Do libras expect you to drop your world for them

Just asking since this lad asks me out last minute and seems so indecisive and when he finds out I have plans he pulls away so fast as if he saw a ghost.

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I've waited for him and when I do he doesn't ask me then when I give up on him he does. is that a normal libra trait? if that is the case then do libras need someone that can't make decisions and need to be told what to do and obey libras?

It's tricky, we need someone that acts as if they don't need us and someone who gives us and only us all the attention. But usually when a libra can't make up his mind about going out with someone. He's just not into you. Still tricky though because remember things have to be in balance for us to respond right away. He could be low on cash, trying to chase someone else, work is stressful, car not clean, it could be very minor things to stop us in our tracks. So don't think on it too hard, it may not have anything to do with you. I would never suggest to wait for a libra, we want what we want, when we want it...... so if it's you, you will know. So don't fall victim of a Libra testing several options before settling for someone who's waiting.

Even if they tell you that they like you a lot? Libra men confuse me. Whenever mine is coming, he just texts me "On my way". I'm like, man! Can you give me a minute. One day he caught me looking a mess, but he still hung out. So, how do you know if you should wait or if he is really making a decision to be with you in the future? I asked mine could he see himself with me like that and he said yes, I just know that he didn't mean right now. And he insinuated him being my boyfriend. Is this typical Libra male behavior? It's as if he went through all the steps in his mind, fanatisizing about it...but there is one more thing: he won't have sex with me anymore...We have done it a lot and he says he likes me, spends time, calls, texts, drives by my house on the way to his job, etc. but we havent had sex in about a month and a half. What's the deal?

well what did u expect from him, you had plans. we feel like if you cant make plans at that moment for us then fucc it and that time away is evaluation time

I am a libra and I am going to be completely honest with you. I would expect someone to drop everything they are doing if:

In the past he has done so many times without prior notice; does things on my terms - and he has obliged me.
I have him on ice or he is a backup if the man I really wanted to be with was busy - and he has obliged me.
I know I have this person's nose wide open and he will do anything to please me and I don't have to reciprocate - and he has obliged me.
If I was bored out of my noggin and was randomly calling folks - and he has obliged me.


If I was a betting woman I would wager $ 5.00 that you have obliged this dude at least once(?)

I believe in spontaneity and all BUT I also prefer/believe in having manners, being considerate of another person's time/feelings/interest, and planning events/dates.

libras are bad with keeping track of time and sticking to a regular schedule and such, so we do just tend to make last minute plans. and we're usually pretty flakey.

to say that we'd expect you to drop your world, that just isn't fair. you've got every right to be busy.

if you want to see how serious he is about you, you should explain to him that you're busy a lot. give him a choice between maybe 3 possible timeframes that you are available to hang out with him, and that he's got to make plans now because something else will fill them all if he doesn't choose one now.

scorp...if he's not sleeping with you anymore, something is definitely off. libras suck at being direct and honest, so don't bother asking. have you made your feelings obvious or do you hide them?

scorp, when u say he wont have sex with you anymore, do u mean that he aint picking up on the signs of sexual intent?

Libras are sensitive souls, and rarely known for being the aggressor so if we feel like we've been blown off in any way the aggression leaves until we evauluate it

Well, he has been trying to move and I have been helping him find another place and such. But we spend practically almost everyday, ALL day together...This has been going on for a while, unless I have something to do (I work for myself..can work on phone and computer anywhere, just so you don't think I am a free loader, lol). For example, he takes me to work with him to keep him company. And we talk, laugh, eat, joke around, etc. He gives me little touches every now and then. But it never fails: every morning he texts me asking me if I am going to go with him. And if I don't go, he will come by my house or call or something. He has met my mom and brother...He is just getting out of something and he said that he would not be opposed to give us a try and I see him actually doing that, just not right now...he said he would be a fool to. And I agreed. I don't want to be the rebound. We talk about the sex we USED to have and how good it was (😄), but I don't know if he is just taking his time to be really good friends first or just to like start the whole thing over the right way before he decides (if he decides) to take it to the next level with me. But who takes someone to work with them all day, every day? Who can actually stand that? I mean, seriously, he is a Libra MALE.
He tells me he likes me a lot and that my smile is adorable and that I have pretty this/that. Cool. I love it, but I take it with a grain of salt because I don't want to fall too much in love than I already am. We went apt hunting together. He took me outta town with him to one of his softball championships. We went to SC on business that I had. I mean, it's like he is always wanting to know what is up with me, what I am doing, etc. But he won't have sex with me!!?? I don't know if he has that much going on, but damn. Come on. I try to keep it cool, but I let him know little things...but it is getting real hard to be with him all day and not get any. Is this normal?

@Curious: We both have made our feelings known to each other. Is he like, waiting for the right moment or something?

@Pride: Stevie Wonder can see how much I like him. It's obvious. People can see how much he likes me. I just don't know why we aren't doing it...What could be going on with him? I know he is stressed and that could be it. I just wish I knew if/when it was going down again. Not that that is all I want. I want him...all.