Just a little puzzled of how I shoud react

My libra guy and I have been "seeing each other" for a while. And I'm noticing a pattern need help on how to handle it. He goes on trips with his friends, I'm the type that when a man is out with his friends I wont contact him unless he does me. Am I wrong for that?

Also my libra birthday is coming

What's the pattern/question?

Nothing wrong with it if you two are just seeing each other. I would suspect that would change if you were more serious.

Not sure why the first got cut off..
My libra guy and I have been "seeing each other" for a while. And I'm noticing a pattern need help on how to handle it. He goes on trips with his friends, I'm the type that when a man is out with his friends I wont contact him unless he does me. Am I wrong for that?

Also my libra birthday is coming up, I'm throign him a surprise birhtday bash yet he doesnt seem to be thrilled whats that about?

He made the comment to me before he feels like he has to match what i do for him

The pattern is everytime he goes away with his friends, we don't talk for a couple of days up to a week. I won't contact or vice versa. Then whenever the ice is broken it's very short and he seems to be more distant or upset that I haven't contacted him. To me if you wanted to contact me you would have. It wasnt that he wsnt on my mind cause he was but I do want to come off as clingy. So libra males tell me am I wrong?

I'm guessing he has a problem with the fact you won't contact him when he's with his friends?

He also doesn't seem to like the idea of you doing things for him as he feels he has to return the favor.

All in all, it seems weird on his part. But you've given very, very little information to go off of here. Way to be vague. :/

What sign are you?

To vague, I apologize for that. Didn't really know how to put it. Other than that, he went out with some guys friends to a nascar event. He left on a Thursday no contact until Tuesday. He sent a text I responded not much since then. Simple one sentence text and such. I didn't know if I was lackin gon my end as far as the attention part I know libras love attention.

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To vague, I apologize for that. Didn't really know how to put it. Other than that, he went out with some guys friends to a nascar event. He left on a Thursday no contact until Tuesday. He sent a text I responded not much since then. Simple one sentence text and such. I didn't know if I was lackin gon my end as far as the attention part I know libras love attention.

At the risk of sounding cliche, I wonder how into you he really is?

You've been "seeing eachother" as you put it (your quotations), but have any sort of standards been set in place? Any exclusivity? Or is he some guy you just hang out with and have sex with once in awhile (assuming there's sex involved).

It just strikes me as odd that he wouldn't keep in touch, and when he did, he keeps it so short. Who usually does most of the communication first when he isn't away? I understand the being away bit and leaving them alone. I do that as well, but the guy usually responds back when they're back in town or aren't busy.

In regard to the surprise party, how does he know if it's a surprise? Did he find out and doesn't want you to do anything? I find it really strange that he's mostly concerned about having to return the favor. People just don't think like that when they're into someone or care about them. "Oh don't do this, I don't want to feel like I owe you something!" ...the fuck? Sounds like something someone would say when they don't want to feel like they're tied to you because of some "payback."

Overall, it all sounds kinda weird and it seems like you need to reevaluate where this guy really stands with you. If it's just casual seeing eachother, you might want to stop worrying about such things because it'd just be a waste of time. If you want more out of it, you need to have a talk with the dude so you two are on the same page.

"Seeing each other" lol Well you know how libra's can be, We recently went to vegas together, and when asked by someone were we married he said we were dating. I tend to believe he is into me we've been seeing each other for a while we started off as just friends for about a year. Then we went to Mexico together with his best friend and his wife to renew their vows. Well in mexico the sex was introduced. In the beginning it was me that always initiated the convo, but then I felt myself getting to clingy, so I fell back, now he does. Now I will give it to him he did contact when he got back, and we have seen each other since. I guess my thing is I didn't know if my lacking of initiating was causing him to think I wasn't interested anymore. The surprise party well it was suppose to be a surprise but he now knows. I'm not sure why he feels like he has to return the favor that puzzling to me too. He said he doesn't like to feel unfair. He is always one for he wants to do the same caliber of things I do for him, but he doesn't know how to (he has never been in a serious relationship).

@sugarfoot thanks a lot for the insight makes good sense too. I'm a big giver so i need to scale back on that
@rocky road thanks so much gave me a lot to think about
@feby16aqua Thanks to you too

I'll tell you this about Librans Men, they don't like it when you are in there business, they don't like to tell you where they are going or what they are doing. They don't like to answer to a woman as though she were his mother. They forget that it is just common decency in a relationship to let the partner know what's up, with a Libra male you have to sit them down and tell them exactly how it is, they need to be told otherwise they'll never get it. Tell him you aren't trying to be his mother but you would like to know he's ok when he's away, and that it is a mature thing to do.

Libra men will also act out if they feel that you are doing something wrong or not showing enough attention. They need to be shown the way, don't be pushy but state the facts, they understand facts. Librans actually like woman that are strong and know what they want. It is important to let him know that you would be just fine without him if he finds your rules too much!