Libra Men S O S

I’m a Gemini Woman (Sun) with her Moon in Pisces dating a Libra Man (Sun) with his Moon in Gemini.

Basically everything was fine until we got into a relationship. He is a really wonderful boy and I feel like I can learn a lot from him.

The problem is when we fight.

We both handle conflict very differently.

I’m the kind of person who’s of the mindset that there’s nothing that can’t be fixed except maybe cheating, drug dealing etc. Heavy duty things.

But he will act like it is ACTUALLY the end of the world. I’ve never seen someone so hyped up and overreact. He will always break up with me during fights too.

He has already broken up with me twice this year and always apologizes and calls it a huge mistake afterwards but never really learns?

I get the feeling he thinks it’s my fault too...

Anyway we haven’t really been texting much because he thinks our main miscommunication comes from not speaking face to face or in some other way where we can judge each other’s tone?

I feel really out of my depth with this relationship and I love him so much but this feels like I’m going crazy.

I’m not sure whether this is too much for me or whether I should just hold on and learn something?

I’m not sure. SOS.

My ex is a Gem sun Pisces Venus and he had similar issues with the woman before me, an Aqua. They had Pluto square Mars or something like that in synastry.

Their fights got worse over time. The last straw was her humiliating him with comments below the belt line. He said he had enough and refused to meet her afterwards.

I would take it as a sign of incompatibility. While your Sun moon connection (in Gemini) keeps him coming back.

I wouldn't say this is about Libra Men....I was married to one for 10+ years and our life was drama free.

So you all think it’s totally hopeless?

I just feel like I’m almost just a little be too detached and maybe over time it would get better?

I thought Gem & Libras were meant to be a great match but I’m not too sure about that at all.

Same with Aqua and Aries, I’ve met a few and get along with them really well but romantically I’m like fk nooo

I’m Gem in Venus too?

I wonder if any other gems feel like they’re totally void of developing proper feelings and thus relationships

I don’t think I’m undateable because I always have someone to date but I definitely feel as though I can’t make relationships work. At. All.

It’s so weird

Posted by tiziani
If you're coming off detached it is fairly common to attract the greek tragedy reactions in even the calmest of people.

Just being vulnerable and saying what you want defuses the situation. If you can't do that or you're not good at it then practice it. Your reactions in the moment say everything. Record those and if they are below par, just work on them.

The other thing I learnt is not to explain myself after a break up. Just keep it short and keep focusing on sharing what you're feeling, no more no less. Otherwise it is setting the relationship up for failure. Both people start to associate break-ups with being open/putting it all out on the table. Then anytime they are looking for vulnerability from you all they do is break up with you.

And the rest is just being adult enough to agree to disagree on how you feel when you feel differently.

I think you're probably right.

I think I need to respect the fact that he finds phone communication difficult and that's O.K.

I'm a very relaxed laid back person and not a lot upsets me and I need to start learning that not everyone is like that. There's such a big part of me that doesn't want to give up on this relationship.

Maybe this is less about starsigns and more about me growing tf up lol...

Posted by tiziani
If you're coming off detached it is fairly common to attract the greek tragedy reactions in even the calmest of people.

Just being vulnerable and saying what you want defuses the situation. If you can't do that or you're not good at it then practice it. Your reactions in the moment say everything. Record those and if they are below par, just work on them.

The other thing I learnt is not to explain myself after a break up. Just keep it short and keep focusing on sharing what you're feeling, no more no less. Otherwise it is setting the relationship up for failure. Both people start to associate break-ups with being open/putting it all out on the table. Then anytime they are looking for vulnerability from you all they do is break up with you.

And the rest is just being adult enough to agree to disagree on how you feel when you feel differently.

One of the longest advice I've seen from you in a while Tiz 😄

Posted by Amv33
I was dating a Libra guy and it was the same way. He made a big deal out of everything i did but anything he did wasn't a big deal... i think Libra guys might be outta their minds and I'm a gem girl. I don't know who said gem and Libra make great couples because he's the worst guy i ever dated by far....

Yeah I'm like confused who said we were meant to be good matches hey.

I also think it's wrong to assume that Libra's don't like fighting - they bring a lot of drama with them 100% of the time.

I'm just very calm and peaceful in fights like, he doesn't get anything out of me anymore and it's actually kind of sad that he still tries.

I think over time he'll learn to chill the fk out.

But that being said - I find Aries too aggressive and Aqua's are way better as friends than boyfriends. Sag's are fking crazy.

So, really - who is our good match?