lovealways06
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Passive aggressive Leo friend??
Posted by lovealways06
My really good friend is a Leo girl
and lately, there's been some tension between us because
I've been hanging out with an Aquarius who ... stopped talking to us last year.
My Aquarius friend...
Oh. She's your friend now-- even though she totally quit talking to you last year.
And now Miss Aqua...
Posted by lovealways06
.... does not want to be friends with Leo
(she thinks Leo can't stand when the attention is not on her,
which I'm starting to agree with...),
but does want to be friends with me (I'm a Cancer). My Leo friend is being super passive aggressive, saying she's OK with it but making comments to suggest she's definitely NOT ok with it.
I feel like this is the first time in her life where she wasn't someone's first choice and just can't accept it. Are Leo's usually passive aggressive? I've got a lot of Leos in my life and this seems to be a recurring trend...click to expand
No, LEOs aren't passive aggressive-- but your Aqua "friend" is a bitch who is trying to drive a wedge between you two.
And you're buying it-- hook, line and sinker.
You're going to drop your good friend because you've elected to believe what some bullshit, fickle Aqua is telling you-- and after she totally dumped you last year?
What is wrong with you?
How can you not see that?
Posted by MontgomeryPosted by lovealways06
My really good friend is a Leo girl
and lately, there's been some tension between us because
I've been hanging out with an Aquarius who ... stopped talking to us last year.
My Aquarius friend...
Oh. She's your friend now-- even though she totally quit talking to you last year.
And now Miss Aqua...
Posted by lovealways06
.... does not want to be friends with Leo
(she thinks Leo can't stand when the attention is not on her,
which I'm starting to agree with...),
but does want to be friends with me (I'm a Cancer). My Leo friend is being super passive aggressive, saying she's OK with it but making comments to suggest she's definitely NOT ok with it.
I feel like this is the first time in her life where she wasn't someone's first choice and just can't accept it. Are Leo's usually passive aggressive? I've got a lot of Leos in my life and this seems to be a recurring trend...
No, LEOs aren't passive aggressive-- but your Aqua "friend" is a bitch who is trying to drive a wedge between you two.
And you're buying it-- hook, line and sinker.
You're going to drop your good friend because you've elected to believe what some bullshit, fickle Aqua is telling you-- and after she totally dumped you last year?
What is wrong with you?
How can you not see that?click to expand
She had her reasons for not talking to us, I guess I was stretching when I said friend, we've hung out 2-3 times since she came back into my life just to catch up but we're not going to be friends like before because of what she did. Who am I to shut someone out when they've apologized, acknowledged that they are wrong and are trying to gain my trust back?
Im definitely not going to drop my Leo friend. She means so much to me and I've done everything I can to show her that I'm still with her no matter what but she's letting her insecurities affect our friendship negatively. And don't think that she wouldn't take Aquarius back in her life if the roles were reversed, because she has even said that she would have.
To add to my last comment. Leo says she's ok with it and accepts my decision to be Aquarius' friend again but it's blatantly obvious that she's not. She makes soooo many passive aggressive comments and acts like she doesn't know what I'm talking about when I confront her about it. Also, not believing anything Aquarius says about my Leo friend, the attention-seeking is something I noticed before Aquarius even mentioned it.
Posted by lovealways06
To add to my last comment. Leo says she's ok with it and accepts my decision to be Aquarius' friend again but it's blatantly obvious that she's not. She makes soooo many passive aggressive comments and acts like she doesn't know what I'm talking about when I confront her about it. Also, not believing anything Aquarius says about my Leo friend, the attention-seeking is something I noticed before Aquarius even mentioned it.
Hmm-- could the "acceptance" be sarcasm?
I mean, I can't really say that I blame her.
I have a hard time with "friends" who have no problem getting close to those who don't like me.
I think you're wrong-- sorry.
Posted by MontgomeryPosted by lovealways06
To add to my last comment. Leo says she's ok with it and accepts my decision to be Aquarius' friend again but it's blatantly obvious that she's not. She makes soooo many passive aggressive comments and acts like she doesn't know what I'm talking about when I confront her about it. Also, not believing anything Aquarius says about my Leo friend, the attention-seeking is something I noticed before Aquarius even mentioned it.
Hmm-- could the "acceptance" be sarcasm?
I mean, I can't really say that I blame her.
I have a hard time with "friends" who have no problem getting close to those who don't like me.
I think you're wrong-- sorry.
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I'm not getting close! We went for coffee to catch up on each other's lives 2-3 times and that's IT. I am not doing anything wrong by hanging out with someone who used to be like a sister to me. Keep in mind Leo would do the same if the roles were reversed.
Posted by lovealways06
I'm not getting close! We went for coffee to catch up on each other's lives 2-3 times and that's IT. I am not doing anything wrong by hanging out with someone who used to be like a sister to me. Keep in mind Leo would do the same if the roles were reversed.
"Like a sister" who cut you out of her life and quit talking to you? lol
And how do you know she would do the same?
You said:
Posted by lovealways06
My Aquarius friend does not want to be friends with Leo (she thinks Leo can't stand when the attention is not on her, which I'm starting to agree with...
Do you really think she isn't picking up on that vibe?
Posted by lovealways06
...
I feel like this is the first time in her life where she wasn't someone's first choice and just can't accept it....click to expand
Pfft-- I think you're looking for a free pass on your actions.
LEOs are pretty big on loyalty-- common knowledge, there-- I know I don't like it when people talk sh*t about my friends.
So it would be very confusing to me to see one of my friends getting close (um... "like a sister") to someone who talked sh*t about me-- and then turned on me, like you're doing to your LEO friend.
So go be friends with this Aqua who ditched you last year, and likes to insult your friends.
She sounds like a real winner.
Posted by MontgomeryPosted by lovealways06
I'm not getting close! We went for coffee to catch up on each other's lives 2-3 times and that's IT. I am not doing anything wrong by hanging out with someone who used to be like a sister to me. Keep in mind Leo would do the same if the roles were reversed.
"Like a sister" who cut you out of her life and quit talking to you? lol
And how do you know she would do the same?
You said:
Posted by lovealways06
My Aquarius friend does not want to be friends with Leo (she thinks Leo can't stand when the attention is not on her, which I'm starting to agree with...
Do you really think she isn't picking up on that vibe?
Posted by lovealways06
...
I feel like this is the first time in her life where she wasn't someone's first choice and just can't accept it....
Pfft-- I think you're looking for a free pass on your actions.
LEOs are pretty big on loyalty-- common knowledge, there-- I know I don't like it when people talk sh*t about my friends.
So it would be very confusing to me to see one of my friends getting close (um... "like a sister") to someone who talked sh*t about me-- and then turned on me, like you're doing to your LEO friend.
So go be friends with this Aqua who ditched you last year, and likes to insult your friends.
She sounds like a real winner.
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I see you're a Leo, is this why you're getting so defensive?
Yes, she cut me off AND Leo, who has said she would be hanging out with Aquarius too if she was in my shoes. So where's that "loyalty" you speak of?
I'm not turning on her, we see each other almost everyday and talk all the time. I've seen Aquarius like 2-3 in the past 4 months and we don't talk. It's just not in my nature to turn someone away who has apologized, no matter how much they have hurt me.
Anyway, it was not my intention when I started this forum to argue lol. I just wanted to know if it was common knowledge for a Leo to be passive-aggressive, but I guess not.
She has moon in Taurus and mars in Virgo.
At first, I told Aquarius I didn't want to be her friend if she had all those negative things to say about Leo, but they are things that I had noticed before. Aquarius says Leo is attention-stealing and always needs to be in the spotlight, but I see her differently. Leo wants the attention, yes, but it's never her intention to STEAL it from anybody, she just likes people to pay attention to her. I never said it was a bad thing, I just said it was something I had been noticing, then Aquarius brought it up as well. I think Aquarius assumes that because she wants to be the center of attention and when it goes to anyone else, that person is stealing it from her.
Anyway, I'm not going to let Aquarius ruin my friendship with Leo, because what you said is true, we have been there for each other when Aquarius dropped us. Aquarius is in my life, yes, but I'm not letting her manipulate me into believing Leo is a bad person. Like I said, I've seen her 2-3 in the last 4 months. Leo I see and talk to almost everyday. She is a good person and a great friend, and I've done everything to be the same to her. There have been choices she's made that I have not agreed with (like when she took back her cheating ex.) I was the only person in her life who supported her through that. I said, "I don't agree with it but if that's what you need to do, do it and if it fails, I'm here like I always am."
It's just annoying when I tell Leo I can't hang out and she says, "Why are you hanging out with Aquarius?" when I'm actually hanging out with my family/boyfriend or just want to be alone. Leo does not need to feel like I'm spending less time with her, because I'm not.
The point of this post was to find out if Leos are usually passive aggressive, but I felt like I needed to give context.
At first, I told Aquarius I didn't want to be her friend if she had all those negative things to say about Leo, but they are things that I had noticed before. Aquarius says Leo is attention-stealing and always needs to be in the spotlight, but I see her differently. Leo wants the attention, yes, but it's never her intention to STEAL it from anybody, she just likes people to pay attention to her. I never said it was a bad thing, I just said it was something I had been noticing, then Aquarius brought it up as well. I think Aquarius assumes that because she wants to be the center of attention and when it goes to anyone else, that person is stealing it from her.
Anyway, I'm not going to let Aquarius ruin my friendship with Leo, because what you said is true, we have been there for each other when Aquarius dropped us. Aquarius is in my life, yes, but I'm not letting her manipulate me into believing Leo is a bad person. Like I said, I've seen her 2-3 in the last 4 months. Leo I see and talk to almost everyday. She is a good person and a great friend, and I've done everything to be the same to her. There have been choices she's made that I have not agreed with (like when she took back her cheating ex.) I was the only person in her life who supported her through that. I said, "I don't agree with it but if that's what you need to do, do it and if it fails, I'm here like I always am."
It's just annoying when I tell Leo I can't hang out and she says, "Why are you hanging out with Aquarius?" when I'm actually hanging out with my family/boyfriend or just want to be alone. Leo does not need to feel like I'm spending less time with her, because I'm not.
The point of this post was to find out if Leos are usually passive aggressive, but I felt like I needed to give context.
Posted by lovealways06
I see you're a Leo, is this why you're getting so defensive?
Yes, she cut me off AND Leo, who has said she would be hanging out with Aquarius too if she was in my shoes. So where's that "loyalty" you speak of?
I'm not turning on her, we see each other almost everyday and talk all the time. I've seen Aquarius like 2-3 in the past 4 months and we don't talk. It's just not in my nature to turn someone away who has apologized, no matter how much they have hurt me.
Anyway, it was not my intention when I started this forum to argue lol. I just wanted to know if it was common knowledge for a Leo to be passive-aggressive, but I guess not.
Well-- you did post in the LEO forum. 😉
And I do sympathize with this LEO.
As for LEO telling you that she would hang out with the Aqua, had she chosen her over you--
I find that hard to believe-- she may have said she would have accepted an apology, but I doubt it went much beyond that-- however, you do admit how very "unloyal" that would have been.
Interesting.
LEOs rarely can turn down a sincere apology-- at least, I can't-- it isn't in me.
But that apology doesn't serve as a "reset" button, returning us to the place we inhabited before the transgression-- not at all.
Jynja, who has far more diplomacy than I, has put it perfectly:
Posted by Jynja
.... so anyone who loves me must love my crab.
🙂
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That's that. 🙂
I'm an Aquarius, and am best buds with a Cancer female.
It's a no brainer that a person who tells you not to be friends with someone else is not your friend.
You're supposed to be "free" who you want to be with. Right? If you like both, then you like both.
Something as stupidly insignificant as "attention seeking" is childish and highschoolish.
It sounds like something out of a "Mean Girls" film.
And ironically, the main cast is a Cancer sun (Lyndsay)
It's a no brainer that a person who tells you not to be friends with someone else is not your friend.
You're supposed to be "free" who you want to be with. Right? If you like both, then you like both.
Something as stupidly insignificant as "attention seeking" is childish and highschoolish.
It sounds like something out of a "Mean Girls" film.
And ironically, the main cast is a Cancer sun (Lyndsay)
Well, thanks for all your opinions. Especially the one insinuating I'm a "mean girl" 😉
I got my answer - Leos are not passive-aggressive! But since mine won't come out and say it, I will ask her if she thinks I am being disloyal, and we'll work it out. Like we always do. 🙂
I got my answer - Leos are not passive-aggressive! But since mine won't come out and say it, I will ask her if she thinks I am being disloyal, and we'll work it out. Like we always do. 🙂
Posted by lovealways06
Well, thanks for all your opinions. Especially the one insinuating I'm a "mean girl" 😉
I got my answer - Leos are not passive-aggressive! But since mine won't come out and say it, I will ask her if she thinks I am being disloyal, and we'll work it out. Like we always do. 🙂
No, LEOs aren't passive-aggressive.
This:
Posted by lovealways06
It's just annoying when I tell Leo I can't hang out and she says, "Why-- are you hanging out with Aquarius?" when I'm actually hanging out with my family/boyfriend or just want to be alone. Leo does not need to feel like I'm spending less time with her, because I'm not.click to expand
Sounds like something more akin to jealousy coupled with sarcasm-- what it is not, is passive-aggression.
Why she told you she had "no problem" with it, I think, may have stemmed from an expectation that you would see the light on your own-- when you didn't appear to see said "light", you get commentary like the above.
Because that wasn't supposed to happen-- and here's the thing: if she didn't love you dearly, she would NOT care.
But she obviously does, based on her strong reaction-- have mercy... jeez.
And Lisabeth is right about the Mean Girl statement; this particular Aqua certainly qualifies.
The lead in the film-- the Cancer, it should be noted, though she does initially align with them-- at the end, she does the about face, and puts them in their place.
Cancer (I will grudgingly admit, though they drive me a little crazy) *is* a loyal sign.
Update: Spoke to my Leo. She told me that she was making those comments because she was paranoid due to her major trust issues (from her cheating ex and friends who have done her wrong before). She said that she was OK with my decision to have Aquarius back in my life, and wasn't truly to guilt me or thought that I was being disloyal. So, we're good.
I agree that someone who is like a sister would not cut you out. But I think my loyalty to my friends is what is cause me to have a hard time letting Aquarius go. I know what she did was wrong and probably unforgivable, but it just hasn't completely clicked for me yet. Maybe it's a lesson I'll learn eventually.
Anyway thanks for your advice, Leos!
I agree that someone who is like a sister would not cut you out. But I think my loyalty to my friends is what is cause me to have a hard time letting Aquarius go. I know what she did was wrong and probably unforgivable, but it just hasn't completely clicked for me yet. Maybe it's a lesson I'll learn eventually.
Anyway thanks for your advice, Leos!
Passive agressiveness is not in Leo nature. I am thinking of all the friends I have and I cannot recall even one incident.
If you want to experience attention grabber, befriend a Sag girl. Leo girls, in my opinion, are reserved. They don't like acting silly but are rather social.
If you want to experience attention grabber, befriend a Sag girl. Leo girls, in my opinion, are reserved. They don't like acting silly but are rather social.
My best friend, Aqua from high school, actually cut me off because her new boyfriend did not want her to have friends. We were friends since kindergarden. That's an Aqua for you.
We connected again after many years -- that is after she got married to her (then) boyfriend -- and our re-connecting happened after their divorce.
As much as I like her, I also do not forget that she was easy in dropping me. We are no longer best friends... just friends.
We connected again after many years -- that is after she got married to her (then) boyfriend -- and our re-connecting happened after their divorce.
As much as I like her, I also do not forget that she was easy in dropping me. We are no longer best friends... just friends.
Posted by FUM
My best friend, Aqua from high school, actually cut me off because her new boyfriend did not want her to have friends. We were friends since kindergarden. That's an Aqua for you.
We connected again after many years -- that is after she got married to her (then) boyfriend -- and our re-connecting happened after their divorce.
As much as I like her, I also do not forget that she was easy in dropping me. We are no longer best friends... just friends.
Yeah, I get what you mean. I always have fun with my Aqua friend, but I don't think I can ever fully forgive her for cutting me off.
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