Do you think i will hear from him again

My libra partner dumped me about 5 weeks ago saying that his feelings have changed and he no longer feels the same, he said this has been the best 7 months he has had in a relationship ever which kind of threw me. He contacted me 3 days after the break up and couple times after that and also has explained the reason he ended the relationship the responsibility of being in relationship i.e seeing me, contact and general relationship duties became to much for him. He also insists there is no one else.

when he has spoken to me he has commented that it ha been nice to hear my voice and when I went to collect my belongings he comments that it was nice to see me.

I often wonder if he try to get back with me although it looks as if he is getting on with his life and is quite happy.

Any thoughts—

Yes you will...Libra's always comes back when then they screw up, but not for the reason you want. He just wants to keep the revolving door open. In MOST cases, rarely does Libra's come back to a relationship that they left. That's kinda universal for both male & female Libran's. He was the one that probably screwed up and is feeling guilty so to ease his guilt, he's going to tell you what you want to hear to stay in your good graces. Don't get on the Rollercoaster Relationship Ride. My advice, and no matter how bad it hurts is to move on with your life. It won't be good for you. Good Luck Hun.

Posted by Lust
He is no longer attracted to you for sure. He came across a better option: maybe sexier girl prettier, smarter..and that got him thinking and trigger his courage to break up with you. He sorta saw potential for an up grade...
He is being sweet to you to try his best to ease the pain that might cause you..

I don't think he will turn his back on you when you need help or some one to talk to...but you need to upgrade your self if you want him back..
If I were you, I stay polite to him & start thinkinng about my self, not worry about him at all. He gave you a closure already

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Posted by Lust
He is no longer attracted to you for sure. He came across a better option: maybe sexier girl prettier, smarter..and that got him thinking and trigger his courage to break up with you. He sorta saw potential for an up grade...
He is being sweet to you to try his best to ease the pain that might cause you..

I don't think he will turn his back on you when you need help or some one to talk to...but you need to upgrade your self if you want him back..
If I were you, I stay polite to him & start thinkinng about my self, not worry about him at all. He gave you a closure already

Or maybe he is still making up his mind and doesn't know what he wants. But I digress, sounds as though he is trying to let you down gently. But absolutely, as hard as it is you need to begin thinking about yourself. If he keeps contacting you, throw it at him directly and say "what do you want" or "there's nothing more to say." There is no problem making him see the error in his ways especially if he is trying to woo you back. Sometimes Libs need the tough side of reality.

Thank you guys.

I agree its best to move on and see that there is something or someone else he is seeking.

Well he dosen't love you anymore. That's for sure. Librans care about other's emotions.They don't want to hurt anyone. This guy knows that he has hurt you by dumping you and maybe he is feeling guilty too for hurting you. Thatswhy he is being nice and caring. Its not his love towards you, it's just that, he wants you to be fine with everything.

It's the truth though. This is how a lot of Libra guys operate.

They fall fast, and leave fast. That rosy little picture of the object of their affection has changed and they decide to end it due to finding something new and shiny to distract them.

He's just playing nicey so he can stay in her good graces and keep her around as an option for anything, really (but usually sex/some sort of emotional crutch to have in between women).

When my moron ex broke up with me, he gave me all sorts of retarded reasons (one being a promotion as an excuse to not have time, despite him talking about possibly getting this promotion prior and during our dating), and I flat out asked him why the hell did he get into a relationship then?

"I thought that's what I wanted..."

Guys like this need to stay the hell away from the female population. Anyone who does this, should, really. Know what the hell you want or gtfo. It's maddening for the other people involved. It's just a very immature and selfish way to go about dating- jumping in left and right and then backing out because one gives it no thought when screwing around with someone else's emotions.

In the OP's case, he's already mind fucking her because he's so concerned about how she may view HIM that he's being overly friendly and saying stupid shit that confuses her. "I don't want to be with you, but I'll still lay it on thick because I don't want to be seen as the bad guy."

Guys like this need to learn what they want and break it off and be done. None of this fretting over what someone else thinks. You done fucked up. Deal with it.

OP, you're better off moving along. As was mentioned above, you'll just end up on a fucked up rollercoaster that's difficult to get off of once you get strapped in.

Posted by gemguyaz34
Or maybe he is still making up his mind and doesn't know what he wants. But I digress, sounds as though he is trying to let you down gently. But absolutely, as hard as it is you need to begin thinking about yourself. If he keeps contacting you, throw it at him directly and say "what do you want" or "there's nothing more to say." There is no problem making him see the error in his ways especially if he is trying to woo you back. Sometimes Libs need the tough side of reality.

You really, really need to stop enabling bad behavior and making excuses for it. It's clear as day what this guy is doing and you're making excuses and creating false hope that deep down, he may really want her.

If he can't decide, well he needs to stay at home until he can figure his shit out. No woman with any sort of self respect is going to wait around while this boy, disguised as a man, decides what he wants. This may be how you operate, but you don't need to encourage women to cling to some non existent glimmer of hope. Women are already expected to tolerate a lot of bullshit from the male gender in dating.

She doesn't need to encourage his contact either. You know what else works? Ignoring his lame ass. He made he it clear he doesn't want to be with her and he has no business contacting her to say a bunch of frilly shit to make him feel better about what he did.

Btw, in case you failed to notice, he has decided what he wants- it's not her. Not after 7 months of dating. That's well beyond "doesn't know what he wants/still making up his mind. That's all she needs to know so she can move along. If he changes his mind, well that's his problem to deal with, not hers. There is no such thing as buyer's remorse with someone else's feelings.

That's all dating is to a lot of Libras- Buyer's remorse and it's fucked.

Thank you all again.

Im going to keep focused on me I agree he has made it clear that its done.

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Posted by gemguyaz34
Or maybe he is still making up his mind and doesn't know what he wants. But I digress, sounds as though he is trying to let you down gently. But absolutely, as hard as it is you need to begin thinking about yourself. If he keeps contacting you, throw it at him directly and say "what do you want" or "there's nothing more to say." There is no problem making him see the error in his ways especially if he is trying to woo you back. Sometimes Libs need the tough side of reality.

You really, really need to stop enabling bad behavior and making excuses for it. It's clear as day what this guy is doing and you're making excuses and creating false hope that deep down, he may really want her.

If he can't decide, well he needs to stay at home until he can figure his shit out. No woman with any sort of self respect is going to wait around while this boy, disguised as a man, decides what he wants. This may be how you operate, but you don't need to encourage women to cling to some non existent glimmer of hope. Women are already expected to tolerate a lot of bullshit from the male gender in dating.

She doesn't need to encourage his contact either. You know what else works? Ignoring his lame ass. He made he it clear he doesn't want to be with her and he has no business contacting her to say a bunch of frilly shit to make him feel better about what he did.

Btw, in case you failed to notice, he has decided what he wants- it's not her. Not after 7 months of dating. That's well beyond "doesn't know what he wants/still making up his mind. That's all she needs to know so she can move along. If he changes his mind, well that's his problem to deal with, not hers. There is no such thing as buyer's remorse with someone else's feelings.

That's all dating is to a lot of Libras- Buyer's remorse and it's fucked.

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I understand where you are coming from and agree with a lot of what you say, you could stand to be a little less harsh sometimes with your words. While I understand you have been hurt it is not always a one size fits all. I was only throwing the idea out there. There are two sides to the story and you cannot always go with the status quo. I don't see how anything I said is enabli

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*enabling bad behavior or making excuses. I said in so many ways that she needed to leave the issue with him. She doesn't need to just cut him completely out. Yes he does need to think about his actions and then approach after the fact and she should in the meantime get on with what she needs to do. But playing the silent treatment abused victim game gets nothing accomplished.

Libra's, very wishy washy. This will be an emotional Rollercoaster, or revolving door syndrome as I like to call it. He most likely will come back after he feels like he misses you. However, if in fact, he really doesn't care, he would have given plenty of signs, and try to let the relationship die, forcing you to breakup with him, then he wouldn't come back. If none of that happened, he will be back. You can be strong and move on, or stay and go through his emotional chaos.