Leo males- Have I played this all wrong??

Hi I'm new to the site and would appreciate any onions on a situation I have with a Leo.
I met a guy whilst on holiday in Feb. To cut a long story short we spoke none stop for 2 hours and danced for another 2. There was some crazy chemistry between us and we ended up having a very passionate night together. He did put any pressure on me to go back with him, in-fact I feel he was willing me not to. I simply got carried away and ended up back Mr Americas hotel. I'm from the UK.

After all was said and done, we exchanged numbers, put me in a cab and we went our separate ways. Whilst we were waiting for the cab he implied that I??d said something that meant I didn't want him to contact me. I assured him that I did want to see him again and that I??d had a good time with him.

I waited a day and didn't hear anything from him so the next evening I called him. We were both at weddings that day but arranged to meet up that evening. I didn't feel like he sounded particularly pleased to hear from me so I decided I wouldn't bother. He then proceeded to booty call me at about 1am, I didn't answer. I text the next day to say sorry I couldn't make it last night but I hoped to see him before he went back as he was leaving the next day. No response! I text him again on the day I was leaving and again, no response. Now I may seem quite matter of fact about it now but at the time I was heartbroken and also really annoyed with myself for putting myself in that position. I'm in my late 20??s and should know better than to expect anything to develop when you give it up on the first night. I'm not saying I'm an angel but all in all I'm a good girl.

So I came back off my holiday and figured I just learn from my mistake and write it off as an experience.
The morning after I get back I receive a text from Mr America asking me to holla at him. I called him that evening and he claimed he didn't get any of my texts. That had wanted to see me again but thought I wasn't interested. He??d got back off holiday and I was on his mind so he got drunk and sent me the random text thinking he wouldn't hear from me.
Since then we've basically been emailing back and forth. I definitely make more of an effort with him although he does text and email out of the blue sometimes, usually of a sexual nature. A couple of weeks ago I thought I??d play it cool and not make any contact with him and see if he??d make an effort. I heard nothing from h

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I heard nothing from him.

I'm my own worst enemy and decided to give it one last shot and the email conversation went along the lines of this

Me: I haven't forgotten about you although I'm beginning to forget what you look like. You??ll have to send me another pic
Him: I??ve not forgotten about you either. I don't want to send you a pic coz I'm hoping it??ll make you want to see me in person sooner
Me: are you playing with me because I really do wanna see you? I never meet anyone I like and now I do hes on the other side of the world
Him: I know what you mean, I'm sooo picky so It sucks were so far apart. I'm not playing with you I really do wanna see you
Me: ok lets make it happen then, the sooner the better
Him: sounds good to me

My question is where do we go from here? Would a leo male realistically go to all that effort to see a holiday fling again under these circumstances? Are leo males generally sincere in what they say? Am I meant to start the conversation about the practicalities of us meeting up I.e when, where etc because it would be me doing all the work again!

He always says the right things but rarely initiates things. He's told me his last girl did him wrong and now he's super cautious. I don't mind putting in some effort with this guy because I really do like him. He made a huge impact on me in a short space of time and I want to see him again to work out if theres anything there.

What do you leo experts think? Am I wasting my time?

Well, what I would say... My bestfriend is a Leo (girl) and someone else I loved, was a Leo (guy).


Don't go see him, even though you like him. Just don't give him so much attention. And since you guys ended up sleeping on the first date, its ok, but become a bit mysterious for him and a little out of reach.
He obviously wants to see you for another booty call, and you are better than that. He probably likes you too.
If you want, go see him but DONT SLEEP with him.. tell him, that he is irresistable BUT, it's not in your character to sleep with people. This way you will give him a compliment, yet, earn some respect back.
Tell him you think he is handsome and sexy and give him a kiss on the cheek, and call it a night. Blow a little cold.


If this works, go on a several dates with him, without ending up in bed. But talk to him and get to know him..

Also, Leos are liars, but they usually lie about trivial things. Dont believe anything he says right away.


Good luck.

Thanks for the advice.

The problem I'm having is that its really difficult to play hard to get when we're in different countries. My thinking is, if we did meet it would be about getting to know each other and seeing if that chemistry is still there. I do have other guys that are interested in me but I can only concentrate on one love interest at a time, I dont know if its a cancer thing?!? So If he truely is up for meeting and is not playing around with me, which I hope to establish this weekend I just wanna either get on with it or write it off.

If he was in the country, i'd have the luxury of dating him slowly but we'd probably only have a week together, max. All I want is for him to take the initiative more rather than following my lead. Any ideas on how I could achieve that?

I'm thinking of suggesting we meet somewhere neutral rather than me going to the states or him coming to England. What do you think?

you should only continue if he's willing to visit you. otherwise, chalk it up as a wonderful fling that you can tell your grand kids someday.

Well firstly I feel it a bit disrespectful that he thinks it's ok to start texting and messages things of a sexual nature. He met you once and since then it's been telephonic conversations only - I'm not saying it's wrong...just seems a little cheeky and soon? Perhaps he thinks because of that one night.....
I don't know but I personally wouldn't entertain it. Seems a bit presumptuous.
I??d say don't expect anything??_that way if it pulls off great but you haven't been hurt if it doesn't??. Chances are it won't — long distance is long distance and whilst some work most don't.

Thanks for the advice, I appreciate it 🙂

LeoAqua- Totally agree on the long distance front but theres just something telling me I need to check this guy out and work out if there really is something there. I travel allot so it wouldn't be a biggy for me to meet him somewhere. It may not work out but it would be a romantic adventure which I'm all for.

In regards to the sexting, I wasnt offended but maybe I should've been? I think I seem to be making exceptions because of the distance between us. I'd normally play harder to get.

Ok so heres my update. Had a few drinks on Friday and decided to call him and suggest we meet in a neutral location in June. He was out at the time and said he thought it was a great idea and that he'd call me the next day to discuss. He did call back and asked if i'd been there before, what there was to do etc etc. I didn't really have allot to say because I'm rubbish on the phone... really shy.... especially with a hangover. Basically told him that I stayed on the resort most of the time when I went but that I knew they have good food and nice people on the island. He said he was gonna check out if he could get the time off work and asked if I had a specific date in mind. I said no, as I do project based work so anytime in June was good.

The next day I decided to email him. Because I'd suggested the meeting place and the date, I didnt want him to think it had to be set in stone. I told him that I was flexible and open to suggestions from him although i'd like some sunshine sooner rather than later. Although I didnt put any questions in the email for him to respond to, I think it was a mistake to initiate contact with him again because I've heard nothing from him.

If I'm honest I think the problem is my own. I'm insecure, clingy and quite frankly in a bit of a dream world and if he's got anything about him, he'd of figured that out by now! I mean we did have a lovely time together but he's taking up an unbelievable amount of my energy as I'm always thinking about him.

So do you think i've scared the lion off?
They say Leos like having their ego stroked but when does that become too much because i've been doing quite a bit of it?!?
Is the consensus that I should play the waiting game and leave him to contact me?

Please help me Leo experts!

I find Leos very honest and I doubt he is playing you. Chances are he really likes you. That being said, you have 1/2 the world between you. This may end just for that simple fact. You are but two wee fishies and there is an entire huge the pond between you. It is what it is. I haven't heard of many vacation flings turning into long term marriages. If you don't see each other within the next 3 months, my suspicion will be it will fizzle.

Just read your last post. I wouldn't worry about anything. Take a deep breath. Buddyboy is looking into meeting you in June and trying to get time off work. Those are all positive.

Leos actually like sincere appreciation. Who doesn't? So don't worry about the stroking the ego thing. Don't "do" ego stroking. Be generous of heart and spirt but don't put on a show. Know what I mean?

Give him a couple of days to look into things. Relax and assume all is well until you hear differently. Good luck!