Another Aries Woman Confused with her Libra Male!!

Hello I am new to this site so Im not too sure how to go about it, But I REALLY NEED YOUR HELP. So I can simply start at the begining. I met a Libra male about 3 months ago and I'm a little confused. He made it clear to me that he wants an 'open relationship' and he admitted to me that he's been with other girls. I've been doing my thing also . But I'm falling for him pretty hard. He admitted to me he cheated on his last 2 big relationships. He's been completley honest with me about everything. He said it's weird how he can be so honest with me because he was always used to lying to his exes about everything, but he can't and doesnt want to lie to me. We've been spending alot of time together. We see eachother at least twice a week. I've met his family and his friends. We have a great time together. One night we were at his place and were watching movies and he let me shave his beard for him..lol Sounds cheesy but it was romantic in a way. However it's not all golden times.. Twice I found girls shirts there...ughhhh. He said he most likely will never see them again so I threw them in the garbage right in front of him. But I cant say boo cause we agreed on an open relationship. One weekend I took off to Miami without telling him (since were not together I didnt think I owed him an explanation as to where and why i'm leaving) and he was really bothered by the fact that I disapeared like that. The night I came back from Miami I met up with him and his parents at a restaurant. We stayed there for a bit, danced had a few drinks, then we left to a dance club. He got pretty drunk. we danced together all night, he even introduced me to his friends as 'his girl'. At the end of the night we were outside waiting for a cab and he told me he hated me over and over then he asked me "do you know why I hate you? because I love you" I was shocked. Not too sure if I shouldve taken him seriously or not due to the fact that he was drunk. But I know when he drinks his honesty comes out. Then back at his place he hugged me, longer than ususal and I told him I loved him too. He stood back with a smile and said "really?" like he was shocked and happy with this huge smile on his face. The next morning he kind of said he didnt rememebr mmuch from the night before. I told him he was pretty verbal. He smiled as if he knew what I meant and asked me what he said. I told him not to worry it wasn't anything bad. A few days later he asked me again what he said that night so I told him,

he didnt say much...he was like 'uh huh' kind of. 2 days ago my ex came to see me from Miami cause he wants to get back together. I told him the whole story with my ex how he won't leave me alone, etc.. That day when I told him my ex was flying in to town and that I needed to talk to my ex about things and that I will call him tomorrow when he leaves. He called me an hr later to see if my ex arrived yet, which he did'nt. He kept me on the phone asking me what I was going to do? How will I handle things? Giving me advice on how to let him off easily and so on. When my ex finally arrived I told him I had to let him go and that I'll call him tomorrow. He still called me half hr later. I couldnt answer my phone, so he text me and told me he was headed out and to text him to let him know how it went, and wished me luck. He came to see me the next day and he couldnt stop asking me "Soooooo tell me what happened!!" I told him that I told my ex that him and I will never get back together because of the way that I feel about him. He wanted to know exactly what I said to my ex word for word. But I coulnt tell him that I told my ex that I'm in-love with someone else which is the reason I'll never go back to him. I couldnt tell him that I'm in love with him becasue he might freak out. He wanted me to tell him, but I didnt. Now I'm a bit confused...wtf is going on with him?? I spoke with him yesterday and he was with family and told me he will call me later. He didnt. So tonight I text him that I was thinking about him and hoped he was ok. He text me back telling me he's ok and that we will talk tomorrow. Ugghhhhh I dont get it..... Please I hope someone could shed some light on this situation.

Thank you for taking the time to read this long @ $ $ story of mine

Yes I am giving him hos space and stepping back. But the thing is I want a committed relationship. It's hard to agree to this whole 'open relationship' thing. I mean I'm hoping he'll evetually come around. Not sure if I am wasting my time here with him or not 😢 I feel like I'm in high school but I can't help it...lol Am I wasting my time??

I'm a 32 yr old impatient Aries/Pices Cusp, he's 29. I know complete opposite right? But fire does need air to keep burning bright 😉

Oh this shit isn't gonna work.

First off, why in the world would you settle for an open relationship??

Second, he's being cakey eaty. He wants open, but he wants you to be exclusive. So he gets to fuck around while you can't.

Just the first post alone pretty much outlined why you shouldn't bother with an individual like that. It's up to you what you want to do, but the whole thing has a shit ton of red flags.

Also, he will not come around. He's already admitted his morals are fucked and he will gladly keep this open so he can do as he pleases. You sitting there and waiting for him to "come around" and realize he wants exclusivity is fucking stupid, tbh. Why would you waste your time?? If he wanted to be in a relationship with you, he never would have agreed to an open relationship. He's just being a greedy asshole, tbh.

Posted by rockyroadicecream
Oh this shit isn't gonna work.

First off, why in the world would you settle for an open relationship??

Second, he's being cakey eaty. He wants open, but he wants you to be exclusive. So he gets to fuck around while you can't.

Just the first post alone pretty much outlined why you shouldn't bother with an individual like that. It's up to you what you want to do, but the whole thing has a shit ton of red flags.

Also, he will not come around. He's already admitted his morals are fucked and he will gladly keep this open so he can do as he pleases. You sitting there and waiting for him to "come around" and realize he wants exclusivity is fucking stupid, tbh. Why would you waste your time?? If he wanted to be in a relationship with you, he never would have agreed to an open relationship. He's just being a greedy asshole, tbh.

What a spot on!! Bravo ^^

talk with him . you guys need a great conversation about what do you want .

I think he wants something serious with you .

chat with him !

Ummm if a libra wants an open relationship, it's not good at all, the is the case of have my cake and eat it too, not good, to me from what u wrote, sounds like a test,min which u failed, he wanted to know what u would settle for, but in the end, u changed gears, and now u want an exclusive relationship, now the libra has to find a balance with all this, does he want an exclusive or open relationship, dang he's is real thinking mode, good luck

if ANY MAN wants an open relationship it's not good. I'm sure your not the first woman to fall for this trick, its a way for them to get a woman like you and have the hoes on the side too. Only thing is they get to throw this "OPEN RELATIONSHIP" tag up in your face anytime you get to trippin. And for the record this is NOT a LIBRA MAN thing, this is a trick played by MANY MEN of ALL the zodiac.

Ironically I will admit I fell for this line once. Only my guy was saying he needed time to get things in order so he could be the man I deserved. And guess what else, he was GODDANG ARIES! LOL. Very ironic huh? The roles just switched. Point being if you want more than leave.

Thank you for all of your responses guys!! I know it sounds crazy that I would even agree to the whole 'open relationship' thing. But I thought it was a way for us to spend time together, get to know eachother with no strings attached until we realized we wanted a real relationship or not. I know the way Libras are about making any type of decision (no offence..lol) so I thought he needed his time to make sure he's making the right decision. During these past few months we've gotten a lot closer and spend a lot more time together, he calls a lot more and its just generally more involved. So I'm thinking were making some progress. When you sit back and think about it all relationships begin like that right? you date for a few months until you're sure you want to settle down with that person. But in the meantime you can date others as well. Idk maybe I'm making upi excuses to make myslef feel better.

@pinklibra I'm sorry you had to deal you an Aries man to begin with lol. I was married (kind of still am, but we've been seperated for a 1 1/2 yrs now) and I can tell you that if an Aries man or woman tells you they want an open relationship you need to run as fast as possible. Aries men and women are jealous and possessive, so if they care about you at all they will NEVER want to share you or risk losing you....we never lose. Or at least thats what we think 😉 lol

My Libra man was in a relationship that ended a little less than a yr ago. They have a child together. Him and his mom both tell me that he was miserable with her because she was crazy jealous and possessive. Now she tries to manipulate the whole situation making him feel bad that he's not a man or a father because he's not there for his kid 24/7. He fully provides for his kid and see's him every other weekend sometimes more. Not a deadbeat at all, I'd never stand for a man like that. So she plays the guilt card with him.

I know I'm involved in the STUPIDEST situation especially at my age i should know better right?? But I can't frickin help it. I'm in love with him!!! I feel that any man, any person can change. I'm just wondering if this whole waiting game is Libra thing because he can't make up his mind. I know he cares deeply for me and doesnt want to lose me. I'm just not sure at this point if I should tell him what I want and for him to come to me when he decides what 'he' wants. Is that an ultimatum?? I wonder how a Libra would handle that..... From what I read they hate to be rushed but it hurts sitting around waiting for him make any decisions if he's even trying to make any decisions, or does he like this situation....ughhhhhh

As you can see I'm tortured by this, just not sure what to do. I don't want to lose him but i can't keep hurting myself.... 😢 ughhhhh wtffff

Welp, you're a lost cause.

Thank you all of your advice. I spoke with him today and he told me he's trying to work things out with his baby momma. To be honest I'm glad it happened this way because I don't think I would've been able to leave him. I know it sounds messed up and I should be stronger than that. Sad part is, is that I'm still in love with him.

Lessons learned people....lessons learned *sigh

Basically what I've learned from my life (& just general observation) is that if you want a commited man DO NOT sleep with him until you get that commitment FIRST. Sounds old fashioned, but as an Aries (Libra Moon) I do not enjoy having my time wasted by some d**khead looking for an easy f**k. I have better things to do with my time and you should too. I feel like you should sit down with him and let him know that you're developing feelings for him and due to the nature of your agreement you should stop seeing eachother. If he truly has feelings for you, he will agree to drop the 'open relationship' sh*t. Secondly, I firmly believe players like this go out of their way to find women who won't be able to figure them out or pin them down (ie. Fall in love) It is rare that a woman can fool one of these guys into a relationship. That being said, i truly believe that if a guy gets sex up front, your cards are all on the table and you have nothing left to play with. Everyone hates the game but that's just how it works, sorry.