My rare drama moment, quite enjoying it now

Kids, what do you do. I had a dramatic Leo moment today and they don't come often - I'm feeling quite stupid but in a very much laugh at myself way. It's Karma I think for me laughing at my sister when she called an ambulance for her daughter, got to the hospital and they told her she was teething 🙂

So today my son came home from school and he was holding his head to the side with a strange look on his face, he kindof whinged when he came in and then just stood there as if he couldn't move - the whinging is extremely unusual even though he is a cancer 🙂 and male 🙂. Now background - he is intellectually disabled (mentally handicapped best describes it), autistic, cerebral palsy and epileptic - due to his main condition he cannot communicate (but I understand him), has no speech, very little understanding if any (e.g. he is only learning his name now at the grand old age of 6) and is probably at the mental age of 1. So I couldn't ask him any questions re: what was wrong with him or had something happened in school, I was thinking he had maybe fallen in school and his neck was broken (that's the Leo drama moment right there, for shame), nothing was written in his school book, his school bus was gone and no answer from the school as the teachers had obviously all scampered at 3.00 p.m.

So I made a call to my doctor, she had no appointments but when I told them who it was for they said bring him in immediately (they know him and his history very well). So off i went in a complete panic - and 55 euro later I found out he had a creak in his neck, quite possibly from falling asleep on the school bus - the little fecker.

The shame 🙂 I'm still laughing at myself 🙂)))) Having kids is soooo easy - until they freak you out for no reason at all.

Just thought I'd share my very un-typical leo drama moment! Thanks for listening!!

I'm so glad I'm a Cap, I never freaked out about anything when my kids were young, even with serious injuries. When my son severely broke his arm and a friend of his came to the house yelling "Miss [lildol], Miss [lildol] [Libra] broke his arm!" I walked up to the park, saw it all contorted and such (seriously contorted!), my son in shock, went back home, grabbed some paint sticks, tore up a towel returned to splint it (no, I have no medical training) then loaded him in the car and hauled him up to the children's hosp. We arrived, they immediately triaged him and wanted to give him morphine. My response, he's not complaining why give him morphine? (meanwhile my son has sweat pouring off his upper lip and is white as a ghost from being in shock). I was calm as could be through it all.

Not minimizing your concerns Celtic, especially given other medical issues your son has. Just sharing.

Posted by lildol
I'm so glad I'm a Cap, I never freaked out about anything when my kids were young, even with serious injuries. When my son severely broke his arm and a friend of his came to the house yelling "Miss [lildol], Miss [lildol] [Libra] broke his arm!" I walked up to the park, saw it all contorted and such (seriously contorted!), my son in shock, went back home, grabbed some paint sticks, tore up a towel returned to splint it (no, I have no medical training) then loaded him in the car and hauled him up to the children's hosp. We arrived, they immediately triaged him and wanted to give him morphine. My response, he's not complaining why give him morphine? (meanwhile my son has sweat pouring off his upper lip and is white as a ghost from being in shock). I was calm as could be through it all.

Lol, that's my normal response, I'm so calm and practical usually I should have some cap somewhere in me, then I had to go all Leo over a creek in his neck 🙂

Posted by lildol
Not minimizing your concerns Celtic, especially given other medical issues your son has. Just sharing.

I know you're not - good share 🙂

Posted by Jynja
Celtic (((Big Hugs)))

I imagine your joy is more because you're relieved. It's great that your son's feeling better than you thought. 🙂

Quite likely Jynja, my heart was hammering in my chest and I've had some terrible emergencies with him that never produced such a response though they should have - I've never felt so lighthearted after a overly dramatic response, still smiling to myself at the leo'ness of the moment.

Posted by lildol
I'm so glad I'm a Cap, I never freaked out about anything when my kids were young, even with serious injuries. When my son severely broke his arm and a friend of his came to the house yelling "Miss [lildol], Miss [lildol] [Libra] broke his arm!" I walked up to the park, saw it all contorted and such (seriously contorted!), my son in shock, went back home, grabbed some paint sticks, tore up a towel returned to splint it (no, I have no medical training) then loaded him in the car and hauled him up to the children's hosp. We arrived, they immediately triaged him and wanted to give him morphine. My response, he's not complaining why give him morphine? (meanwhile my son has sweat pouring off his upper lip and is white as a ghost from being in shock). I was calm as could be through it all.

Posted by lildol
Not minimizing your concerns Celtic, especially given other medical issues your son has. Just sharing.

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Pffft.

Either that isn't the Cap, or you were A LOT more scared than you're letting on.

I'm betting on the latter.

Just saying. 😉

Scared? Over a broken arm? He also broke his wrist 2 yrs later, 2 yrs prior split his knee open (I was pissed at the school as they insisted on an ambulance - it was severe, they had to make sure the joint wasn't compromised and video'd it for training purposes, his forearm fracture is used for the visual example at the hospital as well as it was 'perfect' as far as Monteggia fractures go). When he broke his front teeth the dentist was quite impressed as well, one was shattered all the way above the gum line, the other broke half off. My son came home and said "look what I did this time mom" and smiled. He's proud that when he does 'it', he does it good. Even when he said he tangled with the mailbox and "the mailbox won" - just stitches though.

No, never freaked out, not even after. None life threatening. More of an inconvenience really. When my daughter was six she split her head, at the hosp they cleaned it out and you could see her skull. I was like "cool!".

Biggest scare I had was when my daughter was 3 and hung on the towel wrack which busted off and then she passed out in my arms from a concussion.

Posted by lildol
Scared? Over a broken arm? He also broke his wrist 2 yrs later, 2 yrs prior split his knee open (I was pissed at the school as they insisted on an ambulance - it was severe, they had to make sure the joint wasn't compromised and video'd it for training purposes, his forearm fracture is used for the visual example at the hospital as well as it was 'perfect' as far as Monteggia fractures go). When he broke his front teeth the dentist was quite impressed as well, one was shattered all the way above the gum line, the other broke half off. My son came home and said "look what I did this time mom" and smiled. He's proud that when he does 'it', he does it good. Even when he said he tangled with the mailbox and "the mailbox won" - just stitches though.

No, never freaked out, not even after. None life threatening. More of an inconvenience really. When my daughter was six she split her head, at the hosp they cleaned it out and you could see her skull. I was like "cool!".

Biggest scare I had was when my daughter was 3 and hung on the towel wrack which busted off and then she passed out in my arms from a concussion.

What are you saying-- you're desensitized?

Or you're good at distinguishing between life-threatening and non?

I'll buy that.

Tbh, I think it's better to stay calm because if the kids see *you* lose it, then they get scared.

But to say that it was strictly the Cap that kept you unfazed-- doesn't ring true for me.

It's been my experience that Caps are super-protective of their family/loved ones, and become alarmed when *any* harm befalls them.

That doesn't mean histrionics, mind you-- not at all-- but certainly more weight is given, from what I have seen.

Not meant to be insulting-- just my experience.

Personally, I think attempting to wrap your kids in cotton is overkill, so kudos to you.

Posted by celticlioness
The shame 🙂 I'm still laughing at myself 🙂)))) Having kids is soooo easy - until they freak you out for no reason at all.

Just thought I'd share my very un-typical leo drama moment! Thanks for listening!!

Glad all is well, Celticlioness.

No shame in worrying about your kids... 🙂

Hi Celtic. I'm not a Leo but I know how it is to over react in a similar way! I work with adults who have intellectual disabilities. I've had several of my folks to our Healthcare service because they didn't eat breakfast, too little sleep and even once...period cramps! Behavior is communication. If they can't tell you what is wrong then you have to go by what is usual for them, especially if they don't use words to communicate. Not too dramatic in my book 🙂

Posted by jjessa
Hi Celtic. I'm not a Leo but I know how it is to over react in a similar way! I work with adults who have intellectual disabilities. I've had several of my folks to our Healthcare service because they didn't eat breakfast, too little sleep and even once...period cramps! Behavior is communication. If they can't tell you what is wrong then you have to go by what is usual for them, especially if they don't use words to communicate. Not too dramatic in my book 🙂

Thanks jjessa 🙂 I know you are right - he fell and banged the back of his head yesterday and I didn't blink an eye, I should try to pick my moments but we can't help our reactions I suppose. I think it was because I didn't know what caused it that made me react as everything was wide open then and I had no way of finding out if indeed something had happened, thank god it didn't and my GP was very understanding!!

...period cramps!

This is the main reason I was glad he was born a male, can't imagine the nightmare of coping with a young girl in this situation when that time arrives 🙂

Posted by seraph
Celtic.... Lovely Lioness...

You don't even need to explain. Your child can't easily communicate possible problems/potentially dangerous incidents and experiences.

So caution is in order. Your child's situation is apart from the norm. If you're ever in doubt, then do act in your child's interest as your motherly instincts dictate. Special circumstances call for special vigilance. Yes, you might spend 50 Euros over nothing from time to time... but one of those times might be THE very occasion that your child actually needs it.

Yes, you can chuckle in relief about this, but you're able to do that because your son has a pretty amazing mom.

aww Seraph, thanks so much, all the words of wisdom have made me feel much better rather than much stupider. And you are right, my seemingly over-reaction on a previous occasion managed to save his little life so I will just keep on doing it with no guilt going forward 🙂

I was sooo relieved though, a few glasses of wine where drunk quite quickly that night!