Leo Men— Was it just mine—

So you know the back story of my "ex"husband and I. So I am pretty much your classic Leo Woman. A couple of instance I am not. I am not a spender and material things are not important to me. Family, career, love, happiness, and my kids that is what makes me Royal. I do like attention, but I don't want to be the center of the attention. Like in social situations. I am 6'2 beautiful woman. I can stop a room cold and have them turn and look. That is good enough for me, you can go on with your business. But I am strong, ambitious, a leader, and goal oriented. I have low patience, if I want it, I want it now. I will stand strong in what I believe is right.
Now him....for years I always looked at him and questioned if he was even a Leo. He is very shy and quite (though that has changed recently). I was the dominant one in relationship. If I asked him about a decision, the response was whatever you want or think. OK, what do you think? Come on dude give me something for us to discuss or debate. Could he have been allowing me to be Queen of the Den? I just chopped it up to the real Pride. The Lionesses went out and got the food and the Lion protected the pride. Who knows? But he didn't give me what I saw as typical Leo aspects. Well until his "Big Dreams" manifested into his top priorities over his family. Now you show you Leo side.

He is a Sag moon. I am a Leo Moon.

Leoliza, that is what my thought was. They are a different creature then us. I can be quite when I first meet you. But I am observing and dissecting who you are and your personality, after that.....

Yes we are more blunt and straight forward. I tried to get those buttons pushed but it would cause him to seclude himself and lick wounds then come back and give me what I want. It drove me nuts, but I just maintained the leader of the family.

I married one too... it was a disaster!

How so? Just curious.

Posted by TheLioness79
How so? Just curious.

We were both head strong... however, I was more stubborn.

He had a very, very bad temper... for example, he would get a static shock from the air being so dry, he would yell, take his shoes off and throw it against the wall! I was petrified of him. Our fights were violent to the point where neighbors called the cops at least once a month... it was embarrasing.

He also had a gambling habit... he didn't have that habit prior to our marriage.

He was very insecure and wanted to be worshipped, which I refused. His bad temper is what caused me to withdraw. Whenever we would have our fights, I would run to this woman we both knew just to get away from my ex-husband and I learned that the two of them slept together.

After I learned he cheated on me, I kicked him out of our house. He came crawling back, as most men did. 🙂 But I never took him back. You do a Leo wrong only once. Right? 🙂

Oh hon, he should have been gone with the violence. That is NEVER tolerated. I am sorry you had to go through that. He needed to be GONE. And I am sorry you had to experience the cheating.

My man didn't have the temper, I was more the quick to hot then him. As I said below, he would withdraw himself and lick his wounds then come back. He did cheat once and I did let him back. It was early in our marriage. I was 19 and he 23 when we married and clueless what it took for a relationship. I had our infant daughter and pregnant when he did. We had a 7 month separation and I let him back. But I feel due to the circumstances and both being at fault in the marriage problems we should give it a try. It was actually the best thing to happen. I was 21 when it happened and grew so much as person during the separation and our relationship grew when we got together again and actually worked at it. We had another 12 years of marriage and I never felt he cheated again.

Oh, I'm sorry he cheated on you... that's my deal breaker. I'm so scared I'd catch STD... or worse, HIV.

He hit me once and it was the same night I discovered he cheated on me... that was all I can take. I kicked him out that evening... He was significantly older than me and I was so young and naive. I thought that if a man is at a certain age, he's done sowing his wild oats and have somewhat matured. That was my painful lesson that just because one is at a certain age, over 35 doesn't mean he/she has matured. I was 19. Our divorce was a nightmare because he wanted half of our asset whereas I'm the one who came into the marriage with the money.. he came in only with a friggin TV and a dresser. Then he targeted our daughter and wanted full custody to avoid child support... needless to say, I was traumatized by my marriage and really men and relationships overall. I haven't allowed any man to come close to me since and I know I'm hurting myself, but I can't bare to go through so much pain again for I gave it all in that marriage.

Whew, okay, session over! HAHAHA! This forum should charge $ 400/hr like therapists do! 🙂