How long can they disappear for when making huge life decisions?

Hi All

I'm just so stunned. The man I was seeing for nearly a year just moved to another city for work. He's been less and less responsive since the move...he's been separated from his wife and took the transfer to figure out their relationship as well as ours. I know he has a lot on his plate, new job, new city, deciding direction of marriage.
He hasn't asked for space, he's just taken it, which is what he does. He's very affectionate and attentive and was planning a weekend for us before he took space. My question is, how long could this take? At what point should I worry that he has moved on? And would be really move on without looking back? We were emotionally very close, though we both enjoy personal space.

Posted by Cblair
Hi All


I'm just so stunned.

... he's been separated from his wife

... took the transfer to figure out their relationship


as well as ours.

... their relationship


Here's my guess: this relationship is about to be over.

He's been given an ultimatum by his WIFE, and he's about to decide if he wants to

leave the marriage and everything that comes with it.


Here's my advice: Run... the harder you try to hold on, the more likely he is to let go.



If he runs after you-- he's all yours.

If not... then you know the rest.

And tbh-- you don't want this one... I promise.




♥

Thanks. They've been separated for 2 years and she is seeing someone else....I guess I am mostly wondering, with Libras being so bad at making decisions, how long could this take? How much space/time would a typical Libra man need to process all these changes?

He probably is. I'm pretty sure I HATE Libra men. The women seem fabulous, but I don't date them.

Maybe I should.

I dont have much knowlegde on signs at all so i cant answer in relation to his star sign but id just give him the space he needs and see if he comes back to you.
In the meantime id try and occupy your mind, keep yourself busy in order not to think of him too much ( i know its easier said than done sometimes)
He does seem to have alot going on , so just give him abit of time and take it from there.

Thanks Lucky Libra. 🙂 I very much appreciate your candor. You give straight forward responses that make a lot of sense. I get the feeling you are more evolved than the Libra I'm writing about.

Posted by Cblair
Thanks. They've been separated for 2 years and she is seeing someone else....I guess I am mostly wondering, with Libras being so bad at making decisions, how long could this take? How much space/time would a typical Libra man need to process all these changes?

I didn't realize they had *been* separated, and that

she was seeing someone else.

I'm trying to imagine being in your situation, but I

don't think I could do it... I play a terrible second fiddle.

But I didn't mean GIVE him space. .. I meant for you

(if this silence continues) to not let this be all about HIM

and HIS decision.

Like your waiting to see if you made the cut... and he

knows it.

In a perfect world, he wouldn't need to leave town to

to make this decision... you really deserve better than that.

@OP-I think you should get ole Jerry out, so yummy! :-) it will take all your problems away and think of new goals.

Good luck

@OP-Why do you want to be available to a unavailable man? I am sure you are pretty and have your shit together. Go out there and find a decent guy if there are any and don't settle with him....