puzzled need advice

Hi, sorry I will try to keep this as short as I can.....but I'm a gemini so probably not going to happen! 🙂

I randomly met a leo man while out of town on a work trip. This was around mid summer, and he lives a state away. I have only seen him twice in person total, but we talk all the time. We are like twins, completely alike in many ways. I was immediately into him, which doesnt happen often. Problem is he is always busy with work blah blah blah and has all these weekend plans with friends. I get frustrated and tell him since he's so busy to stop calling and texting, but he never stops! Just when I think I get rid of him he tricks me into talking to him again. I don't understand him, if you don't have time for a relationship right now, why not let me go completely?! When I try to ignore him he gets angry or says something cute that makes me not so upset anymore. He's playful like me so I have a hard time staying mad at him.

A little back story is we are both divorced. I know he was very hurt in his divorce and hasn't had a relationship since. I usually think well obviously he's not emotionally available so I will just move on. But he always checks in with me, tells me 'who knows what will happen with us someday' asks 'if things ever got with us serious would you move here'. A couple of weeks ago I told him I was getting ready for a date and he was blowing my phone up later that night asking if the guy managed to capture my interest. I hate how he strings me along! I really like him and want more from him and would be happy dating just him, but he says he doesn't have time for that now and takes his time when getting into relationships. I just feel drawn to him, but I'm at the point where I just can't talk to him if this isn't going anywhere because I'm only harming myself. I don't want someone I talk to all the time and never get to see, and he never makes plans with me.

We've never slept together, I told him I'm not giving so much of myself to him without a real commitment from him. I guess my question is, do male Leo's usually take their time before really letting someone in? Should I just not talk to him at all anymore? Is he just toying with me? I know y'all aren't mind readers, lol! He is so all over the place and even down right dramatic at times, I have no idea how he really feels. I wonder if he putting up a front and cares or just doesn't at all. I would appreciate any insight. 🙂

This isn't short at all

Oh and he is just making sure he has you ..


I'd be careful.. we all make time for what we want.

Good luck!

Thanks for both of y'alls comments! I have told him how I feel, and he wants me to just go with the flow and see how things work out. When I met him, he already had plans with his friends every weekend for the next 2 months. They fly to a bunch of stupid football games every weekend. I know I probably just need to distance myself. Everytime I have tried before though he will relentlessly text me until I give in again, like he's dead set on getting my attention and doesn't want me to move on because he might be ready someday. Oh well, I will just try again, lol

Sounds to me like he's stringing you along. And it might be because of his history. But you don't need to make excuses for him. IME when a male leo wants something he will go for it. From what you're saying sounds like hes keeping you to stroke his ego. I say cut the cord and let him go. He can say cutsie things on text but the fact of the matter is YOU are still answering his messages. Let him go. DON'T answer any of his messages or calls. You have to have some will power or give a months down the line he'll sweet talk you into meeting up with him for sex and you comply because he "tricks" you into it with still no commitment. Have some control. You don't want to be that girl. You know what you want. Let him go.

You might get a relationship down the line but he will never respect you. He's trying to get you under his thumb. Don't let him do it. Call him out on his bullshit. Stringing you along with this maybe shiiit. If I were you I wouldn't take it.

I've heard of good leos and bad leos and this one sounds like a manipulative motherfucker. Trust me I'm an Aries with LOTS of Leo experience. They are almost as blatant with their love as Aries (reason why Aries and Leos are a great combo).

You deserve better. You can do better.

Drop him like hes hot.

Posted by xtina
Drop him like hes hot.

BWAHAHA!!! Stare all you want I'm not taking it back! 😄

Posted by xtina
BWAHAHA!!! Stare all you want I'm not taking it back! 😄

lol jp.. yea, I agree, he's just playing games.... or rather keeping her as a second option..( like a lot of people do) just leos aren't as good with hiding it like others.

What I understand from your situation is this: he has made it sure you know how he feels for you, which is he likes you. And him asking questions like "if something serious.. blah blah.." i think he wants to MAKE SURE that his feelings are reciprocated. He might be feeling that you are emotionally distant or what, i don't know, maybe. Sometimes Leos are like that. If he senses that you are in it just as he is, he will pursue you like a lion who has not eaten for years.

And him saying he has 'plans' with his friends and all the crap? Nah. He lets you think he has options.