Fear is the heart of love...

I'm looking for a few perspectives if anyone is willing to take the time.

A certain libra man that I've been spending time with keeps repeating this certain general statement. As simply as I can put this, he feels numb. Which, honestly, those are just the simplest words he has used so interpretation could be hazy. Let me pull from other conversations to clarify. Basically, what I really wanted to know is if this is common for a libra man: Do libra men typically feel dissected from people in general? Do they typically feel that they actually Can't feel for anyone romantically? Are they self destructive? (These questions may or may not relate to one another. They just happen to be the snippets I pulled from the conversations that concern me.)

Are any of those questions relatiable?

This isn't necessarily just for my own curiosity. I know they wouldn't do anything to hurt themselves right now because they have a goal and a reason not to. Its just not who they are. I guess I'm just trying to see if I should worry. I'm not really romantically involved with them so much as I am platonically, so it isn't that kind of advice.

I just know this, they will always appear chipper and happy, but when we're talking if I steer the right way or catch him on the right night he'll tell me things that are deeper than that. Things like, "After a while I get tired of eating the same old things. People. I just start to feel numb. And I you can't hurt me. No one can do that anymore." Can that be healthy? or is that normal? Is this a personal issue, or is this separation a typically trait. I'm honestly not sure if he was always like this or something changed him to feel this way anymore.

Lol this is what I get for trying to talk about something complicated and being half asleep. My thoughts are jumping everywhere. So sorry, I will try again in the morn'.

Sorry it made no sense. I had just come home from hanging out with him and was falling asleep while typing. I think amthyest got it though. The way she worded it made me feel a little better. I'm just worried about him. He seems a little self-destructive, and when I approached him about this he agreed. He pretty much said that its only because of his kid that he's doing alright. He gives me mixed signals about things a lot too. Sometimes when he comes to me he seems so sad and lonely. Then again, he can come around completely happy about being this constant casual dater.

😄 You seem to always give awesome perspectives.

This guy is emotionally disconnected & unavailable. Sure alot of Libras may be experiencing the same form of depression-provoked thoughts, BUT I doubt that the majority of Libran men are this way.

Is it healthy to seek committment with someone who thinks the way he thinks? Absolutely NOT. Something happend to him. There's a reason he's carrying around all this baggage & fear & why his security wall is too high. And most people don't get very far when they encounter someone like this, regardless of how loud/hard they kick, beg or scream.

He knows deep down that this about him will stop him 1 day from finding true love, BUT in the mean time, he's convinced himself that being closed off is somehow protecting him. And you being the "best catch" won't change this mindset within him either.

Oh no I meant judo chop. Definitely like that better

he just needs time to regenerate. When I say I fell Numb it meant I'm so beat up with my emotions that nothing surprises me anymore nothing can hurt me anymore and i need time alone. I usually feel i absorbed all the drama and negative energies around me and no one's asking me how am i doing and if ever someone asks me i wouldnt tell them how i REALLY feel because i don't want any interaction. Interaction means another person to worry for another person to please and if i have lots of shit goin on I don't need added worries in my life.

When You Let him explore himself like let him be alone for awhile im sure he'll be back in his feet just make before you leave him alone to contemplate give him the assurance that you're just there if he needs you.

I may tend to need company but I can go to the extreme and be alone ( but no for long though ). I don't want to be hurried with what I feel if I feel in the dumps I tend to linger a bit. Because if i feel the urge to be sad i really BE sad and face it right away and be done with it .because if i ignore it and deny it I know that feeling will come back and it will be much bigger.

He'll bounce back he just needs an inspiration you can help him out if you want to. Usually Its Visual Inspirations that connects to our feelings. If you know he writes buy him a journal. If he like to take photos suggest a place for a photo walk. being mellow is the jello.

Wow, thanks everybody! This helps a lot. Especially since he has said almost word for word what some of you have related to me. At least now I know its pretty normal and how I can be there for him. I'm just typically the opposite when I'm hurt. I never want to be alone and rush into relationships that are too serious too soon.