Help libra males! I'm lost!

Need help from the libra males to understand this behavior. Been seeing a libra male for 4 months, he didnt want to rush into anything so we're taking it slow:

He's Distant, suddenly pass codes phone & leaves it face down sometimes, we still go on dates but it's always sex at the end. Really close when I'm near & affectionate, still messages when I'm away but sometimes takes hours to respond and it's small talk, nothing deep anymore no questions gettin to know one another, he use to reply in an instant. I have met his family, was at his family house on the weekend. Use to call me everyday, I asked why he didnt anymore & then he called me the next afternoon, then yesterday liked this other girls pic on Facebook & befriended her, then I didn't hear from him for hours til I initiated contact. He still texts me good morning everyday and did today. He normally initiates but use to always ask what I'm doing if I hadn't text for a while. I havent met any of his friends? I just dunno am I reading too much into it? What do I do to know?
He's Libra sun, sag moon/mars, venus scorpio, sag rising

The positives I'll add; text me good morning and all throughout the day, when I'm with him I feel like I'm the only girl in the world, our chemistry is great & lots of laughter, we go out on dates all the time. He's started spending weekends with me that he didn't before. Notices small changes I make to my appearance (hair cut, etc), holds my hand in public. When I'm away I notice the other stuff listed above... Please help? Am I just being insecure (which I'm normally confident as) or is there something to it? I am always available as I am not working at the moment. Should I stop replying quickly and distance myself or will this make him think I'm not interested?

Posted by tiziani
4 months is a short time.

Thank you. How do I read this mixed behavior? Or am I creating problems that aren't there by over thinking?

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Posted by TaurusVenus22

Posted by tiziani
4 months is a short time.

Thank you. How do I read this mixed behavior? Or am I creating problems that aren't there by over thinking?

Mixed behaviour tends to happen in the first year of getting to know someone since you're not accustomed to one another, you develop expectations and comfort and they continually break this pattern, and so on and so on. That's not a Libra thing, it's just human nature.

Only way to establish trust is for two people to actually be willing to communicate and talk through what they want, how they feel, what their boundaries are etc. I would go with your instincts. If it's a problem, it's a problem and it's best to speak up.

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Thank you, I do feel I'm cornering myself into a black hole with my thoughts. How do I bring this up and discuss it. Last weekend I told him "sometimes you confuse me, I have no idea what you're thinking" afterwards we lightly discussed it followed by a few jokes... I need it on a deeper level to understand, but because it's been eating away at me for a while I don't want to blow it with emotions. What would be best to approach this?

Posted by Impulsv
Is it because u don't know we're u stand? Since even though he acts like ur the only one when present ur unsure if there are others. If that's the case then maybe have a discussion as to dating exclusive if that's whatsin ur mind.

We were away from one another for a few weeks & he confirmed he was waiting for me... I don't get the impression there are others, but sometimes I question as I do not know where I stand. He 'likes me a lot' but stated 'he's scared as he sometimes doesn't know what he wants' last time we discussed this. Our last deep Convo was early september. I'm just feeling lost 😢

He's using an online dating app... A friend has been talking to him online. I feel so hurt. I trusted he wanted to take it slow... I don't know why he just introduced me to all his friends & family... His actions show otherwise. Please help. I'm so hurt and don't know what to do

Posted by TaurusVenus22
Need help from the libra males to understand this behavior. Been seeing a libra male for 4 months, he didnt want to rush into anything so we're taking it slow:

He's Distant, suddenly pass codes phone & leaves it face down sometimes, we still go on dates but it's always sex at the end. Really close when I'm near & affectionate, still messages when I'm away but sometimes takes hours to respond and it's small talk, nothing deep anymore no questions gettin to know one another, he use to reply in an instant. I have met his family, was at his family house on the weekend. Use to call me everyday, I asked why he didnt anymore & then he called me the next afternoon, then yesterday liked this other girls pic on Facebook & befriended her, then I didn't hear from him for hours til I initiated contact. He still texts me good morning everyday and did today. He normally initiates but use to always ask what I'm doing if I hadn't text for a while. I havent met any of his friends? I just dunno am I reading too much into it? What do I do to know?
He's Libra sun, sag moon/mars, venus scorpio, sag rising

You're not the only one on his agenda.

When a libra guy says he wants to "take it slow" lol... its because he wants to keep his options open hello! That goes for most any "normal" man.

So I just found out tonight...

Posted by chrissydance
When a libra guy says he wants to "take it slow" lol... its because he wants to keep his options open hello! That goes for most any "normal" man.

Is that so? I've never known a libra man to take it fast. They all say "let's take it slow" due to their indecisiveness even though they are taking it fast in terms of actions. They jump right into hardcore romance to make the girl feel she is the only one for them. Lol

Posted by aquarius09

Posted by chrissydance
When a libra guy says he wants to "take it slow" lol... its because he wants to keep his options open hello! That goes for most any "normal" man.

Is that so? I've never known a libra man to take it fast. They all say "let's take it slow" due to their indecisiveness even though they are taking it fast in terms of actions. They jump right into hardcore romance to make the girl feel she is the only one for them. Lol

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Any idea why he's using an online dating app on the side while he's taking it slow too? Feeling gutted 😢 dunno what to do now!

Of course I know. He's keeping his options open. The best candidate wins. You are being strung along for the ride until this insecure loser finds someone that keeps his attention. They dot know how to be alone. Ise So you are a safety blanket at the moment in case online gyals don't work out. You are dealing with an unevolved libra. He will cause you heartache. I say bear lil pain by ditching him otherwise head pains along with heart pain is coming your way!!

aquarius09, you realize you just questioned my logic then regurgitated it right?

Not quite. Taking it slow doesn't always mean I wanna keep my options open.

I think in a lib's case, that's definitely not true because of their confusion. That's confusing even to me because even though they wanna thread carefully, they still go fast.

So I questioned your logic with regard to the generalization you made about taking it slow. However, in this particular case, you are right. He wants to keep his options open.

Posted by aquarius09
Not quite. Taking it slow doesn't always mean I wanna keep my options open.

I think in a lib's case, that's definitely not true because of their confusion. That's confusing even to me because even though they wanna thread carefully, they still go fast.

So I questioned your logic with regard to the generalization you made about taking it slow. However, in this particular case, you are right. He wants to keep his options open.

He hasn't signed in for 1.5 months. Gah! Nice girls finish last!!

Make that past week ;(

Your already doom, this is a new relationship, ur getting to know each other, nothing wrong with that, it's just dating

Go out with the girls, have u some fun, meet people, the when the libra comes back, it's up to u to go with the flow or make him wait, just do your own thing.

I drove my libra bf crazy because I was never around that much, I was busy making plans with my friends, I refuse to be caught up in the libra cycle

That made him make a decision, now being with a libra is a 24/7 job

Are you sure u want this. Cause it don't get no easier once u got them, lmao, I'm just saying

Posted by TaurusNikki
Your already doom, this is a new relationship, ur getting to know each other, nothing wrong with that, it's just dating

Go out with the girls, have u some fun, meet people, the when the libra comes back, it's up to u to go with the flow or make him wait, just do your own thing.

I drove my libra bf crazy because I was never around that much, I was busy making plans with my friends, I refuse to be caught up in the libra cycle

That made him make a decision, now being with a libra is a 24/7 job

Are you sure u want this. Cause it don't get no easier once u got them, lmao, I'm just saying

Great to hear from a Taurus! I'm a Taurus rising & Taurus venus first house... He means the world to me. But right now I'm hurt. He doesn't know yet. I'm playing it cool. Once he responds to a friend on there tho who has messaged him & I know it's still active... I'm gonna cease contact. Maybe for days, maybe forever... I don't know. We spend heaps of time together & text over 100 texts all day together. Once I have confirmation of infidelity, I gotta cut loose from contact. Being an aries, if I don't, poor balancing libra is gonna meet a fire he never knew was in me. If he chases me, it's not going to be easy for him. I'm a nice girl, but real my trust & it's back at square one. I'm still hurting right now so not dealing with it yet. Once logic & emotion realign I can approach him or walk away as I need. Yes I can handle the Libra character, but breach of trust, infidelity from ANY person, never sits well with me. Normally I completely erase them from ever existing to me. Only time will tell.

Break my trust*

Are u guys in a serious relationship,mor is this the dating phase?


Cause if it's dating, whether he sleeps with someone else or not, shouldn't matter because it's not serious

Now if u guys are serious and he don't have trust in him then why put yourself thought the b.s. cut him loose

Understand libras will only look for something better ( if this is a serious relationship) if the relationship is already near the over mark, it's just a matter of time when they do find that right person, then they will leave in a nice way, but like most libras they will stay and only stay in a messed up relationship if nothing is available at the moment

Libras are serious with work, when it comes to relationships, it's suppose to be fun, light, go with the flow type way, much like candy land

Posted by aquarius09
Not quite. Taking it slow doesn't always mean I wanna keep my options open.

I think in a lib's case, that's definitely not true because of their confusion. That's confusing even to me because even though they wanna thread carefully, they still go fast.

So I questioned your logic with regard to the generalization you made about taking it slow. However, in this particular case, you are right. He wants to keep his options open.

Oh I see your point of view.

I was stating mine after having lived with one for 2 years. 🙂

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Posted by TaurusVenus22
Need help from the libra males to understand this behavior. Been seeing a libra male for 4 months, he didnt want to rush into anything so we're taking it slow:

He's Distant, suddenly pass codes phone & leaves it face down sometimes, we still go on dates but it's always sex at the end. Really close when I'm near & affectionate, still messages when I'm away but sometimes takes hours to respond and it's small talk, nothing deep anymore no questions gettin to know one another, he use to reply in an instant. I have met his family, was at his family house on the weekend. Use to call me everyday, I asked why he didnt anymore & then he called me the next afternoon, then yesterday liked this other girls pic on Facebook & befriended her, then I didn't hear from him for hours til I initiated contact. He still texts me good morning everyday and did today. He normally initiates but use to always ask what I'm doing if I hadn't text for a while. I havent met any of his friends? I just dunno am I reading too much into it? What do I do to know?
He's Libra sun, sag moon/mars, venus scorpio, sag rising

You're not the only one on his agenda.

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Lol, this happened with the last one I dated. He was very much keeping his options open and suddenly wanted to focus on being "single." I stopped bothering with that shit. Definitely can throw you for a loop though. Everything points to the obvious relationship track because it is THAT obvious, and then wham, they change and it's like "lol I never was THAT serious!!"

Guys who flip the script like that aren't relationship material anyway. They want to be single and fuck around as they please. What do you do? Let them go play around and you go do your thing and find someone else who isn't preoccupied with fucking around with females. Ain't worth your time.

We were taking things slow, however as u said rocky feels like a relationship. Growing together... This hurts so much 😢

Thanks Tizani... It was tearing me up so I asked. Got the response 'say what u want... I don't know what I want in life you wouldn't understand, you always know what you want... Walk if you want... view it as fwb if you want' I didn't get emotional on him, however I am a wreck in bed right now. I'm so gutted, now he's ignoring me. I haven't sent anymore messages, my last after those comments were 'that's not fair, I try to understand & you know I always listen & help others. I also mentioned I did everything for him, even ignored my bad days when he was having one to help him balance. And stated this only hurts so much cos I care for you so much.' Now ignored. Guys are fucked. I've never been hurt before at 27 years old, but this has cut deep. I bought all his bullshit! I feel like an idiot!

Pfft, flip the script and leave all the heavy stuff to you, in typical indecisiveness Libra fashion. *eyeroll*

Sign aside, if a guy changes the story 3-4 months in, it's no real shocker because that time frame is usually the turning point and you see his true colors emerge. I kinda saw it coming with this guy but still, wrapping your head around when it happens can be a pain because there's a lot of wtfery going on. Usually because they have zero idea of what they want and shouldn't be dating to begin with until they get their shit together.

Unfortunately, the dating pool has two types- those who know what they want and are serious about it all, and the rest who have no idea and think they're primed for dating, but they're far from it and should just be single until they get it together.

Posted by rockyroadicecream
Pfft, flip the script and leave all the heavy stuff to you, in typical indecisiveness Libra fashion. *eyeroll*

Sign aside, if a guy changes the story 3-4 months in, it's no real shocker because that time frame is usually the turning point and you see his true colors emerge. I kinda saw it coming with this guy but still, wrapping your head around when it happens can be a pain because there's a lot of wtfery going on. Usually because they have zero idea of what they want and shouldn't be dating to begin with until they get their shit together.

Unfortunately, the dating pool has two types- those who know what they want and are serious about it all, and the rest who have no idea and think they're primed for dating, but they're far from it and should just be single until they get it together.

Thank you for your words, needed that today! He's all apologetic now & deleted his profile. I dunno what to feel. I said to leave me alone for a few days so I can think. I don't know whether to bother. Thanks again for your help, I appreciate it!

Pfft. They should do those changes on their own. Not when shit gets real and they're held accountable. It makes those actions appear very insincere and fake.

Tell me about it, makes me question him cheating, he's totally switched to doing everything for me? Not sure if it's sincere or guilt