Leo drama! Help please!!!

Hello everyone... First timer here.

Well to make a long story short I've been dating a Leo guy for about 3 months. He's 22 and I'm 24(Aquarius) at first everything seemed amazing... He was very charming, sweet, affectionate. Opened doors for me, pulled out my seat, bought me tampons lol etc. everything moved pretty fast between us. No sex in the first month although we were sleeping in the same bed almost every night and having some intense makeout sessions that were hours and hours long to the point our lips would get bruised lol. He was very respectful and introduced me to his mother before he introduced me to his bed. We were spending every moment we had together almost living with each other... When we did finally have sex it was amazing, passionate love making. The best I ever had. I was falling in love for the first time in 2 years I had been single by choice (Aries ex of 3 years was an a $ $ hole)??

I lost my father due to addiction a few months ago so I slowed down on the partying life style (I'm from Miami which is party central) and although I knew he was into partying he told me that he wanted to slow it down and stop wasting time and money on pointless nights. He was there for me when I would get sad about my dad, even said he would feel honored to meet him one day (he knew I like to go visit him in the cemetery once a month)??

So everything was pretty much perfect for the first month and half until the ex popped up in the picture. They were together for about a year and broke up a few weeks before I met leo guy. She started calling alot texting a lot bashing me on fb and instagram... Calling me an ugly slut etc (which not to sound cocky so please dont take me wrong im very humble but I'm a model and haven't had sex for about a year before I met my Leo guy)??

At first I felt no need to worry, he was so into me and made it clear that she was just jealous that he was moving on. Now I know every guy claims their exs to be crazy but this girl did it all to try and sabotage us, even claimed to be pregnant with his child. He would speak to her in front of me, she knew we were together and wouldn't care she would text him all the time begging to see him. His mother told me how she showed up to their house one night and told her she was only there to get sex out of her son. Nonetheless, that ruined her relationship with his family months ago.??

Eventually he changed his number but she tried trapping him again with the baby scheme. He told me

He told me he only talks to get because he feels sorry for her and thinks she would turn suicidal. I've even seen emails of her offering him money to stay with her. I honestly started to pity the girl and noticed she was competing with me when she started taking my quotes my hash tags even my style of dressing. She would try to make it seem like she was hanging with him even while he would be laying next to me. She would post old pictures, tag him in places, etc. He assured me he wanted me and that he was done with her. She was nothing but a friend.??

Until one night I went home for the first time in almost two weeks of staying with him. He told he he would probably hang with his boys but she put something on her fb to make it seem like they were together. Now at first I thought nothing but he wouldn't answer my phone calls all night and I did some investigating and found out they went to her companies holiday party together. Now I went kind of crazy and called a bunch of times bitched at him sent him to hell called him a liar etc.

We met up to talk one day and he was like a changed person. He was distant, he lost weight, was cold and just plain strange. He told me he wanted to work it out with me but that he missed partying and the things he liked doing I don't like doing (drinking, I think he does drugs as well) that he felt attached and wasn't ready but that he wanted me in his life and wants me as his girlfriend just not right now. I told him I couldn't accept that after how close we became and how fast everything happened, he was willing to let it go two steps back instead of forward. The commitment issue wasn't the big issue here, its the ex.??

His sister, mother and I have all become very close in these few months and they text me and call me daily. His mother is very worried about his partying he's on probation and she's scared he's going to get arrested. The same distant attitude he's been giving ??me, he's giving them. His mom says she doesn't recognize him that he has never acted like this before. Shes scared he's on drugs. She says for the first time he was finally calming down from the party life style with me. Pr

Pretty much this poor lady is losing her mind. ??

I honestly don't know what to do I have fallen for him and became so close to his family that it's hard to just let it go without not wanting to help him. I know he is young and confused and hanging with the wrong crowd and I am not his mother and cannot change him. His ex has called me telling me horrific things like that they've had sex in my car on a day he borrowed it to go to work, that he says I'm nothing to him he just using me for the sex, blah blah blah this girl is extremely immature I try to not pay attention to her and I know if he wants to be with her he would be. He has gone out with his friends and I'm seeing him less and less im worried that this partying life is going to land him in jail. I don't know why I even consider wanting him in my life with all of this drama. I sometimes think that I was used to babysitting my poor now deceased father that I'm doing it again to the first guy ive gotten close to in so long. that Please give me some advice as I don't know what to do his family tells me fight for him and try to help him, to ignore that girl and just try to spend as much time with him as I can, but my family tells me to run away. Thanks in advance everyone. And sorry for the extra long post!!! God bless

Yet another aqua trying to save someone OH HELL Iam an aqua. Funny stuff aside he sounds like he needs proffesional help. All the signs of a drug habbit. You went through it once are strong enough to do it again?

It's an aqua thing what can I say? Lol I honestly don't know if I'm strong enough to deal with addiction issues again. I went through so much with my dad and I feel like I've met a younger version of him through my Leo guy. There's only so much I can do and lecture him about when he's in his own little world.

Thanks seraph.... As I've read through the threads I guess this is normal... I wish I could understand what's going through his stubborn mind lol

1. He talks to her coz he pity's her. I don't buy that.
2. He wants to be with you, he is attached, but he misses partying. I don't buy that either. If I were you. I would first find out if he is really on drugs ? As far as partying is concerned, if that's the only problem then try partying with him for a month and see if he comes back to you. I feel partying is just an excuse to not be with you.
3. The ex whom you ignored & thought would not be a threat has done her deal & convinced him to be with her.
4. If you really love him and want him to be with you for quite some time then its worth fighting for him. But that doesn't mean that he will come back to you. You mentioned that he is giving you the same treatment as he is giving his family. So if he can ignore his family whom he has knows for ages, he knows you for just 1.5 months !!!
5. You have only 2 choices, fight him back and leave him. Fighting him back doesn't guarantee that he will come back to you, if that is going to leave u more miserable then its best to walk away.

Thanks for your responses everyone.... He is not back with the ex. Trust me that girl broadcasts her life through the Internet, I would know. He still talks to me, we spent the weekend together then I got upset because he went out with his friends and left me waiting for him on his bed. Didn't come home until very late I had left by that time. I do think he is on drugs and it wouldn't surprise me if she gets it for him, he told me he used to do drugs with her. I love him very much I know it's been three months but only I understand how I feel and although he is being selfish, I can't help but want to be there for him. I just don't know how to act from what I've read ignoring him or playing hard to get is not a good idea with a Leo guy... So am I supposed to be nice always? Available when he wants to talk or see me?

Posted by Carolinac126

I lost my father due to addiction a few months ago so I slowed down on the partying life style (I'm from Miami which is party central) and although I knew he was into partying he told me that he wanted to slow it down and stop wasting time and money on pointless nights. He was there for me when I would get sad about my dad, even said he would feel honored to meet him one day (he knew I like to go visit him in the cemetery once a month)??

I'm not much of one for 'helpful advice' (at least I'm honest!) with relationships/flirtationships but I am a 'parent' to a 'father' with a severe addiction. Although, I'm probably not the type of resource you are seeking.. I'd like to at least make you aware that I'm available if you would feel comfortable/ready to speak to another about how you're feeling/anything else. Sorry if this seems too forward - its 100% your choice 🙂 Hope you're well.

Send him good vibes and detangle yourself from this hot mess. Mourn the loss of your father and concentrate on your own life.

My advice...do nothing and see what the Universe does. Try to be still and listen. The answer will come.

Posted by Nala13
My advice...do nothing and see what the Universe does. Try to be still and listen. The answer will come.

this is priceless advice for ALL aspects of life imo 🙂

I do not think anyone one can help if they are split personality along with alcoholic and drugs on board I know one of this kind leo i do not know what are your leo kind of people you are with

Posted by am1saggi
I do not think anyone one can help if they are split personality along with alcoholic and drugs on board I know one of this kind leo i do not know what are your leo kind of people you are with

crolinac126 quotes looks same as I went thru

Hi girl now I understand his sad look I just read sad look means they have gotten you fired you from your job and its final goodbye saying making puppy face. I just had it in this sept

as we were working in same company but never chatted on phone or went out for any thing not even for social dinner or lunch.He used to yell and scream that he is saving his job if I tried to call something about his girls at same company coming to me all the time comparing me with them that they deserve him more than I do. which was bothering me as we were not been out single time or talked anything about future or dating. but I knew he wanted me so badly he he used o make puppy faces at work to win or get me but I used to ignore as he said dating in same company may get people fired. He was really a trouble maker and finally got me when failed to get me