It's late and I 'm tired and I just want some cl

Hi,

I've never done this before.
I've been reading alot of posts here and
you guys seem to know what you're on about, and give out good advice.

so here goes..it's not a major drama..but this has been
an INTENSE week with the whole lunar eclipse thing..
Being a cancerian an all..nothing bad had happened,
but I'd just been feeling odd..
anyway that aside..of course it's a guy! libran 12 oct 84.
he's just so indecisive.we're not going out,
but we did for a week,( last nov) before he said
" i like u but not enough"..
Then he'll distance
himself for a month or so..then out of the blue
call/txt me and as though nothing happened..
I dont contact him,but he keeps coming
back..this is annoying and frustrating.

last week, he calls me.. after a month..sligh
tly intoxicated..but not slurring speech...going
on about how, he quite likes me..etc..
I happened to be having a party the next
week, so I invite him..
we have a great time...he missed the last
train so had to stay..
I didn't sleep with him,( as much as I wanted to).
I just want him to find out what he wants.

we dont have any classes together, so if I see
him, its only by chance..
I would just like to have some regular time,
even as friends.
I dont feel confident chasing him ,since
he has rejected me before..
but my intuition says he really does like me..
but is for some reason afraid to take it further..

I 'm thinking of giving him space until after the next
new moon eclipse, which will be in his love zone, and then
try and suggest we have coffee or something casual...
and in the meantime focus on my studies...

is he a lost cause?

kc 6 july 84

In a word, yes.

Men are big boys. If they like you, they know what to do.

Just remember, it might not have anything to do with you. Sometimes it is just a bad timing thing. Regardless, no amount of pushing makes it better, but it can make things worse.

Wouldn't you rather have a guy who calls all the time, asks you out to dinner, and wants to spend time with you? I think most of us do. This guy, for whatever reason, can't give it to you now. Your best bet is to keep your eyes open for someone else.

Just go about your life, make plans with your friends, have fun, and be happy when you see him. If it is meant to be, it will be.

🙂

>>>I happened to be having a party the next
week, so I invite him..
we have a great time...he missed the last
train so had to stay..

this was last sunday morning..no he didnt fly out..he was relaxed, I offered something to eat, but he declined..
we went to the library together, he gave me a hug before he left
said thannks for having me..etc thats all i can remember,
but just after I posted the first message.
I got a txt from him,saying happy st patricks day..
at about 1am .when I would normally be in bed..
what was the point of that?I assume he was at the pub..

He's thinking about youuuuuu.

If he would have bolted out of your door the next morning then I would have said OK, just a fling. But seems like he's interested.

He didn't call sooner as to not look too interested.

Did you text him back?

Happy St. Patricks day is kind of a silly text. Maybe he was trying to make contact and see what you were up to and if you were still awake or something.

Good that you didn't sleep with him. I have this thing about sleeping with men easily. I just never did it. I don't see how people can be so casual about it. If you're in an established relationship and know that the person you are with has good intentions and your best interests in mind then OK. I guess I'm a prude 😉

no..you're not a prude...
I 'm just not easy..it would have most likely
made things worse if I had have slept with him...

yeah I did text back..I actaully saw him yest.
I asked him what was the point of the st pats text..
he said he was trying to be nice..

I think he does really like me...but he just doesnt know how
to deal with it..or doesnt want to...hmm frustrating..
but if he really wants me he 'll come get me..
I just have to wait a bit..which I predict is highly likely
since he has a pattern of running hot n cold..times when we we
we're not incontact then a few weeks later. he'll call or text me..

thanks to you both for your advice..
It pepped me up when I needed it..

now of to class

Ahhh the 1 am bootie call. I remember thee well. 🙂

I am glad we were able to give you a bit of a pep! Just remember You Are the Prize. You don't have to put up with anything you don't like, and you go to a school crawling with men. These are good things!

BOOOOOOTY CALLLLLLL


hahahahahahah, too funny

Chin Up, Kc. All will work out well.

" i like u but not enough".....
..........and my reply to him very snappily and dismisssively would be.......not enough ain't good enough for me!!! ciao Mister!

Listen to the little sparrow......when he feels like it, he will come round, when he feels like being with you he will, when he feels like whatever, he will come booty-calling.....what about you— What about your feelings—? Happy St. Patrick's Day etc......bullsiht......intoxicated yes.....indeedy:-)!!!!

Come on lady, you are second to nobody - act accordingly......

Alana x

yeah..even though he's the same age..
I think he might be a bit too immature for me..to even know what he
really wants..I 'm not gonna wait around forever..I know
there is definetly someone better out there for me..!!

KC, no need to wait around. I agree with you. Never hold your breath over someone.

But my general approach is to not come across as abrasive in ANY situation.

If someone tells you something that you don't like hearing and it borders on insult, just give them a soft, utterly patronizing smile and w a l k a w a y...That's it.

The next time he comes back (which he will) just don't act interested and cut him short. Let him prove his intentions. He seems luke-warm so it depends on how much you really want him. Unfortunately getting this kind of guy requires game-play. I don't know if your up to it or if he's even worth it. That decision is yours. But just remember, there has to be a stop to game-playing sooner or later. Eventually something has to give. That's the point where either the relationship collapses or moves on to something very serious.

Keep your class and act like a lady. Believe me when it's done right you can literally annihilate people with just a glance.

(if that doesn't work, a good kick in the ass will)