriously, try to minimize you conversation via phone/text; there is something about dismembered voice, which either make people ( like me ) clam shut or sort of make them dizzy and they do run amok with all the emotions.

It's best to talk face to face.🙂

Yeah, thats what Im planning on doing if he ever respond to my message.. 😢

i dunno if libra ladies are capable of suppressing this kind of behaviour...the ones i know certainly aren't.

the leo i've been talking about is a leo/virgo cusper too and he is very proud of the fact he has never cheated and very vocal about disliking jealousy (despite having tendancies himself).

i think these guys need women who are confident and without insecurities. their natural behaviour would piss a lot of women off if they are the jealous types so in that respect they're not for the faint-hearted.

i wouldn't offer any more apology than you have cos this is one of those things that you have to show over time that you've changed from and sorries become empty very quickly when you're continually accused of something you haven't done. i'm sure if you lay low, he'll be in touch and then you can sort it out face to face as suggested 🙂

Hold up. Wait minute. U were not wrong per say. You probably should not have jumped to any conclusions. I am going to say this once and for all. If a man loves you, he should talk to you everyday. He should need to know how you feel, are you ok, do you need anything. With all the advances in technology there is really no excuse not to. We really have to stop blaming ourselves for another persons poor manners, judgement , lack of etiquette. I would send him a text that simply says " u don't deserve me" and then blacklist him. Download the app it's $ .99. Well worth it.

@R1g. I hope so...


@Nala13.. I see your point, but we have only been together for 3 months, so its not like he loves me...yet ... and he is the type of person who doesnt need to talk to his woman everyday.... thats what he says.

"I recently found out that he is a leo-virgo cusp, i really dont know what that means, his birthday is 21. august..."


@ thisLIBRAgirl

I have been focus on my case with that asexual Leo, and I remember you had left comment in my thread.

You Leo was born on Aug. 21—!!! It is the exact B'date of my Leo neighbor who has been going after me since last year. I can tell you something from my experience...hope it would be useful for you.

He had asked me to go out on the first weekend after I moved in my apartment, but I rejected him from the beginning...on this New Year Day, he asked me to marry him...btw we never have "sexual" relationship.

I don't think you need to know the details of my story, and I just want to give you some general suggestion:

1, If you have a great "sexual" relationship with a Leo guy (or regardless "sign"), you may think he should love you... furthermore, he should commit himself to you, etc. But it may NEVER happen as the way you want...because guys can easily get great "sexual" relationship with any woman they want...NO big deal at all So don't put your "hope" on how great "sexual" relationship you two have had.

2, Be independent always......emotionally & spiritually & physically.........because your own happiness should depend on yourself only!!! Otherwise, sooner or later, you would get upset, disappointed, depressed from your partner...

3, Be confident always.......never lower yourself to please a man!!! If he is into you, then he should please you first...no matter if he is a Leo. Do NOT feed Leo's ego for "free"!!!

4, Create more interests for yourself, so you can live with a fullest life on your own. This is the best way to keep yourself NOT sticking on a guy, and also to attract "him" close to you.

Good Luck!!! 😄

If he's a Leo... Don't lose too much sleep. He will come back. We generally do not stay angry for very long. Just stop with the pity party I think that might turn him off. It would certainly rub me the wrong way. You apologized. That's all you can do.

@luckystar... thank you sweety, that helped alot, even tho i know some of these things, its Nice that someone from the outside to point Them out for me :-) how is it going with your asexuel Leo?


@nala13.... he actually called me last Night.... He wanna meet up and talk about it. His words: "its nor fair to both of us to talk about this on the phone, we misunderstand eachother and say things we dont mean"

And thanks alot all of you ! :-)

That's great - especially as he is acknowledging that you two need to communicate in a different way, it show maturity on his part and that he has been giving this some thought. Just start to relax now, he would not be back if he didn't like you so just keep on remembering that. Ease back and give him space to get to know you. Its very early days for you two and he has no need to be calling you and keeping in touch on a daily basis, that's for a much longer term relationship, just enjoy getting to know each other and keep paranoia out of things.

Posted by thisLIBRAgirl
@luckystar... thank you sweety, that helped alot, even tho i know some of these things, its Nice that someone from the outside to point Them out for me :-) how is it going with your asexuel Leo?

I know that Libra girls are very smart...I believe you can play it very well... 😉

the asexual Leo...I will leave him alone for a while...see what is going on...I am not very serious with him. 😛