Dated a Libra female, but we broke up?

I'm a Pisces male (b. 2/19/86) and dated a Libra female for about 6 months (b. 10/20/92). After a weekend of arguing via text she decided she thinks it's best we don't date anymore because she feels she doesn't have what it takes to be the girlfriend I want. In her defense I can see how she's scared and gets over emotional about it all because I was her first real boyfriend, and the first person she has ever fallen in love with.

She ended it because we fought all weekend about how she doesn't think she can live up to what I expect a girlfriend to be, even though I'm not very demanding. We live an hour and a half away from each other so it does become difficult to see each other. To avoid a big post, our breakup seemed minimal compared to some, (no cheating, other people involved, lying etc).

She texted me yesterday and explained she was sorry for hurting me and basically reiterated how she wants time alone etc. I told her I understand and that from my end there's no pressure and I don't expect much from her at all. The last thing she said was she wants me, loves me but is just scared. So I will keep my word and not bother her, she knows how I feel about her.

I posted here to see what other Libra women can chime in. I have never dated a Libra before so I do not know if there are chances she may come back or if she is actually gone for good. I also can't help noticing there's a lunar eclipse in Libra next Saturday if that has any role in this. We left on a good note and I was very calm with what I told her which was only that I love her and all of her. Thank you.

Tried not to rant too much. But her band played a show last Saturday and the Friday prior she had to let another band use all her's equipment. Friday morning her and I talked fine and normal while I was at work and I didn't hear from her in a couple hours so I texted her and asked why she wasn't being very talkative and she said she was mostly driving and got caught up in stuff she hadn't planned. I thought it was weird bc normally she'd tell me "I gotta do such and such in case you don't hear from me." And since she didn't I said it was unusual and she got a little annoyed and took me as trying to start a fight when I wasn't. So we hashed it out and forgave each other and again Saturday was the same thing, I didn't hear from her. I asked what was up now and she said her band was practicing for a bit and thought I was mad so she was kinda waiting for me to text her first. I sort of picked a fight this time saying why all of a sudden she choose not to text me when she always had no problem and it went back and forth and I didn't hear from her until Sunday night with her saying she hoped I had fun at the shows I had tickets for (it was 2 days). It turned into me basically saying I don't know how she thinks because she played a show that means she shouldn't feel any need just to say hello to me, etc.

It started as me being kind of wishy washy about if I'm even happy when she doesn't know communication is important and she was sorry but then it turned around into her second guessing if she's even ready for a relationship because in her words "she thought she was doing ok but I always seem to be unhappy with her." Monday and Tuesday afterwards when we talked I tried giving her my side best I could and said she basically is the only thing that does make me happy but in the end she still doubts it and herself and chooses to be alone now. In a nutshell she gets overemotional and looks at everything in a bad way or that our whole relationship was bad when we actually had a good relationship. Without a doubt the best relationship I've ever been in.

My worry is she'll choose to never change her mind and I'll never be with her again despite how quickly we fell for each other and how deeply we fell in love, something I didn't expect. For now I'm giving her the space she asked for and hoping for the best. In my past I've only dated Aquarius females predominately, so dating a Libra seemed much more positive within dating.

so what is your question?

what do u want to know?

Let me chime in because I can see myself in her behaviour. What`s happened (im like 90% sure) is that she really loves you, a lot and now she`s scared in case she won`t get at least that level of love from you in return. I do this all time, saying that I need space when all I really want is for you (obviously not you persoanlly)! to reassure me. If you contact her (not by text, actually call her or see her) and let her know exactly what she means to you she will change.

Good luck! 🙂

I initially asked my question in the first post, but elaborated on what happened in my second. Question was: do libra women come back?

And to answer the other replies, I wasn't as demanding as it seems. There's plenty of times when we don't talk for multiple hours when we know each other's busy. She panics if I don't answer her within 20 minutes sometimes. My point from last weekend was I didn't KNOW she was busy bc she didn't either. And even when she is busy she almost always texts me for a second just to say "I love you" and that will be it which in the end is all I ever expect. Her completely not saying anything without any reason was why I questioned, and questioned politely I may add, not forcefully.

It's been a full day since we haven't spoken which is the longest since we've ever talked and I will continue to give her space and not bother her. Something I always find hard but I like my original post, do Libras end it and never come or look back? Or do Libra's just need a little space until they come around?

Posted by spiritofjosh
I initially asked my question in the first post, but elaborated on what happened in my second. Question was: do libra women come back?

i think it depends on how far you are into the relationship. if it is just the beginning and you are still getting to know one another, then yes i would probably come back.

if however, you know each other reasonably well (and it sounds like you do if you are professing love to one another), then i would be much less inclined to return. i would prefer to stay involved and deal with the issue. if i leave then it is the start of a general decline of my feelings. i may come back but won't be fully invested like i once was but most of the time if we have stopped speaking, i have stopped caring.

Posted by Sola
Let me chime in because I can see myself in her behaviour. What`s happened (im like 90% sure) is that she really loves you, a lot and now she`s scared in case she won`t get at least that level of love from you in return. I do this all time, saying that I need space when all I really want is for you (obviously not you persoanlly)! to reassure me. If you contact her (not by text, actually call her or see her) and let her know exactly what she means to you she will change.

Good luck! 🙂

that's fucked up.

Thanks for the responses everybody.

The only thing I want to add in case it makes any difference is the lack of experience she has in relationships. I am her first boyfriend, first love etc which I feel I may have mentioned. But she's barely even liked anybody before me. Wasnt ever one of those boy chasing girls and has a very small group of friends she hangs with. She was the one open to friends but never caught feelings until we first met basically. Since we're both shy it took us a year to actually start talking and it all happened from there......in case this is all important haha.

Posted by Sola
Let me chime in because I can see myself in her behaviour. What`s happened (im like 90% sure) is that she really loves you, a lot and now she`s scared in case she won`t get at least that level of love from you in return. I do this all time, saying that I need space when all I really want is for you (obviously not you persoanlly)! to reassure me. If you contact her (not by text, actually call her or see her) and let her know exactly what she means to you she will change.

Good luck! 🙂

I call it self preservation. If it's indicated to me that there's not likely to be enough reciprocation I will carry the emotional weight inside and ease out of the situation.

In my defense with her I bought up everything you just mentioned; lack of real communication, understanding etc which she turned from "just don't see it working" to "I want you and I love you but I'm scared." After that I let her be because it doesn't seem to be my call really. We've through a period where we doubted each other bc I got frustrated in her lack of understanding where she would jump to the most emotional decision she could and just give me "I don't know, I don't know," then an hour or two later say she was sorry for overreacting and that "I'm always right." I guess in a way I'm giving her some space to think and sort it all out, but it's been almost 2 days since I've heard from her.

And to mention in conjunction with another poster....why do I want her? My reasons are vast and I could go on and on and nothing has changed before we got to really know each other, while we dated and to this moment. The positives she has outshines all the over emotional outbursts and rash decisions. I just have little experience with Libra women hence why I came here.

Friday morning her and I talked fine and normal while I was at work and I didn't hear from her in a couple hours so I texted her and asked why she wasn't being very talkative and she said she was mostly driving and got caught up in stuff she hadn't planned. I thought it was weird bc normally she'd tell me "I gotta do such and such in case you don't hear from me." And since she didn't I said it was unusual and she got a little annoyed and took me as trying to start a fight when I wasn't. So we hashed it out and forgave each other and again Saturday was the same thing, I didn't hear from her. I asked what was up now and she said her band was practicing for a bit and thought I was mad so she was kinda waiting for me to text her first. I sort of picked a fight this time saying why all of a sudden she choose not to text me when she always had no problem and it went back and forth and I didn't hear from her until Sunday night with her saying she hoped I had fun at the shows I had tickets for (it was 2 days). It turned into me basically saying I don't know how she thinks because she played a show that means she shouldn't feel any need just to say hello to me, etc.
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Sounds to me you are the one with the problem. Routine was shifted and you "panicked" You sorta picked a fight and accused of her something...in which bottom line was she was just busy. Seems like both of you are a bit immature in the relationship scene. Things shift and change..if you expect routine in a relationship don't get into one you will be disappointed. She let you go because you did make her feel like she wasn't good enough. So look at your actions and you and her have a talk and see if it is best to continue the path.

Above post is right and the revelation I've noticed. My main problem stems from past relationships. Always dating Aquarius women, they always seemed to do what they wanted even if they knew it would hurt me. So from experience with them "a change of pace" was always a sign of something about to change for the worse. I unfortunately brought that insecurity into this relationship when I shouldn't have.

OHHH... why our stories are similar.
I'm libra sun, libra venus. And I'm dating a Pisces moon and Pisces venue guy. He's my first bf ever!!
YES! I'm scared. I'm scared that I might be too clingy, needy, I might make him bored etc. I'm scared of everything will ruin our relationship.
Of course, I don't have these problems at all when we're friends.
I always wait for him to initiate the conversation. I was too emotional from small things sometimes bc I need to make sure that he likes me in the same level as mine. I will be upset if his respond isn't the same as I expect.
Please don't blame her. She and I don't have any experiences in a relationship. We're like that bc we care about our bfs too much.
Show her that you like her.