Does he know I'm interested? Is he interested?

So I met this Libra Man through a meetup.com. He was this quiet guy who only spoke when spoken to.

The first night I met him he stayed until the very end and ended up walking me to my car. It was very sweet and he was cute. I wanted to get to know him slowly.

I invited him more and more events with ppl I became friends with through the meetup.com site and every single time I asked him or suggested he come he always showed up. As time went on he's become more outgoing moreso than me.

In the past he's always taken the time to initiate convos with everyone there but usually he usually sits with me or walks near me. He doesn't always talk to me if you compare it to others

I've known him two months now after hanging out with him in groups and alone once (don't know if he considered it a date) I've taken an interest in him. His intelligence and calm nature intrigues me.

But ever since I acknowledged that to myself I felt so much pressure to win him over I went from being outgoing to quiet because I never knew what to say anymore.

Question is:

I don't know what he thinks about me. All I know is he usually sits near me, always parks near me, goes to everything I invite him to whether its groups or alone but idk. I feel like he could be talking to me more than he is.

I'm definitely trying to take the time to get to know him in a light and fun atmosphere but I don't wanna be friendzoned

He's definitely interested as those are things I would do. I enjoy going out regardless, so usually say yes to any invite the person I am interested in puts out there. I'll have a good time regardless of what it is anyway, so a chance to do something that someone I am interested in wants to do is a good thing. Plus, I enjoy seeing them interact with the people they are close too. Always interesting to see how people are outside of the bubble you share with them. My assumption would be that your initial outgoingness showed him he could be his outgoing self, but now that you are drawing in he might be slightly confused. At this point, start making plans to do things alone. Perhaps attempt to get him to ask you, but whatever it may be make it just the two of you.

I know people often confuse me when they continually ask me to go out in groups with them. On one hand, I think "ok they want to spend time with me and get their friend's opinion", but on the other hand eventually it begins to turn into "they must only see me as a friend." So if you are interested, enough group stuff.

Honestly, if he's anything like me, we misconstrued things often enough that we'd just continue the trend rather then be rejected. I ran into an issue where I thought she wanted me to ask her out, she said yes, and then bailed on me. If I get invited out often enough for just group events I eventually assume we are just friends. I'll still go out, but not expect anything to transpire and I'll still hang mainly with you. I suspect her probably said yes to a number of things he wasn't interested in, but merely because of his interest in her. If that's where my interest lied, then that's where I'd focus my time. At this point she needs to make overtures that say she's interested.

Believe it or not, we get abused as much as people complain we abuse them. Nothing better then a Libra ego booster.

hey baby, why you be talking about me?

As far as I know, I am always in the wrong. Come on too strong, not strong enough. Listen too well, don't listen enough. Go with the flow too much, way to uptight about things. And the old faithful...oh didn't realize that upset you.

Been burned enough that sometimes the best course of action is to do nothing.

Posted by theGrinch
As far as I know, I am always in the wrong. Come on too strong, not strong enough. Listen too well, don't listen enough. Go with the flow too much, way to uptight about things. And the old faithful...oh didn't realize that upset you.

Been burned enough that sometimes the best course of action is to do nothing.

*shocked because this is exactly how I feel* Let's hold hands in solidarity.

Oh my God, Grinch, I didn't realize that was you. 😆

Thank you all for your advice. I forgot I posted this but here's an update:

I asked him in an indirect way if he wanted to check out this entertainment place with me (has arcade, bowling, darts, ping pong, pool, snack bar etc). He's been to it but at a diff location before but wanted to come anyway. I told him I had to go to a festival this past Saturday and if he wanted to go to the fun center on Saturday. He said he'll go to the festival and we could talk about the fun center there.

At the festival via meetup.com the only ppl that showed up was the libraan, me, and a mutual friend and her bf. I've been in my head too much so I wasn't as talkative. Too much pressure I guess. He mostly spoke to the couple (mutual friend and her bf) but he did talk to me occasionally and especially the last half of the festival. During the festival we all went kayaking and then to a pizza place. He and I shared a pizza.

He mentioned the fun center and talked about it and seem excited to go at least that's what my friend said. She said we looked cute together especially when we talked but I didn't notice half the stuff she did.

Found out that he parked near me yet again (he's done that for every event we both have been at).

I hugged him goodbye and he asked if we could go to the fun center late afternoon as he wanted to sleep in because he's been super exhausted the past few days... I told him that it was fine and just give me a call when he woke up.

And he did. We went late afternoon and we played arcade games, pool (I beat him moreso), ping pong) he beat me so I had to dance DDR lol), he split his ticket winnings with me so we both got a dinky little prize.

Then we went to dinner (he drove) had decent talk and shared a few laughs. He dropped me off at my car, I thanked him for coming, he said he had fun and that was it.

He pretty much paid for the entire night even though I invited him.

When I got home I sent him a thank you text: "Hey thank you again for coming. I really had fun tonight. We must do it again soon. "

He replied with: "Hi Scorpio Female79, I had fun too. Thank you for letting me win at pool. Thank you also for being a good sport at ping pong. I'll always be up for hanging out with you. Have fun on vacation. PS you still owe me dessert. 🙂 "

Btw. The dessert joke primarily was with the ping pong bets. Round 1- I won so he had to buy me dinner. Round 2 - He won so I had to buy him dessert. Round 3 - he won so I had to do DDR

We never got dessert when we went to dinner so that's what that means.

Anyhoot, I replied to that and I said "Haha you remembered! Yeah I feel the same too but next time's your choice just let me know 🙂 "

What do you all think?