Posted by poison_ivy
I'm a tad bit irritated but find humor in this at the same time.. Caps don't like to be the "underdog"..Clearly.

So... Here's my situation..

I am always pretty direct with my Capricorn boyfriend when we have issues. I can admit, I have toned it down from the beginning from going from "0 to 100" REAL quick.. Now, I analyze my thoughts and approach him in a much more calm manner with valid points that state my case. (lol, Caps receive critique better this way, IMO).. When I feel unsettled, he knows. We recently got into a "discussion" (not argument) about what I have been feeling about our relationship lately. He said he agrees and respects my feelings and would call me about it once he got off of work last night...

Well, that call NEVER happened...? So... I woke up this morning @ 4 AM to get ready for work and wrote him a text, calling him out on his butter.

I was very brief but stated my direct evidence. Told him, in lack of better words, that he SUCKS at communication with me. He should have reached out to say, "I won't be able to call to discuss this tonight because of "X,Y & Z.." He knows me.. I'm very understanding.. But just not saying anything at all, leaves me hanging. Like he doesn't care.. Told him that I'm sure he's aware that communication is the key to success in any aspect of life whether its a job, relationship, parenting, etc. Told him that it's conducive for him to work on his communication skills and keeping his word. ((Mind you: This is NOT the first time we've had this problem.. I've brought it up before and other times, I've let it go.. I don't do the nagging... & I'm not repeating my issues OVER & OVER to a grown ass man after he says he got it.. But this time, I needed to be blunt as possible and told him to work on it.))

His response...

"I'm aware that communication is major in everything.. I graduated with a communications degree, my job highly involves communication... So no need to go on and on."

O_O Dat's it? Bruh???


REALLY!?!! It took every bone in my fingers NOT to go to 100 on text!! (All CAPS Lock on that ass LOL!) You caps and your smart ass mouths.. LOL! I know ya'll have issues "expressing" yourself, Fine. (We all got flaws) but I'm not going to let butter slide because he can't Speak up for himself.. We're both grown.. lol.. He missed my WHOLE point also.. to validate his "skills" in communications.. he totally ignored my issue which was that I was upset that he didn't let me know why he didn't call! I told him.. "That's awesome, BUT it doesn't take a degree to know how to communicate with your S/O.. It's common sense.. & if it were vice versa, I would let him know when I can't do something that I said I would do... Told him whether he uses communication on a day to day basis well, he does not use it well with me. Sometimes, I'm left hanging.. No apologies, no words... Just moves on with a "I don't give a butter" attitude.. (At least that's how I take it) & if that's how he "carries" his S/O.. he needs to do better. I told him that on his list of priorities.. I must be all the WAY on the bottom written in itty bitty letters..Like the fine print on a bottle of medicine.. (Yea, I got a sarcastic mouth, that's why we work, 2 smart asses) BUT I'm NOT accepting this behavior from my man..

Why the hell are Cap men so effin stubborn..? O_O

So, back story~ The talk that he wanted to have over the phone was about our timing, our busy schedules and living far apart.. That he didn't like it as I didn't either.. but it's where we are in the present.. & he wanted to discuss it and get to the bottom of it.. Come up with solutions.. I didn't ask him to call about it.. We were texting because we were both at work... He wanted to call. I've never forced him to do anything he didn't want to do. We both have our own will... Both heavily busy..Him more than me.. Clearly, this discussion is important as it has to do with us moving forward in our relationship.. & if the call can't be made, I feel like the right thing to do would be to let the other person know.. "Hey work went overtime, I can't call"... OR "I'm sleepy, had a rough day so I'll call you on this tomorrow.." He knows me.. I'm patient and understanding.. but when I call him out on his "treetrunk up" he responds to 1 point of the problem because it critiqued his "ethics".. BUT it was a VERY small part of the situation.. No sorry babe, or I know, this & that happened..

I'm irritated.. -_-

This is a VENT/Discussion.. Anyone have similar issue with their cap.. What were the results..?

Caps, was I wrong to approach him this way?
I feel that I was mature, calm, and direct and stated valid points.. So what's his deal..? & BTW, I'm not worried because our busy schedules start as soon as we get out of bed, but after my last response to his "I gotta degree in communications" response, he has not written me back.. What could be going on in his big ass head.. ??? Could he be upset at my approach.. We all are different but I'm curious to know how Ya'll feel...

(Side Note: Not exact words of text in my description but basically straight to the point)

OUR NATAL CHART

Him:
Sun: Capricorn
Moon: Taurus
Mars: Pisces
Venus: Aquarius

Me
Sun: Scorpio
Moon: Libra
Mars: Libra
Venus: Sag

I'm not sure of his Rising Sun sign.. But mine is Capricorn Rising.


You should have started with this.

Posted by Aerazo
Posted by Capricorn91
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Posted by Capz
can you handle what is behind the mask


I feel like I communicate telepathically with Caps feelings. (I know it sounds weird) but when my ex-caps (btw not all at once lol) were upset, id just naturally let them do what they want, usually walk away or I'd stay where I am and I'm sure they will leave if they want to. If they didn't leave, i'll comfort them. Most of the time arguments were about stress at work or being grumpy from tiredness.
If I stay in the bed, I will hug, kiss, and then watch tv or something. Sometimes maybe sex
Let the steam go.

With my longest Cap relationship (12yrs) Sometimes he will approach me and if I wasn't following him he would try to come after me.since I can turn ice cold, sometimes I was mad at him I wouldn't go after or let him comfort me.

Usually with him, he was weaker. He would give in when I got him mad.

With the cap I'm seeing for 6 months now, we are on first stage, the Times when he's upset or tired about work and tries to spend time with me but he's so tired he doesn't wanna go out, so I hang out with him in his room watch movies or simplt talk, is give him a massage, or sleep hugging and naked lol Usually that makes him feel better.

this is all natural...I feel the urge to hug him. Sometimes we stare at each other and feel the tension around us when one of us is upset :p



Hmm what I have noticed is that with Aquarius all masks go away and only the truth is left and they make it(any issue)look so trivial that you feel like it's nothing which you can't handle and then you are back to your normal self. But they can't take other people's emotions. They feel suffocated, drowning but still they stick with you. But it might be a downer for more emotional signs as they consider emotional volatility as weakness and try to stay away from it.

Also people don't notice that Capricorns are a bit watery so emotions can cause us problems just like Pisces and Scorpio but once we become stable it is very difficult to have those emotions and we seem cold and calculating but those emotions are there deep within just not on the surface.


Yes, I could see other signs feel these emotions deeply.
I don't know as to other Aquarians and you may just generalize but in my case, I don't overlook their issues or feelings. I may not feel the emotion deeply but i can understand how he must feel and figure out a solution to the problem. I always comfort, is a natural humanitarian trait, comfort and help. Not just one or the other, we offer both.
Caps issue is that they get in their world of work and when they get in touch with their emotions they don't know how to control them, and this overwhelms them, which is why they rather get busy and put the problem at the bottom of the pile.

We see it from different perspectives, I'm the Aqua you're the Cap. lol

You always think that we don't feel or care but that's wrong, we care more than anyone else probably would.



Yes work is good, it keeps us cool and keeps our mind away from focussing too much on those emotions. We need to learn to face our emotions and stablize them until then we won't be able to live our true selves.

I meant that Aquas like to keep things cool, it is not that they don't understand/feel emotions it is just that you will ponder on the need to be so emotional at a particular thing while the other person will be trying to come around those emotions.

I said you do stick around and that would only happen if you care so we know you care. It is just that we don't like to bother others with our things which makes people think as becoming aloof and distant but we are like that. We would like someone to understand us and Aquas are very good in that but still we need to do things ourselves. It is very rare that we open up to people but this happens only with the trusted ones which takes considerable amount of time to build. We do not like to rely on others. Call it pride or vanity but we are independent like that. Once we are done with the thing that was bothering us we are back to our normal selves.

I apologize if it came out wrong previously. I know Aquas care the most and they care practically not in the passive emotional type. They will give you practical solutions to your problems which is good.

But I wanted to say they don't want an overly emotional partner rather one who is well balanced. Everyone has emotions but we can't be overwhelmed by them. We might have some instances here and there but overall the person should not be clingy/overly emotional type.


Aww, yeah all that is true. are you a December cap? I've noticed slight differences between the dec and Jan caps.
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No, I am a Jan Cap.
Posted by Aerazo
Posted by Capricorn91
Posted by Aerazo
Posted by Capz
can you handle what is behind the mask


I feel like I communicate telepathically with Caps feelings. (I know it sounds weird) but when my ex-caps (btw not all at once lol) were upset, id just naturally let them do what they want, usually walk away or I'd stay where I am and I'm sure they will leave if they want to. If they didn't leave, i'll comfort them. Most of the time arguments were about stress at work or being grumpy from tiredness.
If I stay in the bed, I will hug, kiss, and then watch tv or something. Sometimes maybe sex
Let the steam go.

With my longest Cap relationship (12yrs) Sometimes he will approach me and if I wasn't following him he would try to come after me.since I can turn ice cold, sometimes I was mad at him I wouldn't go after or let him comfort me.

Usually with him, he was weaker. He would give in when I got him mad.

With the cap I'm seeing for 6 months now, we are on first stage, the Times when he's upset or tired about work and tries to spend time with me but he's so tired he doesn't wanna go out, so I hang out with him in his room watch movies or simplt talk, is give him a massage, or sleep hugging and naked lol Usually that makes him feel better.

this is all natural...I feel the urge to hug him. Sometimes we stare at each other and feel the tension around us when one of us is upset :p



Hmm what I have noticed is that with Aquarius all masks go away and only the truth is left and they make it(any issue)look so trivial that you feel like it's nothing which you can't handle and then you are back to your normal self. But they can't take other people's emotions. They feel suffocated, drowning but still they stick with you. But it might be a downer for more emotional signs as they consider emotional volatility as weakness and try to stay away from it.

Also people don't notice that Capricorns are a bit watery so emotions can cause us problems just like Pisces and Scorpio but once we become stable it is very difficult to have those emotions and we seem cold and calculating but those emotions are there deep within just not on the surface.


Yes, I could see other signs feel these emotions deeply.
I don't know as to other Aquarians and you may just generalize but in my case, I don't overlook their issues or feelings. I may not feel the emotion deeply but i can understand how he must feel and figure out a solution to the problem. I always comfort, is a natural humanitarian trait, comfort and help. Not just one or the other, we offer both.
Caps issue is that they get in their world of work and when they get in touch with their emotions they don't know how to control them, and this overwhelms them, which is why they rather get busy and put the problem at the bottom of the pile.

We see it from different perspectives, I'm the Aqua you're the Cap. lol

You always think that we don't feel or care but that's wrong, we care more than anyone else probably would.

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Yes work is good, it keeps us cool and keeps our mind away from focussing too much on those emotions. We need to learn to face our emotions and stablize them until then we won't be able to live our true selves.

I meant that Aquas like to keep things cool, it is not that they don't understand/feel emotions it is just that you will ponder on the need to be so emotional at a particular thing while the other person will be trying to come around those emotions.

I said you do stick around and that would only happen if you care so we know you care. It is just that we don't like to bother others with our things which makes people think as becoming aloof and distant but we are like that. We would like someone to understand us and Aquas are very good in that but still we need to do things ourselves. It is very rare that we open up to people but this happens only with the trusted ones which takes considerable amount of time to build. We do not like to rely on others. Call it pride or vanity but we are independent like that. Once we are done with the thing that was bothering us we are back to our normal selves.

I apologize if it came out wrong previously. I know Aquas care the most and they care practically not in the passive emotional type. They will give you practical solutions to your problems which is good.

But I wanted to say they don't want an overly emotional partner rather one who is well balanced. Everyone has emotions but we can't be overwhelmed by them. We might have some instances here and there but overall the person should not be clingy/overly emotional type.
All,

I meant touchy with strangers/acquaintances/family members, not with your lover (that could be included) but main point is with people other than your lover. Mostly we do like to open up to our lovers and want to be physically affectionate.
Posted by Aerazo
Posted by Capz
can you handle what is behind the mask


I feel like I communicate telepathically with Caps feelings. (I know it sounds weird) but when my ex-caps (btw not all at once lol) were upset, id just naturally let them do what they want, usually walk away or I'd stay where I am and I'm sure they will leave if they want to. If they didn't leave, i'll comfort them. Most of the time arguments were about stress at work or being grumpy from tiredness.
If I stay in the bed, I will hug, kiss, and then watch tv or something. Sometimes maybe sex
Let the steam go.

With my longest Cap relationship (12yrs) Sometimes he will approach me and if I wasn't following him he would try to come after me.since I can turn ice cold, sometimes I was mad at him I wouldn't go after or let him comfort me.

Usually with him, he was weaker. He would give in when I got him mad.

With the cap I'm seeing for 6 months now, we are on first stage, the Times when he's upset or tired about work and tries to spend time with me but he's so tired he doesn't wanna go out, so I hang out with him in his room watch movies or simplt talk, is give him a massage, or sleep hugging and naked lol Usually that makes him feel better.

this is all natural...I feel the urge to hug him. Sometimes we stare at each other and feel the tension around us when one of us is upset :p

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Hmm what I have noticed is that with Aquarius all masks go away and only the truth is left and they make it(any issue)look so trivial that you feel like it's nothing which you can't handle and then you are back to your normal self. But they can't take other people's emotions. They feel suffocated, drowning but still they stick with you. But it might be a downer for more emotional signs as they consider emotional volatility as weakness and try to stay away from it.

Also people don't notice that Capricorns are a bit watery so emotions can cause us problems just like Pisces and Scorpio but once we become stable it is very difficult to have those emotions and we seem cold and calculating but those emotions are there deep within just not on the surface.
Posted by WarAngel1
Posted by Capricorn91
A good leader is always honest, fearless and always speaks his mind. He has integrity of character, is connected with his team, knows the impact of his words and actions. Always leads by example. A leader is the one which can galvanize his team to action. A leader is one which can take his team from a sure shot defeat to a great victory. A leader is one who is in touch with the common crowd. He knows everything yet he listens to everyone. A leader always does the right thing. He respects everyone. A leader is one who supports life and helps everyone share this vision thereby causing great change towards a harmonious future. A leader is the one whose first and foremost responsibility is to act in the best way for himself (but not in a negative way) that is understanding his role in life, his responsibilities and setting himself in the right direction which his team can follow. He has to live the ideal life and make it look possible so that other people can get the courage to hope for such a life and achieve it. A leader is the reason world is in chaos and a leader is the one who can bring order to it.


Pretty much this but I would add: a great leader never asks more of his/her followers that they would not do themselves.
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True.
A good leader is always honest, fearless and always speaks his mind. He has integrity of character, is connected with his team, knows the impact of his words and actions. Always leads by example. A leader is the one which can galvanize his team to action. A leader is one which can take his team from a sure shot defeat to a great victory. A leader is one who is in touch with the common crowd. He knows everything yet he listens to everyone. A leader always does the right thing. He respects everyone. A leader is one who supports life and helps everyone share this vision thereby causing great change towards a harmonious future. A leader is the one whose first and foremost responsibility is to act in the best way for himself (but not in a negative way) that is understanding his role in life, his responsibilities and setting himself in the right direction which his team can follow. He has to live the ideal life and make it look possible so that other people can get the courage to hope for such a life and achieve it. A leader is the reason world is in chaos and a leader is the one who can bring order to it.
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Posted by Capricorn91
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Posted by Capricorn91
Capricorns generally have bad handwriting 😢Only when they take their time to write it comes out somewhat nice.

My handwriting is cute

#libramoon


Can you post please? I am also a libra moon. But my handwriting comes neat only when I write with patience not in any hurry.


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Nice ☺
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Posted by Capricorn91
Capricorns generally have bad handwriting 😢Only when they take their time to write it comes out somewhat nice.

My handwriting is cute

#libramoon
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Can you post please? I am also a libra moon. But my handwriting comes neat only when I write with patience not in any hurry.
Capricorns generally have bad handwriting 😢Only when they take their time to write it comes out somewhat nice.
Posted by TheGuru
What is the main Capricorn stereotype that holds true?

I.e
Aries anger
Sag bluntness
Gemini constant mind activity
Leo loving attention

Not saying these are all true, just stereotypes that have some bases in their star sign.

Cap?


All are true but we can master them all after that these things don't bother us. After that we work. Period.
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Posted by Capricorn91
Well I don't know if it is of some help but I also did something like this. I had a friend(girl) who had had a breakup and her birthday was coming up so I gave her a bouquet so that she doesn't feel bad as her ex boyfriend might not give her something on her birthday. But this gesture a shocked(maybe made her a bit jealous but she stayed cool) my Aqua girl. Even though I had no other intention whatsoever but after that I became a bit careful of my actions. I thought it might not affect her but it did.

Can't​ say the same thing here. But just gave my input.


I would have thought the same but I always give guys the benefit of the doubt. and I would listen to your story before jumping into conclusions.

Let's say he is taking this girl and that they don't have anything, but if he was looking for someone to travel with why didn't he ask me? He knows I love trips. So far, he hasn't given me a reason to think he is traveling FOR me, so I keep going with my own plans not including him obviously. He told me he had to take the time off from work.

Also, he was worried about me getting upset about the girl so if we werent traveling to the same place he wouldnt have mentioned it?

I asked him a few days ago before I found out, if he was going with someone and he said alone.
He even told me a couple days ago when I said we could meet there to go to the beach or something, he said don't count on me bc I still don't know where I will be.

So, I don't know. He changes his mind too much, he "worries" about me getting upset over something but then he tells me he may not even see me there. Is not really about what will happen there but this tells me he doesn't see me in the way I see him.
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I thought she did not have any feelings for me hence I thought it wouldn't affect her so I was confused on the reaction. From my end I did not even think how other people will take it. I did what I felt right at that time.

Well maybe initially he had a plan of going alone and that is why he booked a single room and then the girl came along. And that is why he is worried as you will think differently.

Maybe he just wanted to go alone and take mind off things. I usually go like this just to be alone for "me" time. And hence he did not know where he will be. I think he is not going to spend time with someone he is going to spend time away from work. So once he got to know you will be there he might have thought you two could meet up for sometime. Also somehoww that girl would have tagged along and he couldn't refuse her hence he is worried.

We know we are a bit capricious and hence called Capricorns



Well I don't know if it is of some help but I also did something like this. I had a friend(girl) who had had a breakup and her birthday was coming up so I gave her a bouquet so that she doesn't feel bad as her ex boyfriend might not give her something on her birthday. But this gesture a shocked(maybe made her a bit jealous but she stayed cool) my Aqua girl. Even though I had no other intention whatsoever but after that I became a bit careful of my actions. I thought it might not affect her but it did.

Can't​ say the same thing here. But just gave my input.
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Posted by Capricorn91
Posted by the_sunflower
why do you start ignoring someone when some tries to be more affectionate/close/friendly to you

Not talking about just love interests but even friends or acquaintances


We like things on our own terms. If we don't like it at that point we can't be affectionate.
It takes us some time to get comfortable around someone. Also too much affection feels suffocating at times hence we like to keep a certain distance. But if we decide to be affectionate (though not too much) we will show but since that could be out of character for us we might not show it at all.


My GAWD!!!!!!!! The stress! 😩
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Haha
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Posted by daron76
You have questions, we'll try to have answers. No question is too strange or taboo.


Describe your ideal woman for:

- a date
- a GF
- a wife

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Hmm, let's see.

For date: The girl must be of genuine character. No superficiality. Should not be too loud. Modest. Humble. Should have a good sense of humour.

For GF: Same above qualities but also tolerant. Being kind towards the less fortunate, animals and accepting of people.

For wife: Same above but also loving towards both families(hers and mine). Considerate of old people. Having the moral courage to stand for what is right. Self sufficient. Who does not nag.
Posted by Gemitati
Are you able to love anyone but yourselves?


No. We are very selfish and as per Ayn Rand it is a virtue.

But to be truthful I have rarely loved myself. It is until we start loving ourselves we don't start living. So am still in the process but I know it is not bad. Everyone should do it. And I love my family a lot.
Posted by Capri-sun
Why do cap males not answer the f***ing questions?!?!???

I want my money back!!!

When a capricorn is ignored by another capricorn and they know how much we dislike being ignored






Sorry but there was too much girl talk going around so was not checking the post. Please tag us so that we can jump in when required.
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Posted by Cancan26
so who is capricorn favorite sign?


For me it goes like this; 1 Scorpio, 2 Cancer, 3 Taurus. I wish I had met a virgo to see what they are like ( I hear they are awesome) but it hasn't happened yet.


Awwww. I'm number 1

P.S. virgos r nasty manipulative and cold assed. Oh and cookiemonsteres. They r cookiemonsteres.

Soo I wanna know... why cappy men r so serious all the time? It looks like they can't just chillax and have a good time.
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If we chillax the world will get destroyed lol . Jokes aside we feel if we are not serious we won't be doing our work properly and become inefficient. And most of the time it is just on the outside. I have seen people more serious than me and they were of different signs. Also we feel irresponsible if we are not serious like taking things lightly. But we do let our hair down and just chill. But that happens once in a blue moon. We don't want to lose our focus.