What does he really mean?

So my leo boyfriend keeps saying things to provoke me (he has mercury and venus in virgo). I've been in pensive mode lately about the state of our relationship (we've been bf/gf for about 3 months now). The relationship is much more intense than anything I've been in before so I feel it's getting pretty serious. Well anyway, last night he asks me out of nowhere "would you still be friends with me if we ended up breaking up?". I asked him if he thought that we would break up and he said of course not. I told him that if he was thinking that way, then maybe we should just be friends now to save the heartache but he insisted that he really wanted to be with me. He said that he just didn't ever want me out of his life. I'm not sure if he's just testing me or what. I'm just scared because I'm falling for him and I feel like he is too...i just don't know what causes him to ask those questions.

Ugh...sounds like me and "this girl". Us Leos can be real cowards sometimes. Seems to me he really likes you - indeed loves you - but the question is what kind of love it is? He doesen't dare to say he only wants friendship with you because you might walk out of his life. That's what I think.

what's your story?

jesus! you've been dating 3 months. he could have a crack habit and you might not even know it.

he wants to know if you two are genuinely friends...he doesn't want to break up. calm down and try not to read so much into everything.

disclaimer: i am female. u are asking a question regarding how a male thinks. i will try to do my best to help u but it's ultimately best to seek another male's opinion. hopefully i can give a leo perspective.

leos, kinda like cancer and taurus, become attached to those they love. if we really love u, or like u, we will want to keep u in our life even if things don't pan out in the long run. from what it appears to me, he is not saying that he is unhappy with the relationship at all. he just realizes that some things don't last and wants to be reassured that u'll still be there even if it's just as friends. once we love u we will always care for u and want for ur happiness. that's why there's a trend for us to still be friends with our exes. i guess it's hard for some ppl to fathom that we can still have loving feelings even when the romantic ones have dissipated.

well we were hanging months before we actually made things official.

i do overanalyze...i can't help it 😢. i just got scared maybe he wasn't feeling the same way i was so he was trying to find a nice way to break it off with me or something. it's really hard for me to open up the way i have with him so this is all new to me.

All I know is, us Leos get tunnel vision when we truly fall for someone. We will make you feel like the only woman in the room and if we want you, we will move mountains and look good doing it. I never say shit like, "blah blah '...if we broke up' " when I see my relationship has long-term potential. What you see is usually what you get with a Leo unless there are other forces at work. I have a scorpio moon with lots of virgo planets so I have more depth to me and can be underhanded at times I will admit.

Something us fire signs are victim to is wanderlust. We get scared when relationships start to get more serious and wonder "Are they the one?" "or can I do better??" (even at early stages in a relationship). Leos are very social animals and have a big heart, but we guard that lionheart like a cub. We have so much love to give, but need to be reassured that we ARE your #1 rockstar and won't lose you to someone else. We are simple and complex at the same time. The simple aspect being that if we are neglected for long enough, we will start looking elsewhere.

I will also second previous Leos by saying that we DO NOT like burning bridges. We are gluttens for punishment and had negative things like breakups. The worse thing to us is losing a friend.

*Leos hate the idea of a TRUE, UNAVOIDABLE LOSS....We may fuck up, but we do everything in our power to make it up to you.

I have noticed this. Leos really don't like ending/losing friendships. My best friend is a leo and she really tries to hold onto ..not only friends but ex boyfriends. N o matter how nasty she/they were.. she always tries to remain friends. I dont understand it. Maybe because i'm a scorpio and we can cut people out of our lives if to much pain occures. I've notice this with the leo guy im semi having a thing with. He keeps asking me if i've sorted things out with his friend virguy and when i told him that i only talk to him when i have to...he just put his hands to his head and said "it's the wrong appraoch"...i dont get why he thinks this but i took onboard what he said and now im talking to virguy dispite what he did to me and when i told leo guy..he was happy. He knew the reason why i had pulled away from him (he ripped my heart out of my ass) but it really bothered him that i didnt converse with virguy.....im still confused lol

Posted by Scorpchick
I have noticed this. Leos really don't like ending/losing friendships. My best friend is a leo and she really tries to hold onto ..not only friends but ex boyfriends. N o matter how nasty she/they were.. she always tries to remain friends. I dont understand it. Maybe because i'm a scorpio and we can cut people out of our lives if to much pain occures. I've notice this with the leo guy im semi having a thing with. He keeps asking me if i've sorted things out with his friend virguy and when i told him that i only talk to him when i have to...he just put his hands to his head and said "it's the wrong appraoch"...i dont get why he thinks this but i took onboard what he said and now im talking to virguy dispite what he did to me and when i told leo guy..he was happy. He knew the reason why i had pulled away from him (he ripped my heart out of my ass) but it really bothered him that i didnt converse with virguy.....im still confused lol

i feel this way too and i'm a taurus. for me, if someone hurts you and you're consciously/sub-consciously shutting them out of your life, then you have unresolved issues. whether you choose to acknowledge it or not, you're still carrying around that hurt and in a way, even after he's gone, the virgo is still having an impact on you. why would you want that?

so i believe that in cases like these, the best thing to do is to forgive. you don't have to forget but you can say to/within yourself that you're no longer going to carry the hurt that the other person has inflicted upon you. you therefore don't have to seek out their friendship, but you don't have to turn away either. turning away is a sign of weakness to me. standing your ground, not being phased by lesser mortals and their short-comings, that's divine.

Yeah..that part i get but i dont understand why the leo guy wants this. I mean..what buisness is it of his? it's between myself and the virgo..there has even been hints of jealousy. I thought it was because virguy is his friend and if something was to ever happen between leo guy and i ...leo guy wouldn't have to put up with any conflict and loose a friend etc....

I distance myself with someone as my way of detaching and trying to look at things objectively....not to mention come to terms with things. At some point i was going to start talking to him again..only when i was ready to but this whole "not-talking-to-virgo" seemed to be getting to the leo guy. Virgo is equally distant with me. He can come up and have a convo but he doesnt. I think the leo guy told him something about me and him because virgo was mighty pissed the next time he saw me at work. The virgo is still holding a flame for me (despite his girlfriend) and that is another reason WHY i didnt want to go near him, Not until he gets over it.


i thought he wanted me to become friends with him again because then it would make it more easy on the leoguy....

i dunno. leo doesn't seem like the type to bring ex-friends together so maybe he does have an alterior motive. you said leo is interested in you? so yeah, could be that he wants to see if you still have feelings for virgo? if so, not sure he'd want to go there unless he was sure that you wouldn't go back to virgo. i mean imagine dating the leo, breaking up with him because you realize you really wanted to virgo. now the leo has to deal with the rejection for like EVER. unlike the virgo who MIGHT get over, the leo would ditch both of ya.

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