Libra left me twice in 2 months

First of all I'm new here and I've been reading about libras onthis forum ever since this guy entered my life in September this year. You all have helped alot in my relationship but last night he just left giving me a reason over a text message. So it's been a tough night but by the morning after all the crying I tried to get over it and because of how I was used to of him talking to me all day everyday I'm missing him (BUT WILL NEVER TEXT LOL) no matter how desperate I am right now. I met him online and i pulled back inthe beginning giving him a week's time to think about his feelings. Then he drove over for 3 hours to see me. He stayed in my city for 3 days but I only made myself available for one day because A: he's an Army captain so I was a little careful B: he sounded too needy. Well after he was gone we were happily chatting, I fell for him (couldn't resist his charms). One night after a week out if no where he messaged me saying 'I'm sorry I can't be with you anymore, I'm ending this.'
And After asking him a hundred times he said because the way you treated me when I came I feel like you will leave me any day and I won't be able to bare the pain. I cried and asked him not to ruin things just because you fear the future. At first he didn't listen and then he stayed. After a couple of days I forgot about it and he started taunting me over my ex and started saying weird things about my character. My family is very well known inthe country where I live for their respect and business. Now when he said things like that I was reallyy put off but I don't know I ignored it out of my love for him. I became needy and desperate instead. I wanted him in my life no matter how he treated me or made me feel. I'm an Aries and I can be really egoistic in love but for him I was not being my true self and just giving in everytime he tortured me. He started to disappear and never returning my calls (obviously created more curiosity for me & made me run after him). Every time we talked he seem to act so cool like nothing happened and I should understand his busy routine but every time I was busy he blamed me for having secret love affairs. Ok last night he broke up with me cuz I asked him 'Why you ignoring me on purpose ' because whatsapp has a seen sign now lol so he'd see my messages and just ignore. So he texted back because I never loved you and don't want you in my life. I lost control and because I was madly unconditionally in love with this asshole (lol) I started crying and kept asking why is he doing this? And all those promises and love that he showed was fake or what? I didn't understand. He said because I don't understand his nature and he doesn't understand my mood swings. Now we had such a great time conversing about the whole world over the phone for hours. We laughed joked and never had an upsetting moment. He flipped over a text message. And then I called him he didn't take any of ky calls for an hour and called back saying 'Jaan (my love) I

Can't talk this over the phone, I just have to leave you alone please' I was so shocked that maybe my love and care was too much for him to handle. Maybe I gave him a tough time being so emotional. He also called me fake a couples of times (I have no idea how he thought I was faking any of my oove for him). I know he'll come back because they all do, don't they? Lol . But for now I just want to know what's really in his head which he won't say. Maybe he still loves his ex because he sounds very hurt when he talks about her. Or maybe he did fake his love for me because he was bored? Please libra guys tell me WHAT on earth could I have possibly done to make him leave?

Oh and he also had major issues with my spendings. He didn't think I was wise enough or mature. He thought I was very non-serious because I laughed alot! Is that even sane? I mean I cry too I balance my emotions but yes I laugh/giggle alot on everything he said because he was funny. He was perfect until I asked hik why he disappears on me?

How long have you known him. You saying that you are madly in love with him sounds alarming. What did he do to make you feel that way.

I've only met him near his birthday 8th Oct.. Ok I haven't had a relationship for 2 years after my divorce and he was the first guy I took interest in (love at first sight for bith if us) and he was so warm and protective of me. He'd hear me out and help me solve my family issues. He'd call just to hear my voice. He'd compliment me all the time. He just was soo flattery

He is an Army Captain he has a lot to think about.

I was in the Army for littlw bit.

This sounds like a cliche Aries fem and Libra male thing.

I feel like Aries fall in love quick but Libras are slower.

Remember they are always weighing the pros and con's. That is what he did. He sat back and looked at things. He looked at his responsibilities and doesn't think he can fit you in with his schedule. Now it deonds on if he is stationed somewhere, on leave etc. Though the Army is demanding. He is responsible for a whole company (where I was 180 soldiers but it could be more). He answers to some big wigs. You know Army and relationships are tough.

So you have known him for two months? How much did you meet in person?

He might have found someone else too. Him not wanting to say it over the phone gives me that suspicion the way you are talking about it.

We met twice.. Yes he said I won't be able to adjust with him inthe long run. He always said that Inhave no idea what Army Life. He said I don't understand his job and his responsibilities. But I've been more patient than ever trust me VERY PATIENT AND UNDERSTANDING i also reassured him all the time that I will understand his responsibilities and we'll mae it work but he's not ready to listen and thinks I'm just saying stuff out of love and he'll put me in a hard life.

the guy is indeed an arsehole. there is no point torturing yourself. he is hypercritical of you, plays with your feelings and the bottom line is, he doesn't want to be with you.

it's been two months, don't waste another moment on him or his motivations. it doesn't change anything. onwards and upwards for you.

Thanks @Jeane 🙂 I'm an Aries I will eventually move on. It's the end of the day I already feel like I survived it pretty well.

He is weak and insecure so he runs away before an effort is even made. Forget the guy, from what I hear from aries woman is that libras aren't worth long term relationships. I would personally not break up through text, because that is a cowards way of dealing with the issue. Wish you the best of luck in the future. I hope this particular hasn't ruined your outlook on all libras. We aren't all like that. lol contrary to what I have heard from other aries ladies lmao

@elguapolibra I don't think they're bad people to be the honest I have inthe recent few years leanrt to respect the differences. And he may be protecting himself because I do accept my flaws, I get bored with a routine and it had become like that. I needed space but not like that. I didn't want to end things (especially on a bad note). But I just have a very strong feeling that he'll come back in a couple weeks and I'd still care about him and still love him but won't be able to be what I've been with him.

@sattyaries It will take a lot of time for this guy to mature, he breaks up with texts and multiple times to boot. He is just not ready, sadly and probably wont be. I feel you on being in love and caring for someone and hoping they come back being the same person. I am still waiting for my cap to come to her sense lol. The thing is that you wont be the same person. You have been changed by his actions. You, well everyone really,deserves some one who is confident in themselves and accepting of their flaws and willing to try even when the moments seem the most bleak.

I didn't read the whole story or comments, but I will just tell you my experience with a Libra guy and why you might want to be thankful that he left, although I don't know if they ever truly leave. I was talking to this Libra guy, seemed totally mellow and someone that I could see myself with. After we were talking for a couple of months, I sent him a text saying " I miss you" meaning hearing from him, I wasn't being weird. Anyway, he responded with "miss me, ? lol", right thjat second I lost ALL interest in this tool. I was cold and totally different from that moment, and he never picked up on the hints. Well, I tried to break it off with him and he freaked out on me, started cussing me out and acting crazy. So I dropped him, blocked his number, and that's when the flowers started showing up at my work, emails saying " I love you", and threatening suicide. Well, when he did that I decided I would be his friend, just out of sympathy and when I acted friendly rather than more, he freaked out on me again. Same thing, blocked him, and his email address, then the flowers again, he kept making new emails so that I couldn't keep him banned, and the suicide threats again. He just emailed me again this morning with a new email address. This has been going on for a few months. I forgot to mention he also had his friends contact me and begging me to please talk to him. What a nightmare this guy has been. So, just be careful.

Girl omg lol wow crazy. Libras can be different @nostalgiccappy

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Girl omg lol wow crazy. Libras can be different @nostalgiccappy

I know, it's nuts. It was my first experience with a Libra, and I tell you I will never make that mistake again. I'm a pretty optimistic person, but that nonsense turned me off 100% to that type.

I love that. I hope we all see the red flags in someone. We often overlook it. That was enough for you to see his immaturity and say no thanks move on. If someone misses you, you say miss me?? Hmmm not a wise move. Im praying i gain the strength too its coming for my libra and its part my fault for staying dealing with the bs....for 1 year.....smh shame on me @nostalgiccappy

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I love that. I hope we all see the red flags in someone. We often overlook it. That was enough for you to see his immaturity and say no thanks move on. If someone misses you, you say miss me?? Hmmm not a wise move. Im praying i gain the strength too its coming for my libra and its part my fault for staying dealing with the bs....for 1 year.....smh shame on me @nostalgiccappy

No, lovely77. Not shame on you, love will make us do things we wouldn't normally do. That includes staying in situations that might not be the best for us, I call it the love blinders. But, from those experinces we always learn a lot and they help us to grow and heal. So, you will gain that strength. Just a matter of stepping back for a minute re-evaluating things, making that infamous pros/cons list, and then you can start to take off those love blinders. You'll get there, 🙂

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@tiziani I just have a hard time believing that someone with that background and personality can lie about his feelings ? I guess you're right. I ignored too many signals

@luckylibra979 That's exactly what happened to me. So he's never coming back? He never had a real feeling about this? I feel so used right now lol Thank God I never even shook hands with him or I would've regretted it more.

@nostagiccappy I have a oibra friend who's head over heals in love with me since 8 months and does the same thing BUT i never felt a thing for him and the one I'm talking about was an entirely different stroy he knows I was doing the chase. But should've let him tbh but I was in a rush lol

hey I think I've read your post here somewhere. I'm NEVER going to give a chance to a Libra to make me feel what he did. Like NO NO to a libra lol When he was playing around with texting I came across your posts and thought Oh God I need to take control and get out BUT I thought maybe everyone is different and maybe he really is busy and not just ignoring on purpose but anyway I guess I'll move on quick because he really made me feel bad for his situation. He's in his early thirties and still living a lie. He's not even true to himself.

Yes my current libra dont ignore me but there is def red flags etc. Its going on a year for me....i feel if its not flowing my 3 months 4 months then..........dont be like me i just give ppl chances and figure i fight for love because everyone deserves a chance 4 u to break down their insecurities and barriers....but it should still flow and be effort on both sides...pay attn...