Say It or Show It

So I am in a 3 year relationship with a Capricorn male. I am Leo Sun- Scorpio Moon -Scorpio Asc and Venus in Virgo. Not that you asked. 🙂 It has not been easy. Initally, I was so smitten with this Capricorn because he is the opposite of me. We are the same age. He had about $ 7,000 in his savings account. I had $ 7.00. He has had 2 sex partners and I have had...um....moving on. He eats so healthy. I would eat Cheeseburgers for breakfast if I didn't think I would get lectured. We met online....yes corny but hey. So after a month we had our first meeting. He showed up with a really expensive gift and left the receipt in the bag. I was more interested in the receipt than the gift. Yes, I am a mess I know. So he is the put your money where your mouth is kind of guy. I pretty much get anything I want and even some things I don't. After dating so many broke losers , this was a welcomed change. The problem, he never expresses emotions. Now, I am not the most emotional peson in the world but he is almost androidish. Recently, I have found myself a little jealous of my co-worker whose boyfriend calls her 6 times a day just to talk, check in, say I love you and all that jazz. She is not doing so well financially and he doesn't seem to help. However, I do not know his financial situation.

Assuming, that you could not have a healthy balance of both, would you prefer someone to say it or show it?

Show it in a practical ,quiet and no nonsense manner; I was raised by a Cap man. That's how I like it.

Thanks ladies...If I had to use one word to describe him , it would indeed be practical as you say Shah. Yes, WL he cooks, cleans goes to the grocery store. When I am sick he stands over me with medicine like drink this or drink that. He tells me I eat too much butter. LOL I love bread and butter. However, getting hugs and kisses is just not something he does on a regular basis. On Valentines Day, I walked through the door and he was holding the most beautiful bouquet in his arms. He smiled, handed it to me and went to watch TV. Lol thats him. He is so consistent. Maybe thats what I need because I am pretty flighty.

Posted by Nala13
When I am sick he stands over me with medicine like drink this or drink that.
On Valentines Day, I walked through the door and he was holding the most beautiful bouquet in his arms. He smiled, handed it to me and went to watch TV. Lol thats him.
He is so consistent. .

Don't let him go , ever; you are blessed, do you know that ?

I don't know guys. I would like for one day to walk through the door and him to jump on me with hugs and kisses. "sigh" that will never ever happen. I once said" why don't u tell me that you love me" He replied " you don't know it" I said " yes I know it" He said " then I don't need to say it"... Double Sigh.. I am a Leo woman I need praises and compliments and all that other stuff. I did that 5 Love Language quiz and my Love Language was "words of affirmation".

words are just words, eventually they don't mean much. A person can shower compliments and praises on you all day long without even meaning a single word; would you like it ?
A long mushy talk on phone, or a sensible person who is practically there to take care of you in your sickness??

But then of course, you have your own requirements and standards so you must follow them.

Well from my experience with my now estranged father (which as we know effects our future relationships regardless of sexuality) I always had gotten gifts when he never showed up or blew me off to go get high.

He owns his own company and is successful, but is also a heroin addict.

I'd rather be financially poor. My current spouse sometimes falls into the habit of gifts after he's 'made a boo boo', but he knows that the act plucks a chord in the darkest lobes of my brain and heart.

Nice to meet you 🙂

There's another Leo/Scorpion Moon with Scorpion Ascending that will pop up on this thread soon 😛 I'm also Leo/Scorpio Moon with Virgo in Venus. Leo Rising.

My Capricorn mother is the same way when I'm sick. 🙂

Posted by sheathedclaws

I'd rather be financially poor. My current spouse sometimes falls into the habit of gifts after he's 'made a boo boo', but he knows that the act plucks a chord in the darkest lobes of my brain and heart.

My Capricorn mother is the same way when I'm sick. 🙂

Sheathed

You both look so good together 🙂

Now I too want to post a picture of me and my aqua,

Gosh----I am such a copy cat 🙂

Hi Sheathed nice to meet you as well. I wonder if we act alike —?

I don't want to sound ungrateful because I am not. I do know that words mean very little without action. I always tell women, if a man's words and action's contradict each other. Go with actions 100 % of the time. I use to date a cancer who would say I love you all the time then ask to borrow $ 20.00.

I just wish I could get him to do something unpractical and spontaneous. I suppose I could have much more serious complaints.

I once read on a site that although Leos and Caps are not the most compatiable,. Cap me are probably the only sign that can give Leo woman the life that she has always dreamed of. I assumed they were talking about gifts and the such.

I really want to get rid of this jealousy thing I have going on. Leo/Scorpio and Jealousy is dangerous ground for me. I will act on it ...one way or another.

I really appreciate all the advice. I really don't talk to my friends. I am super private I mean Howard Hughes private. Lol I find that my friends get a little peeved when I don't follow their advice in matters of the heart so I simpley don't go there.

Oh I have did that a time or 2. He just loves it. He starts laughing and says " whats up with you". Then I say I missed you and he says "oh" or "ok" gives me a kiss and then goes to do whatever it is he is doing. I love him. I really do. He can write or text I love you but he just can't really say it to my face. He is just very serious. He says he has always been that way. At first I thought it was a cultural difference as he is not American but I don't think so. Its definately a Cap thing.

So far I think we have;

2 -for say it
1 -for show it

Showing it is the a very important thing, actions do speak louder than words, HOWEVER as leo's we love and need words, so its important for us to hear it too, perhaps more than other signs - I always think you should show another person how you love them by the way they need to be shown - so its important for both partners to find out what the other needs - I think it is very selfish to say (with or without words) to a person you are supposed to love "well this is the way I show I love you" isn't it better to say "how would you like me to show you i love you" and then act on this.

Show it - the way they need
Say it - the way they need

Yes, Celtic I tried to talk to my other friends about it and they are like...you are crazy, I wish I had a man to take care of me". I figured it must be the Leo in me then. It overrides the woman in me. Lol. I really need to hear it.

Posted by Nala13
Yes, Celtic I tried to talk to my other friends about it and they are like...you are crazy, I wish I had a man to take care of me". I figured it must be the Leo in me then. It overrides the woman in me. Lol. I really need to hear it.

There ain't nothing more woman than a Lioness, baby 😉

You don't sound ungrateful. Actually, if you were satisfied with just the material things then I'd be worried. If you hold no expectations then you're not living to the fullest, just make sure to meet him halfway to take his hand in yours for the last leg of the marathon.

Capricorns and Leos do hold somewhat of an upward battle, but I believe Scorpion Moons add something to the puzzle. I'm only speaking from experience from friendships and family members. And thinking about it.. most of my 'somewhat close' current friends are Capricorns.

I have none that I'm comfortable to confide in as well.. besides my cat. Hah.

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Posted by sheathedclaws

I'd rather be financially poor. My current spouse sometimes falls into the habit of gifts after he's 'made a boo boo', but he knows that the act plucks a chord in the darkest lobes of my brain and heart.

My Capricorn mother is the same way when I'm sick. 🙂

Sheathed

You both look so good together 🙂

Now I too want to post a picture of me and my aqua,

Gosh----I am such a copy cat 🙂

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Aww thank you! We were having fun pretending to be pompous with my webcam special effects 😄 I'm holding an imaginary micro teacup. I'm a goober. 😛

There's nothing to 'copy cat'! Don't be silly - you're a unique creature, my dear.. and we would be honored to see what a smashing pair you and Mr. Aqua make. 🙂

Posted by celticlioness
Showing it is the a very important thing, actions do speak louder than words, HOWEVER as leo's we love and need words, so its important for us to hear it too, perhaps more than other signs - I always think you should show another person how you love them by the way they need to be shown - so its important for both partners to find out what the other needs - I think it is very selfish to say (with or without words) to a person you are supposed to love "well this is the way I show I love you" isn't it better to say "how would you like me to show you i love you" and then act on this.

Show it - the way they need
Say it - the way they need

Agreed.

Was with a cap man for 3.5 years. He did everything right, his way. Showing me he loved me through actions and gestures and also $ $ $ lol and me, through poetic words and dramatic actions of sorts that he learns to appreciate. But there has to be a mutual understanding for the way that you work, because it is crucial at points where you may be quarreling and one exact action or behaviour could lead to a large disappointment to one party, simply because this isn't understood. It isn't selfish, but necessary for these two different signs to understand each other well enough 🙂

I dunno anything anymore lol. My Leo has returned full force, and got quite upset at me last night.
He basically said I never take control, I don't go after what I want (with him) and made several analogies about wanting something, and going for it.
Being an Aries, I'm usually aggressive and really attack my prey, but in a good way...this time I was letting HIM take control because, well, I figured if HE did something, it's because he wanted to, ya know?

I suppose this isn't good enough for him, so now since I'm doubly afraid, I have to suck it up and go with my gut and go after him a little bit more, in terms of affection, and intentions.
He has a point, I just sit there and wait for him to make the moves, instead of acting on what I'm feeling at the current moment. Ladies (and gentleman) take my advice and don't let that opportunity pass, you will regret it later.
Show that person you care, in every way possible, no one can read your mind, right?

Hey WL,

I am good. How are u? How is your Cap? Mine is just being his usual Cappy self. I got a text message that said "how much are your monthly bills"? I didn't respond. I imagine he was waiting to write a check of some sort since I have been acting rather "leoish" as of late. Nope I am not falling for it. He knows me too well. I went and bought a pair of polka dot heels yesterday. Made me feel better.

Have you tried calling him? Mine would not call quite often. I finally realized that it was not personal with him. He really has a one track mind and when he i working he is really working. I went on with my life and then he would come back as IF nothing happened. In his mind nothing happene !! LOL. I do not think they are very capable of multi tasking. I don't know all the intimate details of your relationship with him so I do not want to encourage you to do something that you may later regret. However, sending a text might not be too bad.

Oh gosh no crying and driving, please! That's a waste of energy for fluid mechanics. (hah.. that also made absolutely no sense.....)

I actually understood it. Yikes !!

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Posted by sheathedclaws
Oh gosh no crying and driving, please! That's a waste of energy for fluid mechanics. (hah.. that also made absolutely no sense.....)

Nonsensical yes. But it did make me laugh! 🙂

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Yaay!

Show it! I have had enough with the damn talk.

SAY IT AND SHOW IT......I WANT BOTH!!!!

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SAY IT AND SHOW IT......I WANT BOTH!!!!

Posted by ShahBano
Show it in a practical ,quiet and no nonsense manner; I was raised by a Cap man. That's how I like it.

Me too!

They love tirelessly and they won't let you down.

Ever.

I'm bumping this thread for 2 reasons:

1) The topic is a good one, and I'd like to see what the newer Leos on the board have to say.

2) PuraLeo asked a question and she might find this thread helpful.

Posted by Nala13
So I am in a 3 year relationship with a Capricorn male. I am Leo Sun- Scorpio Moon -Scorpio Asc and Venus in Virgo. Not that you asked. 🙂 It has not been easy. Initally, I was so smitten with this Capricorn because he is the opposite of me. We are the same age. He had about $ 7,000 in his savings account. I had $ 7.00. He has had 2 sex partners and I have had...um....moving on. He eats so healthy. I would eat Cheeseburgers for breakfast if I didn't think I would get lectured. We met online....yes corny but hey. So after a month we had our first meeting. He showed up with a really expensive gift and left the receipt in the bag. I was more interested in the receipt than the gift. Yes, I am a mess I know. So he is the put your money where your mouth is kind of guy. I pretty much get anything I want and even some things I don't. After dating so many broke losers , this was a welcomed change. The problem, he never expresses emotions. Now, I am not the most emotional peson in the world but he is almost androidish. Recently, I have found myself a little jealous of my co-worker whose boyfriend calls her 6 times a day just to talk, check in, say I love you and all that jazz. She is not doing so well financially and he doesn't seem to help. However, I do not know his financial situation.

Assuming, that you could not have a healthy balance of both, would you prefer someone to say it or show it?

is he a cap moon? i think it's harder for leo more than any other sign, to have a partner who is not expressive. i do think, if he's shows his affection greatly that it makes up for his lack in words, then you should be fine.
just, don't lose yourself. meaning, if he doesn't say it, you say it 😉
as for the financial status, consider yourself super lucky girl! 🙂

Posted by SpiceNSugar
I'm bumping this thread for 2 reasons:

1) The topic is a good one, and I'd like to see what the newer Leos on the board have to say.

2) PuraLeo asked a question and she might find this thread helpful.

Holy, Crap~

How sweet are you! Yes, always looking for insight here. It's said that if Caps and Leos understand each other's needs it'll make things smoother- and showing vs. telling seems to be a sticking point for some of us..

I'm lucky I guess. Mine has a Scorpio Venus. But I'm wondering if I can rely on Leo independence to override those moments when I want him to be more expressive? It makes me roar with happiness when he is 😉

PuraLeo, have a look at what I just wrote on the sounding board. The fight was with a Cap.