libra really got under my skin

Never had anything to do with libras before. I'm taurus. I met him 6 weeks ago, and he showed interest in me, was texting constantly, first thing in the morning, during the day, after work, before he goes to sleep....Really charming, romantic, understanding(i am going through recent separation). He told me that I have to be patient, since we had professional relation. Which I was, it's been 6 weeks, still can't get to see him. What a hell—? Last few days he stopped texting me so often, and then he suddenly calls again. Should I keep on texting him when he's not, or I should just wait to see what's going to happen next.. I am so confused. I'm getting mixed signals, and I don't think he would play with my emotions, especially bc he knows what I have been through last 12 months. If you really like someone wouldn't you do anything to be with that person?? I know I would🙂))
Libras please help.

Dont text or call when he goes MIA.. he'll eventually come back..
Now I dont think a libra will deliberate hurt your feelings, but they can still be hurt, because they just constantly go back and forth until they make up their minds about you..

i think you should drop him. even if he does like you, this behavior is likely to continue. and who needs that drama?

I would drop him if I only could. It's hard. He didn't contact me for two days, and I??ve been quiet myself. But it's sooooooooooo hard, since I'm very open and honest person. I like all the issues to be discussed. Even if he lost interest, I assume that Libra would be honest about it, or maybe not— He is so damn mysterious. This hot and cold game drives me crazy but at the same time makes me want him even more. So confusing. Its Valentines today, so curious would he call or not. I know I won't.

Last time he was quiet for 2 days, I text him to see how??s he doing and I said that since he wasn't been in contact I figured that he didn't want to be disturbed. He replied straight away saying: —happy to be disturbed🙂??. Go figure. So what the hell this guy wants—?

He's doing what he feel like doing which is make himself and his life a priority over anyone else and most men don't really crave and need constant connection and intimacy with a woman as women need with them

If your fresh out of a relationship he may not want you to lean on him , too much pressure and creates this idea that he's going to be a rebound/back up plan to help you get over this other guy. Men date enough to know when the relationship shifts and that shift comes with expectations once expectations surface most men tend to think about how a woman will fit into his life and bail out once he's had time to think it over.

Try focusing on dealing with your separation, take care of your emotional health and your life, you have enough on your plate, some men can feel the sense of anxiety and need for connection from a woman that is going through some heavy stuff and would rather keep distance, plus you both have a working relationship so that also can be another variable that he doesnt' want to deal with.

I know it sucks to feel like your being led on, when men show interest and then drop off the planet it makes us feel less desirable, sometimes rejected, needy and anxious inside over a man.

This is were you need to be true to yourself, be strong inside and when he comes back around, let him know you enjoy hearing from him but you need consistency in your life and as of late he's been quite distant and you don't want to deal with a man coming in and out of your life, scary stuff to say but men can take the hard stuff, don't be afraid to go there if you have to, the other option is to move on and don't say anything...I don't feel he's trying to hurt you but somewhere along the way he's changed his mind and there really isn't much you can say to change that feeling in him.

If you have to chase him by initiating text messages first then for the most part he's just not that into you so your less of a priority in his life, he could have met someone or several other women that he found himself more interested in, maybe he didn't get the kind of feelings he needed to go the distance with you, maybe you were too available, too there and that can make a man feel ambivalent and bored if he's just looking to date.

Stop initiating contact, you don't want to send out the wrong emotional messages such as your desperate...Right now his distance is doing exactly that making doubt and doubt can make a woman seem like she's not confident and that's very unattractive and unsexy. It's time to open up your circle of men and start dating other men besides him so you won't be so focused on what he's doing and not doing...I'm sure he's dating other women as well so he seems quite disinterested and ambivalent and cold but he's most likely none of those things, it just feels like it because you have no one else around to keep your mind off of him and most likely he has plenty of women and hobbies and work surrounding him to keep him busy and preoccupied as to not get hooked on one woman, most times when men are dating multiple women they are not focused on any one woman for a long period of time, they woo and talk and quickly move on to the next target leaving women behind without much of a warning which makes her feel insecure and sometimes rejected.

Thanks a lot tiki33. All the stuff you mentioned makes sense. I should focus on myself and not spend my energy on someone who??s not worth it. I think I??ve made my decision. I??ll drop him, as curious visitor said —who needs that drama??. I??ve got to much pride to chase him. I??ll enjoy my singledom with my head held high and future will take care of itself, I guess 🙂

libras tend to be afraid of commitment anyhow, and i've known very few libras who'd want to get into anything too serious with somebody who's not totally available. hell, i won't even flirt with a guy if i know he's got a girlfriend. plus, as much as libras like to make other people feel good, if it's all about you, it's just too draining after a while and we lose interest. add to that the fact that you've got professional ties, and that would be a lot for him to deal with.

if you like him, stay casually in touch and be friendly. but don't bother with much more for a while, because if he likes you he doesn't want to be your rebound (being a rebound is typically very insulting to libras, as it feels like you don't want us, you just want somebody. anybody), especially if you work together.

a libra will usually avoid getting to involved with any person or situation if they feel that they lack the ability to handle it effectively, or any possible complications that could arise. you present many possible complications. libras think ahead about all the possible what ifs, several steps in advance. don't take it personally.

but there's absolutely nothing wrong with texting him. as long as you aren't pushy or obnoxious or needy or demanding. just be casual and be fun and maybe add some silliness in there. or ask something that'll give him a chance to show off about something he knows a ton about. libras don't like to get into contact with others. we like when others contact us. i'm amazed he's put as much effort into you as he has. i'd never do that much.

oh...also. he wouldn't play with your emotions. libras only do that on accident, never on purpose...unless somebody think they're playing us. then all's fair. but no, with you, i doubt it.

but it's a rare libra who'll come right out and say something. you'd have to ask. and at this point, i think it's too early for that. too early to take the hint and write him off too, because he never would've given so much attention to you if he didn't like you. i think now's just a bad time.

now that i think about it, it doesn't sound like drama. just not something to pursue right now. if it's too much drama for you, drop him, of course. but if you're able to relax for a while and focus on you, put him on the back burner, then there's no need to drop him.