Libra guy & Gemini gal... will we have a relationship??

I know a Libra man for 17yrs.. he was my schoolmate. He had like me since then. But being a Gemini gal, I wanted to explore the world so we did not get together. He moved away after grad school and we remained as friends, but we only met up 2-3times a year when he is back in my country.

He has a girlfriend for 9yrs. She is a Pisces and is an awesome gal. They are living together for more than 5years..

Recently I visited his country and stayed with them. Both were welcoming. But when only Libra guy and me went on a road trip.. we kissed. And on the day of my departure, he texted me that he was having trouble with his girlfriend and he is going to break up with her. That didn't happen until I was sent to hospital for a head operation.. he flew to my country upon hearing the news and visited me daily. When he was here, he told me he had broken up with his girlfriend.. now thinking back.. I guessed he did that because I almost died??

We had a very good month texting and talking on the phone as he flew back to work. Until he heard his ex girlfriend was seeing one of their good friend. He said he was confuse and when I probe further, he stop replying.

I wanted to take the high way and get out of the picture but he texted me again, saying that he wanted to be with me. But that very night, he slept with his ex girlfriend, even though they have been sleeping apart since their breakup. He told me this himself!

I could not understand what was happening and we broke up again.

But I can't let him go.. I kept thinking about him and his actions, why would a guy who confess he has no feelings for his girlfriend anymore, be together with her? So I arranged for a call and we spoke again.. he said he still misses me and have feelings for me but he owes his girlfriend a lot.. So he needs to think now.. I guess he is thinking which one to choose... I hate giving him the option to do that..but i understand Libra guy is indecisive so I had to give him the time.

The couple just sold the house and his girlfriend shifted to a new city.. she is asking him to move too but he is too comfortable at the current city.. before when we were together in the one month, he said he wanted to move back to my country... what does he want to do??

Should I cut off the relationship or wait for him to make a decision? I got a feeling he is going to choose her instead as he is not texting me now.. I send him an encouragement text and he only replied with a smiley face... but he did say before that he is busy packing up the house since he had just sold it.. but he is online in whatsapp a lot...

What should I do...

What relationship?

I am a Libra and I was in a decade-long relationship and it takes a very long time to be ready to let somebody else move into that place of significant other after having one for a decade.

Quite frankly I think that that's all signs but if somebody is just getting out of a 9-year relationship it isn't too smart to think that they would be ready to jump into an exclusive full-fledged relationship with you or that they didn't have some unfinished business with an ex.

I know it hurts but there isn't anything that you can do if he's not really proactively pursuing you and if he told you in so many words that he wants to give his relationship another chance he made his decision.

When he says he really wants to be with you that's a nice way of kind of letting you down softly now the girlfriend is moved out of another city but I wouldn't be surprised if he's going to be joining her real soon and even if he doesn't he's going to need a good 3 to 5 years to just kind of get over this chick the best thing for you to do is to move on with your life because he doesn't appear to want to have you seriously in his especially if he's just responding to you with Emojis.

Make it easy for him. Leave.

Posted by blackphase

Posted by Teena
Make it easy for him. Leave.

That is honestly the best option in this scenario if you don't want to end up hurt.

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Right. She'll save herself n him from all the guilt too.

Posted by blackphase

Posted by Teena
Make it easy for him. Leave.

That is honestly the best option in this scenario if you don't want to end up hurt.

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Leave what? Am I missing something? This man is in a different country! He stopped replying to her! She had to arrange for communication to take place otherwise he could give a fuck! He's not pursuing her! And blatantly told her that he's sleeping with another woman! So Leave what?

So what exactly is there to leave? The only thing that you need to LEAVE....is the FANTASY that you guys have anything outside of a 30-day hook up, and bullshit words!

I'm not saying what we had done is correct. I really thought he still has feelings for me.. I could be wrong.. I will leave him alone and not disrupt his relationship..

Posted by eerielord
I'm not saying what we had done is correct. I really thought he still has feelings for me.. I could be wrong.. I will leave him alone and not disrupt his relationship..

there are not very many people that will get on a plane and travel 4 5 6 9 12 15 hours to another country to be by your side when you need them the most.

I can see how and why you may have fallen in love with somebody like that. I remember when my dad died and I remembered the friend who was there by my side at my weakest Point who kept me going and I would never forget that friend so yeah when you were in a near-death experience you were extremely vulnerable!

And he cared so deeply for you for your overall well-being as an individual and as a person not just as an object but just literally as a human being he cared for you so deeply that he might have paid thousands of dollars it's not cheap going to another country depending on what time in the year that you go and if it was an Abrupt accident then I'm sure the ticket was astronomical!

And I can truly deeply understand maybe not to the degree that you can cuz I haven't asked so far had a near-death experience but I can deeply understand being at your most vulnerable and having a man that you really like come in and then stay with you and be with you for a month yeah that is got to be an incredible feeling and an incredible experience so I'm not discounting that he doesn't have feelings for you very mature feelings for you as a matter of fact!

I don't know very many people unfortunately that I think would do that maybe a trip to New York from California but you know to another country from another country I don't think so!

But he values your life so much he values life and he values your life and he cares about you so deeply that he was willing to take the time maybe take off of work how did he how is he able to afford to be with you for 30 days he left his relationship behind or you know whatever was happening with them he left that in the past and he came to another country and stayed by your side and basically stay with you until you got well yeah I can get that I get that that's actually a very beautiful story.

Maybe he and this ex are experiencing the 5 stages of grief. One of those stages is bargaining; when she started seeing someone else he bargained with her returned to the country and tried it again. However, since she moved to another city it appears one party has moved more into acceptance than the other.

In regards to what you should do? It depends on your means, and your accumulated knowledge of this man's personality. If you think he will respond well, now that the ex girlfriend is in another city, fly to him and let him know you mean business about getting together. Maybe he is a more passive guy who needs a little push.