Leo and I

I have not been on these boards for a while. I don't normally stop by the Leo board because I rarely meet Leos but this leo got me thinking a lot about him.

I met the Leo (DOB - 8/12/60) via my part-time job about 2-3 months ago. We started talking, laughing and joking. We got on the subject of horoscopes and he found out I was a scropio. He said he dated a scorpio female for some time, and they were engaged and broke up. He said the reason she broke it off was because he was to slow. At this time I was slowly moving away from the Gemini I was dating for the last 3 years, so I never thought to go for this Leo because i needed some time for me. During a break at work we were talking and I found out he was a PT so jokingly I said "call me I can use you" LOL he looked at me and started laughing. He took my number and for the rest of the time at work we just joked and laughed. He then took me home. All through the rest of the day kept making reference to me being a scropio and saying all these things like scorpstings, scorpcrazy, etc. So I just laugh because the shit was funny. Up until his birthday we've talked on the phone, went out to eat a few times and he has only been over my house twice, second time recently on his birthday.

He called me one week just before his b-day and we were just talking, and he said "I want you, and I am going to put something on you" I started laughing and said "I am flatterd that you want me but I would like for you to take some more time to think about this and I will do the same. I am not in the mood to deal with another AssHole I just go rid of one, and I want to take some time for me, I am still working on some things that I am trying to remove from my life so not to have baggage, (the gem) so when the time is right and we both agree that this is what we want then we will make plans" He said ok but said he has thought about and will think somemore. I told him that he caught me off guard because I never expected a phone call like this from him and I said I was a bit speechless and flattered, so to give me time to think this over. I had not intentions on dating him or sleeping with him because I did not see him like that. I knew there was an attraction but I was not acting on it because I was getting the Gem out my system and, I prejudged him thinking because he had a a mid size gut that he was not working with much, so I was a bit turned off by him. (Boy was I wrong)

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He calls me on his birthday and said "Hey VW! I just called to tell you today is my birthday" I said well happy birthday, why you did not tell me before I would have made some plans or brought you something. He said "I am telling you know" so we laughed and then he said he was on his way to the liquor store to get himself something to drink and go home and chill...so I said why don't you come to my house and we have a drink together for your birthday. He came over about an hour later and when he walked through the door. I gave him a hug for the first time and a peck on the lips. He said "I like that give me another one" I did. We are on the sofa talking and drinking and he said "Can I sit closer to you?" my smart ass said "why" and the look he gave me made me fall out. Eventually we did sit closer and that is when things got heated. We started kissing. I am not big on kissing, but I do enjoy it if the person can kiss really good. Well, the Leo had me in a frenzy...and he kept wanting to kiss and I would kiss him but pull away. I did that because I really was not ready to go to far with him and the more I kissed him the hotter I got so eventually I had to put it to a stop. I told him that it was not him but me, and my deep emotional nature. He saidhe would not pressure me to do anything I was not ready to do. (he knows I am just getting out of a reltionship) he said that he was not seeing anyone mainly because he was going through some stuff and he needed his time as well. Soon after he left.

He recently had to go out of town and we talked the night he was leaving. He said "When I come back, I am coming to get you" What does that mean?

I told him that I have been thinking a lot about him, he was surprised to hear that and I just said "I just wanted you to know that" he said he was thinking about me as well. He called me while at home in SC while on the beach and we talked for a bit. I told him that I missed him, he was happy to hear that. About a month ago, he took me to Kirklands to get a picture for my living room and he like the air freshners they had, so I brought him some. While on the phone talking to him I told him I brought him something and he was really happy. We talked a bit more and he said he would call me when he got home.

He is home now and I have not called him. He said he would call me when he got home, which is why I am not calling him. He knows I am leaving for OC on Friday and I won't be back until Sunday. I like him a lot, and I would like to get to know more of him, and work towards something long term. I think he feels the same way, he told me that he was slow and I don't want to rush him at all. We have not slept together but we have done a lot of serious making out. I told him when he gets back home we can make plans to get together and see what happens.

I am not sure how to express to him what I want, or should I just wait it out and let him come to me when he is ready.

Posted by Scorpionlady
I like him a lot, and I would like to get to know more of him, and work towards something long term. I think he feels the same way, he told me that he was slow and I don't want to rush him at all.

I am not sure how to express to him what I want, or should I just wait it out and let him come to me when he is ready.

Well if he admits to being slow, then he is choosing to do so. And nothing's wrong with that, but if you are ready to express your feelings then it will be bad timing for you. I wouldnt really express how you feel unless he asks. That way he doesnt feel pushed into a corner to make a decision. Let him come around on his own, but don't put all your eggs in one basket at this point. Because if he gets too slow, you will be glad you didnt invest too much in him.

i don't know. he is a leo after all. it seems to me that, yeah, he may be on the slower side and is getting over someone else too but he already knows for sure that he likes you a lot and is pursuing you. he's been trying to be patient and respect your wishes so he is waiting for you to give him the green light.

leos delight in expressions of genuine feeling! it boosts the ego and we're in love with love. there's nothing like that rush of excitement that one gets after receiving verbal confirmation of reciprocation.

i think you should just go for it if it feels right for you.

Hi Scorpionlady, what ninjamu said is very true: "leos delight in expressions of genuine feeling! it boosts the ego and we're in love with love. there's nothing like that rush of excitement that one gets after receiving verbal confirmation of reciprocation." For this reason, I think you should continue as is. You have already expressed genuine feelings, offered reassurance and confirmations of what you think of this guy. He knows how you feel already...Leos aren't stupid. I think you should let things unfold naturally, especially if you feel a little hesitant and think that you may need more time. Your own "slowness" may be comforting to him since he, himself, is slow. Don't try to figure out what he's thinking (and if you ever are confused, all you have to do ask...he'll be upfront). You just continue doing you...that's all. Good luck, and keep us posted :-)

Thanks yall.

@Ninjamu, No I don't think he's getting over someone else. He is having issues that he is trying to get through and I have been a supportive friend.

We had a little disagreement last week because of him and his personal issues and I told him how i felt and he accused me of not being where he is and I don't know what I am talking about. Well that lead to me expressing some words to him that kinda hit home and he got off the phone after that. I knew he was upset but I did not callhim back until I was on my way Ocean City the next day. I left a message that said

"Hi,I just wanted to let you know I am leaving for OC and I will be back on Sunday, I sense you was not happy with my comment last night and if I said anything to upset you I apologize, it was not to hurt you, I have been where you are whether you believe or not,I just handled it different than you and I was just giving you my experience on what got me through". He returned the called a few hours later and thanked me for the message and apologizing but then said that it was his fault and he was sorry as well. He came over when I got home and we just chilled and relax. I do like him and I am in no rush to make this 100% commitment because of what he is going through. We builted a friendship and we both are enjoying.

I am thinking that I will leave it alone for a bit and let him do what he needs to do. The last thing I want to do is put more pressure on him. He calls me every other day and when he is not having a good day he tells me he is not in a good space but wanted to call me because he was thinking about me, and I like that he does that and I respect him for it even more.