Does he mean it?

Ok so, me and Libra ben messing around for a long time. He's told me in the past that he promises someday things will change and blah blah. I know it was probably BS like any typical man would say when they got a hot piece of a $ $ catoring to them whenever they call. Anyway, we were friends as well as FWB's. I just got alitle tired of all the things he's told me and here we are months later, and still in the same position. Anyway, I decided to give him an ultimadium. I sent an email asking him if anything was ever goign to come of us. I told him how I am a bit confused about the way we are, and wanted to know if he saw any potential in this relationship ever. I also said, if he didn't- then it was time to say goodbye. So I send the email and he replies. He wrote back a very cold unthoughtful email. He told me that he really enjoys what we do together but we would never be together, he always knew this was going nowhere, and he's sorry if he hurt me. He also said I hope you find what your looking for.

The email was cold, short, and I could tell he was pissed off whern he read it. I feel that underneath it all he was saying this, "Listen- I told you time and time again to just give me time. I don't want a girlfriend right now cuz I just lost one so stop pressuring me into being your boyfriend. This is the third time you've brought this up and frankly I'm sick of it. You can't handle how I am right now and your getting your feelings too involved here- so I'm goin to have to cut you off, I don't want to cuz I really like sleeping with u, but you obviously cannot handle the FWB thing for now- so goodbye"...That's how I interpreted it. He says we would never be together and that really bothers me, cuz he never even gave me a chance. Ok so he's cold hearted right now and I knwo someday he will want to love again. Right now though- he hates women. I may not be that woman for him, and I think he made himself clear. But my question is this- we really did have great sex together. There is no denying that. He turned me on just by LOOKING at me and vice versa. The sexual chemistry we had was like nothin I have ever experienced before. It became like a drug to me honestly. My question is, I know he's pissed right now, and he's goin to distance himself from me now. But does anybody think that one night down the road, he's going to contact me again for sex? Granted I know this may take months, but somewhere inside myeself I feel like this isn't over yet.

BTW I did not reply to his cold hearted email. My choice was to stay silent, and I will stay silent forever. i won't call him, contact him, or even acknowledge him anymore. It hurt like a bitch when he sent that email. I was crying for days. I'm still upset about it, but I will not contact him ever again. If he wants to talk tome someday, he can initiate the conversation. But yeah like I was asking- does anybody think he will conatct me again someday? And keep inmind I AM aware that he clearly stated "we would never be together". I'm not asking if there is hope for a relationship, I'm just asking if he will lose control of his hormones soemday and give me a call. I want to have the last laugh here, and I feel like even though I decided to end thsi first- HE had the last word and frankly I'm mad about that! It took alot for me to write that email knowing it would end, and still in his reply he got the last hurtful word. So I want him to call me someday so that I can turn HIM down and show him how it feels. Any insight would be greatly appreciated here!!

Thanks! The way he wrote it, like I said was so cold! And I know for a fact he didn't even think about what he was saying when he wrote it. He literally opened it and replied immediatly. I actually spent the night with him the day before. I thought when he called to invite me over, that he had read it already but when I got there, turns out he didn't. I asked if he saw it yet and he said "what email?" So I was like oh crap! So I spent the night and told him to read it when he gets a chance. So he read it the next day.

My friend made a good point to me- she said "put yourself in his shoes. He just had great sex with you the night before, he was feeling good in the morning, had a nice time with you- you go home, then he sits down to have breakfast and reads your ultimadum email asking to be his girlfriend again." So yeah he was pissed off. I have a feeling though it's going to be a while before I hear from him again. But I'm sure one night when he's out with his friends and his hormones are acting up, he's going to say to himself "Damn! Why did she have to send me that email, why did I respond the way i did?!". I know for a fact I'm a hot girl lol I'm young, I got a great body and I know I'm beautiful. I know that sounds real conceited lol But I have men comin on to me left and right honestly. I'm just picky in who I choose to be with. All he ever said to me was how freakin hot and gorgeous I was and I so knew he meant that. He shows it by the way he attacks me sexually. The sex we had was animalistic really lol. It was great. None of what he said did he say to "make me feel good". He said that stuff cuz he damn well meant it.
Now what he looks like isn't very attractive at all. Hes overweight by a large margin, he's in his 30's, and is balding. My friends think I'm nuts! Sometimes so do I lol But any girl can tell you that this guy is not "that" guy in the bar who you look at and say "Oh wow! I want him!". He's the type where if you don't know him, you will not find him attractive. So I know he isn't mr popularity with the girls based on his physical appeareance. If I saw him out on the street, I wouldn't even look twice. I wouldn't even notice him honestly. If he was some gorgeous hot young guy, I'd say this is totally over cuz he will no problems in finding a new hot young girl.
I hope he does regret this and I hope one day he realizes just how lucky he was to have a girl like me in his life. A girl who woulda been faithful, good hearted,

woulda done anythin in my power to keep him happy, is great in bed, and is damn good looking! lol I hope he has the best of luck going out there trying to find a woman his own age who is like me and is SINGLE. Most people I know at his age are either married, has been married and with children now, or is in a long term relationship. So good luck. I just want the last laugh, I really do. And I hope one day he comes back when I am happily involved with some hot guy and totally in love so I can say "Sorry- you are too late". Thsi happened to me a while back with a Pisces male and he regrets it to this day. He came backto me two years later begging me to take him back. Screw you man lol So I know inmy heart he will be back someday, I just hope by then I am over him and have moved on.

CasperAries, yes he will probably pop back into your life but to be honest? the cold email? you have to move on - forget him (I know its hard)....he knew exactly what he was writing when he replied to you....that is his cross to bear if he has regrets, which I believe he will (as you said)....dont waste your life worrying about a guy like this though...you told him how you felt, you told him you wanted more, he squashed you like a little bug with harsh words...been there with my Libra...I know all too well but I know all too well too though, that he'll be sitting at home feeling sorry for himself for a VERY LONG TIME!!!

Dont you do that to yourself - life is too short for regrets 🙂.....I doubt he's thinking though, that "I got the last laugh", I just doubt that so very much....he just isn't interested in a r/ship for now....you have to accept that but you must stand by your words and let it be OVER.

Good luck with that 🙂

Arianlatay- I'm an Aries too. He's my "opposite" so I assume that is why I'm so hooked on him :-/ Or was hooked rather. I'm alright, everyday it gets a little easier to accept the fact that the last time I saw him, was IT.

Chatz- thanks :-) Yeah I just know he will be back someday. I didnt mean he gets the last laugh lol I WANT the last laugh! lol. Ok better yet- what I meant to say is last word. I wanted to end it, I wanted to be the one who said goodbye. Instead he turned the tables on me and he was the one who got to say it. Thats where I am annoyed. It took alot of courage for me to write that email, and the only reason I went to see him the night he called is cuz I thought he read that email and he wanted to actually "talk". But like I said, to my surprise, he didn't know about the email yet cuz he hadn't checked his emails all week. Had he read it and wrote back before we met up, I wouldn't care what he said to me, cuz I know I initiated it and was happy with my decision. But I spent the night, had a wonderful time, and then it looked like my email was a "mistake" to him you know? Therefor- giving him the last word by writing back after i spent the night. I don't know if that makes much sense? lol Point is, he got the last say. and I wanted to 😢

I will get over him, I know I will. But I'm just gladyou guys are all saying "he will be back" cuz like I said, I want to be the one to say "NO". If he comes back NOW- Im screwed lol But if he waits months, he's screwed. Once I get over someone, I usually stay over them. Especially if they hurt me.
Thanks though for the advice :-)

I know what you meant....all too well but to be honest, and I've been in the same mindset as you, trust me but you have to be the bigger of the two and hold your head up high and KNOW that you did actually end it by giving him the choice....he decided you were right (for now anyway). Who knows? he may be back but again, who knows? it might be too late....us fire signs hold on for a long time but when we finally let go?? its totally over, no more coming back, no more door open....Libras do, from what I can gather, come back many months after a separation and like nothing ever happened.....he may be the same....just enjoy your life and don't become spiteful - it just isnt worth it....the next guy will probably cop it and do you want that?? nah!!!!

He'll be back some day....perhaps you can just be friends - they DO MAKE AWESOME FRIENDS once those emotions are gone...perhaps he has emotions invested and just can't give you what you need/want right now and is doing the only thing that is right, to end it so he does not hurt you....I dunno....its all too hard to understand for us fire signs...we want it all or nothing 🙂

Keep smiling - that's the best revenge - to live happily 🙂

CA,he only wants sex from you. Take his word. To continue to ask for more will only hurt you nd aggrevate him.

Leave it alone and yes he will contact you again. They have a way of making you feel like you are th onl person in the world when you are with them and yes they are the #1 sex partners (in my experience 😉) but if he doesn't see you more than an attractive sex partner then that is probably all it will be, not that he doesn't care, he just doesn't think you are the right person for him. Trust, when they do, they will let you know and never stop.

Oh and to answer your post questioon. YES he means it, if only for now he means it.

yes I agree - he does mean it.....they change their minds a lot though...who knows but dont wait - keep going