Help - Libra heartbreak and leaving

Hello everyone- this is my first post (actually on any discussion board) although I spent many hours reading through your insights last night. From lightheartedleo to chatz to mooneyes- you guys are all amazing and I thank you so much for sharing your stories.

I'm going to try and keep this as brief as possible but its definitely a saga. I'd like to stress I'm not here to figure out how to get this guy back- only to understand what happened, try to help myself find closure and god willing some emotional justice.

My experience is a bit different. I was in a long-term relationship with this libra male for a total of 2 1/2 yrs. First he left me for his ex, then came back because we saw each other out and we were platonic friends for 5 months then he declared his love and it went from there. Things were great for a year - we lived together, spend almost every waking moment together and were the best of friends. He was very devoted and a great guy. I have very few complaints about that time - altho I was always insecure about his ex who he initially left me for (and she contacted me telling me all about it, sending me emails where he wrote he was just using me, etc etc). I know I took him back after this-dumb.

About a year ago, I was arrested. It was a very high profile case and our lives changed dramatically (I'm being as honest here as possible so I hope you don't judge). We were living the high life in luxury where he worked for me and was making more money than he ever had in his life = very little worries so we could be in honeymoon land. Upon my arrest, we lost everything. He had to move home to his parent while I sat in Riker's Island for 4 months on bogus charges.

When I got out most of my money had been confiscated or went to legal fees. He then had to put in some real work and pay for things himself. I found out he had been speaking to his ex and flipped out - he denied anything occurred but quickly told me he didn't want a girlfriend and wanted to "fuck other people". I was devastated, 2 weeks out of jail and held on to these great memories and his loving letters the whole time I was in there. He started fights every rent period and I ended up supporting us again for the most part. While I was in jail he and his family emmber charged up my credit card to the tune of $ 30,000. I was told this was to buy a car since mine was impounded while I was in jail. I said I DID NOT want the car and asked for my money to be refunded.

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This never happened. I was told dozens of stories about this money with the final result being that the family member spent it. I finally recieved some small payments on it but it was always a point of contention - starting huge fights over it. And he would always go back to he didn't want a gf and to just let him go. I would cry and beg and he would say he would stay just bc I was begging.

In Feb we got into a huge fight. I felt like he was cheating. He would constantly not come home or start fights to stay out all night and never even call as I sat there worried. I caught him in a lie about who he was with, and asked he stay out - he came home anyways. God forbid, he respect me when I ask for space. the fight ensued and I slapped him across the face. The next day while I was out for the day he moved out. No word, no talk -just left. I was devastated. We texted a few times and he said he would pay his share of the rent. He came over to talk 2 days later and ended up literally running out the door while I was in tears.

He never paid the rent. He has not responded to the landlord's requests to turn the apartment over to me and all bills are in his name. He doesn't care. I have not contacted him for 2 1/2 months. I talked to his family member who denies the charges on my cc and said this guy spent the money so I have NO idea who to believe. So I called the police who investigated it and both him and his family member lied saying I authorized the charges (I am smart enough to make him sign a letter saying its fraud and I didn't know, authorize or allow him to have a card). No one still contacted me to make this right.

I now filed civil charges. I have been in a huge depression over this. The abandonment, everything. He did this at a time when some major media was scheduled for me and I needed my best friend. He did send an email apologizing for not being there - that it "wasn't his place since he can't be who I need him to be" but that I'm a wonderful amazing beautiful person. blah blah. I merely responded with thanks - I'm taking care of me.

This last weekend I saw his cousin who told me that he left me for someone else. He also told me how he robbed him of money 3 years ago and a few other old business partners he had really screwed over. His mother told me 2 months ago that she was not speaking to him since his license is suspended and he works 2 nights at a nightclub and is not in school (he is 27).

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This cousin triggered all of my insecurity and anger. So I went on a text war and asked him how could he do this? He was supposed to love me and he left me for someone else and stole from me. A few people have now told me he is a HEAVY cocaine user now and his new girl is as well. She is probably supporting his habit since he is broke. I don't do drugs at all so I don't understand that world. His cousing reitterated this telling me that he has had an on-again off-again problem with coke since he was 18 - I never even knew. He even went to rehab which I did not know. And that he approached his cousin to try and sell drugs now (not my crime either).

He responded to my texts with - I don't have drugs - me and my coke girlfriend did them all 🙂. That set me off further & I sent 3-4 more texts. He responded with leave me alone or I'll get a restraining order. Get over it, we broke up a long f***ing time ago. I said 2 1/2 months is not a long time and that was it.

Last night I broke down and called him. I want my motorcycle back, my money and my air conditioners. I took all emotion out of my voice and just thought it would be simple to call up & ask for these things back. Even if he was just to tell me to call his mother or that they would be outside his house. I did NOT want to go the court route but they have left me no choice. He picked up the phone and screamed at me telling me "I told you to leave me alone" and hung up. I called back one more time saying nicely (calm, cool and collected) I'd like my air conditioners, money etc. I'd really prefer not to go to court so can I please just make arrangements for my things. He was screaming that I was stalking him, a psycho and I'd already filed court papers so go that route and if I didn't stop calling he would get a restraining order. I've called 2 times in 2 1/2 months lol.

So now after reading your posts some of this seems contradictory to whats on here. I thought libra's didn't want someone thinking badly of them? He obviously doesn't care if I do. what he did is wrong. In jail, he was emotionally not there and hung up on me many times when I was crying and afraid. He abandoned the relationship when I had nothing left to use. I've also read that these guys always come back- even if you run over them in a truck (loved that one). How could this guy not feel any remorse for what he did? Maybe its the coke & one day he will feel sorry? I don't want him back anymore. But I do want emotional j

emotional justice and to understand what happened. What is going to happen (will I get the satisfaction of one day saying my piece or turning him away)?

I think you should hire someone to kill him.

i think you should move. move out of the bad neighborhood you are in. you are surrounded by horrible influences. seriously. is this the life you want?

You went to jail— That's pretty huge! I think you need to concentrate on trying to understand yourself and forget about him.

It's very plain and obvious that he is just a swine and not worth a second thought. He was never there to support you, even cheated on you and was only around when the going was good. Once the shit hit the fan so did he so why waste your time and energy over a user?

If you ever come back into money and the high life he'll be back...hopefully you have learnt enough to not let him back in!


What goes around comes around and we reap what we sow...dont know what you've done but maybe it's coming back to haunt you but you now have the chance to turn your life around for the better...

thanks for the comments. I didn't do anything bad. Just associated myself with an employer who did something wrong and sat in jail until cleared but my money was associated with my boss and taken. longer story.

I did find out today that the ex and his family member went to the police to try and get a restraining order against me. Saying I'm a psycho and stalker because I asked for my money back. I have called him twice in 2 1/2 months and sent 7 texts - all this last week. before it was no contact. The detective laughed and said she hasn't even threatened you so why are you here? and that I have every right to ask for my money and things back. They are lying to everyone.

Is this characteristic of libras? they just lie and fuck people over?

Anybody in his state of mind would lie to make you look bad. If you want your stuff back bad enough go through the police or cut your losses. Go back to the stores you made your purchases from, get a print out to prove you are the owner and turn his ass in to the cops for theft. Simple as that.
Getting revenge is something I understand but with his life style he's going to get it sooner or later.
Don't let him get to you. Aren't you tired of being hurt by him? Why put yourself through all that for scum?
Seriously turn him in for theft of your belongings. My guess is that when the cops show up he'd probably get busted for the drugs too.