Is this leo guy after lust or love?

So I am a Taurus in my twenties and randomly met a Leo guy (1 year older than me) online. We talk everyday through text and calls (we talk for hours every night from 4-8 hrs even one night we talked for 10 hrs on the phone) we both are very attracted and enjoy talking alot. He flirts all the time and sweet talking me (which a Taurus like me doesnt find it genuine) but he said he is not normally pouring his heart out like this and it is his first time he feels so attracted to a girl to the extent that he said he can't live without me. I get to know him better everyday and he wants to meet when i get back to the city (after a month).

Here's the thing, he knows I just left my boyfriend (Cancer) 2 weeks before I met the Leo, and I told him this is strange bec. I am still sad about it and normally I wouldn't want to talk to anyone. He reassured me and said he is glad he is there for me on my bad days and that I should always be happy. I truly feel he is honest and such a respectful person and I admire his character (smart, funny, so caring, sexy.. etc). But I feel that it is too early for me to feel all these emotions and sometimes I act like I'm into him like when he asks if I missed him 😢 I lie and tell him what he wants to hear. I can't get over my ex completely at least not before a few months.. and I dont want to lead him on (the Leo guy). I tried talking with him about this and that I find it weird and he is very open and understanding, we can discuss anything, but then starts being so loving. I am sure I am not in love with him. I am only enjoying the friendship with its good sexual vibes. Is he lusting? Is he serious at all about a long-term relationship? (he never brought it up) How do I tell him to stop the loving softly?

Him: Aqua moon, Virgo mercury, Virgo venus, Virgo Mars
Me: Scorpio moon, Taurus mercury, Aries venus, Pisces Mars

I only know the Leo for 2 weeks

Posted by champranger
"sometimes I act like I'm into him like when he asks if I missed him I lie and tell him what he wants to hear."

Why?

I was so vulnerable in the beginning and I did miss him but after 2 weeks I felt like I shoild wake up from this and just these past couple of days, I feel nothing for him. I do care about him thoungh and dont wish to hurt his feelings. That's why

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Posted by TxOgal
I do care about him thoungh and dont wish to hurt his feelings.

Because you don't want to lose the friendship as a result of his hurt feelings?

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yes sure! he is one of a kind and I hardly ever find someone who shares my same values and sometimes I feel that both of us notice the same little things in life that many others I met fail to understand. I do want to keep him, but him being overly affectionate is kinda scaring me.

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Posted by TxOgal
I do care about him thoungh and dont wish to hurt his feelings.

Because you don't want to lose the friendship as a result of his hurt feelings?

yes sure! he is one of a kind and I hardly ever find someone who shares my same values and sometimes I feel that both of us notice the same little things in life that many others I met fail to understand. I do want to keep him, but him being overly affectionate is kinda scaring me.

Is it possible to keep talking to him as a friend, but let your actions show that you're not interested? Like don't meet up with him? Or see other people and ask him for advice?

But don't pretend. It will only make him think you're interested, when you are not.

IMO 🙂

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I believe ur right.. pretending is never my thing and I feel terribly guilty 😢 I already started talking less... I think he will understand me.

is there a subtle way to let him know? Nothinh has changed so far and I cant ignore his lovely words out of respect 😢

how do u tell a leo u dont want his affection??

yesterday he asked me cant we be friends with benefits and I told him no we cant. Either friends or not.. but he's still affectionate and sweet! ugh..

any help?

Posted by TxOgal
is there a subtle way to let him know? Nothinh has changed so far and I cant ignore his lovely words out of respect 😢

how do u tell a leo u dont want his affection??

yesterday he asked me cant we be friends with benefits and I told him no we cant. Either friends or not.. but he's still affectionate and sweet! ugh..

any help?

hi. i suggest that you tell him directly. he is a leo after all. and also, stop with being sweet, he will see it as a cue for continuing what he is doing. 🙂

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Posted by TxOgal
is there a subtle way to let him know? Nothinh has changed so far and I cant ignore his lovely words out of respect 😢

how do u tell a leo u dont want his affection??

yesterday he asked me cant we be friends with benefits and I told him no we cant. Either friends or not.. but he's still affectionate and sweet! ugh..

any help?

hi. i suggest that you tell him directly. he is a leo after all. and also, stop with being sweet, he will see it as a cue for continuing what he is doing. 🙂

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yes I should stop being sweet and he'll probably mirror my actions ... let's see

Posted by TxOgal
So I am a Taurus in my twenties and randomly met a Leo guy (1 year older than me) online. We talk everyday through text and calls (we talk for hours every night from 4-8 hrs even one night we talked for 10 hrs on the phone) we both are very attracted and enjoy talking alot. He flirts all the time and sweet talking me (which a Taurus like me doesnt find it genuine) but he said he is not normally pouring his heart out like this and it is his first time he feels so attracted to a girl to the extent that he said he can't live without me. I get to know him better everyday and he wants to meet when i get back to the city (after a month).

Here's the thing, he knows I just left my boyfriend (Cancer) 2 weeks before I met the Leo, and I told him this is strange bec. I am still sad about it and normally I wouldn't want to talk to anyone. He reassured me and said he is glad he is there for me on my bad days and that I should always be happy. I truly feel he is honest and such a respectful person and I admire his character (smart, funny, so caring, sexy.. etc). But I feel that it is too early for me to feel all these emotions and sometimes I act like I'm into him like when he asks if I missed him 😢 I lie and tell him what he wants to hear. I can't get over my ex completely at least not before a few months.. and I dont want to lead him on (the Leo guy). I tried talking with him about this and that I find it weird and he is very open and understanding, we can discuss anything, but then starts being so loving. I am sure I am not in love with him. I am only enjoying the friendship with its good sexual vibes. Is he lusting? Is he serious at all about a long-term relationship? (he never brought it up) How do I tell him to stop the loving softly?

Him: Aqua moon, Virgo mercury, Virgo venus, Virgo Mars
Me: Scorpio moon, Taurus mercury, Aries venus, Pisces Mars

I think you're right not to believe everything he says. Yall haven't even met yet. You don't even know yet if you have chemistry or not. How can he know whether he can or can't live without you? Kind of screams red flag to me.

Be honest about your feelings for your ex. Tell him he is moving way too fast and this concerns you.

Posted by truecap


I think you're right not to believe everything he says. Yall haven't even met yet. You don't even know yet if you have chemistry or not. How can he know whether he can or can't live without you? Kind of screams red flag to me.

Be honest about your feelings for your ex. Tell him he is moving way too fast and this concerns you.

Leos can be dramatic and all that. He can say that, you know, just for the idea that he wants her in his life. Though yes, he is moving waaaaaaaay too fast. This Lion must have seen really something in her for him to do this.

Her ex's attitude has a billboard sign on his forehead 'I AM INDECISIVE'. You should read it. https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/cancer/cancer-ex-boyfriend-texting-me-5030552/

He got the sign that I backed off a bit. He even told me he's been wondering whether to say he missed me or not cause he might better try to hold back his emotions. I told him directly that we should stop with the sexual stuff and he agreed only if it will make me feel comfortable and actually so far he followed through his words, which is respectful 🙂 and last night I told him that I don't normally accept flirting and sweet talkingmuch.. and he said he will feel awkward not saying that to me cause it's what he feels and it is his nature to say what he feels just like that. I still dont know how to make him stop the sweet talking.. seems impossible. Maybe I shouldnt take his flirting seriously and block my heart from him? if that is possible .. :/

Posted by DarkFire
No lie you'll probably eventually lose him due to

1 Not accepting him for who he is

2 Trying to change the person he is

3 Not enjoying his sweet/loving side

It seems your the type that doesn't want a romantic/ sweet talking partner, and eventually he will get tired of that and find someone who is. It's sad really because I can tell you obviously like him but that alone isn't enough to keep him.

I broke up with the only Leo girl I dated just for not likening to cuddle. Seriously, thats all it took for me to not like her anymore.

you're right, we do like eachother and both of us expressed it. I do not want to be his partner, I did not meet him and so far I can tell we have different living standards so I dont want to rush in. Plus I cant be sure if I really like him this way since I juat broke up so it is very confusing 😢 I do enjoy his sweet taking alot but i dont like how this is pulling me more into him. It's truly Scary! .. you're right about accepting him though.. maybe I should only change myself like shield my heart from this.

I still have no idea how to pull the brakes on this leo guy. He said he cant stop the flirting..etc one day he'd try to stop himself and the other day he just acts like we are a couple. It is so confusing.. we are not even in a relationship. Last night he asked to meet again and I could feel it hurt his ego that I told him im not sure about meeting him and that im not ready yet. Any idea how to makr him stop? .. one day i was so upwet n he apologized to me and said he will really do whatever i ask from him (eg: no flirting or phonesex..etc) .. but i ended up forgiving him.

I am so at loss... any help?

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If I were you I would just be completely open up and tell him how you feel. The downfall with a Taurus and Leo is communication. I have been with one for almost three years and I am a Taurus! Just communicate with him, let him know you would love to get to know him more, you just want to take it slow because you still have feelings for your ex. It never hurts to be truthful. If he cares about you he will respect that. Most Leos are very practical and understanding. It might hurt his ego a bit because it sounds like he is into you, but he'll get over it.

It seems like your a little stuck or confused. I would either give yourself some time to get over the relationship with your Cancer, and then when you're ready start talking to the Leo again. Or just tell the Leo you two need to end things. Because in a way you're leading him on a bit by lying to him about your feelings because you're truly still a little bit attached to your ex emotionally.

Whatever you do fellow Taurus I am sure you'll do the right thing! We are very practical and logical in situations like these! Just let the Leo know your true feelings, and I am sure everything will fall into place. And if after you express your inner feelings the Leo keeps on with his flirting and sexual talk he probably doesn't care about your emotions and he probably does want to just sleep with you. Goodluck xx

well I try to communicate this with him and what i thought is special between me n him is that he truly gets me and many times i told him about things so openly.. n he accepted them and was soconsiderate.. when u thought he wud get mad or upset, but he is very understanding! .. He decided to come to the city im in (3 hrs away) and he is coming on sunday.. He asked me if i want to see him before he books the hotel..etc and i told him i want to see him! (for other intentions.. i want to see him to know if those feelings r true or am i fantasizing about him.. Im not even sure of my feelings towards him.. its crazy) but i didnt tell him that of course.. I think things should get clearer after we meet ..and i wont sleep with him for sure! I'll keep u updated.

Update: So I met the leo guy and it waa great! He was planning to stay in the city im in for 2 days but he ended up staying for 6 days and if circumstances allowed us, he would have stayed for more 🙂 but I had ppl in my house n i couldnt go out with him after those amazing 6 days.. We still talk everyday since he left and I hate that I got even more attached to him and he feels the same way. I didnt think of making out with him but from the first day we slightly kissed and the other days we couldnt stop touching eachother (no sex though) I never really made out with a guy, neither him made out with any girl before (we r both virgins) but it seemed so natural when we were together .. its strange!

I decided to see him for a couple more months until I really know much more about him.. I usually figure out a guy after 4 months, knowing all his good n bad sides.. Honestly I feel much love for the leo and wish to give us a chance, even though I know our life style s dont match so well and living standard I think.. I told him a couple of times Im still not totally over my ex and told him a secret about me that i loathed.. and he still treats me the same way..

P.S. the last day we met, I told him we have to stop talking for a week so I an figure out my feelings towards him.. eventhough he was so not convinced.. he told me he cant do it but in the end he said he'll do what i want but he wont be feeling comfortable .. that night i figured i cant stop talking to him for a whole week..and i should figure out myself on my own and dont have to mess things up .. so we continued talking till today

how do i know if hes serious about me? he never brought up any plans for committment (unlike any other guy i been with.. who talked about committment from the first month) .. love without a target is meaningless

I worked thru the fraud squad.. Seriously don't give anything of urself online - even if they Skype u - with so called family and friends - Until u meet him u don't know..

Sounds promising hold off on having sex - it clouds judgement --- he will respect u more however if he does not wait (he's not worth it)