Libra turned cold

hey all 🙂 in need of some advice please.... So I am a gem girl as you can see and I met a libra guy just two and a half weeks ago. We met online (Dating site) hit it off really well exchanged numbers etc. He would consitantly text me every night around the same time and we would chat for hours so last sunday night he finally plucked the courage up and asked me out for a drink so on the friday nght we arranged to met up at the bar and he was really charming bought drinks galore looked at me really attentivly and even asked when he could see me again? That night I got home he text me and said he had a really good night etc and i replied I had too.......

So the next day i decided to throw him a text asking how his day was? and i got a reply back saying "hey alls grand can we talk in a few hours" and i was like yea no probs, thinking he was busy with family or something. So later that evening I was getting ready to head out with the girls and i got a text to say "not in the mood to talk, will text in a few days" so I was kind of baffled but i never bothered replying to this, I just left it. But I am so confused as to what the hell went wrong?!? I have just taking this as 'goodbye Im not interested' but why say il text in a few days? would it not just be easier to say 'hey look im sorry i dont think we hit it of im not interested anymore'

So you are welcome to give your views on this..... Its kind of sad really as I thought we were getting on so well. Do you think he will be annoyed that I didnt respond to that? or do you think I have gave him an easy way out?

Thanks Gem 🙂

imo if i was dude and telling you talk in a couple days means that I am not going to totally cut you off but iam not going balls to the wall. I wouldnt text him.. He knows your interested so dont wait in the wind but dont make yourself easily available...Hard to get

Posted by gemini88
hey all 🙂 in need of some advice please.... So I am a gem girl as you can see and I met a libra guy just two and a half weeks ago. We met online (Dating site) hit it off really well exchanged numbers etc. He would consitantly text me every night around the same time and we would chat for hours so last sunday night he finally plucked the courage up and asked me out for a drink so on the friday nght we arranged to met up at the bar and he was really charming bought drinks galore looked at me really attentivly and even asked when he could see me again? That night I got home he text me and said he had a really good night etc and i replied I had too.......

So the next day i decided to throw him a text asking how his day was? and i got a reply back saying "hey alls grand can we talk in a few hours" and i was like yea no probs, thinking he was busy with family or something. So later that evening I was getting ready to head out with the girls and i got a text to say "not in the mood to talk, will text in a few days" so I was kind of baffled but i never bothered replying to this, I just left it. But I am so confused as to what the hell went wrong?!? I have just taking this as 'goodbye Im not interested' but why say il text in a few days? would it not just be easier to say 'hey look im sorry i dont think we hit it of im not interested anymore'

So you are welcome to give your views on this..... Its kind of sad really as I thought we were getting on so well. Do you think he will be annoyed that I didnt respond to that? or do you think I have gave him an easy way out?

Thanks Gem 🙂

If your harder to get he might stick around more

Don't hold your breath. Just don't think about it too much. Go on with your daily routine. It's so early and already turning cold? It took at least 4 months for mine to turn cold. Now it's hot and cold, then hot, then cold. It's up to you if you have the patience to keep up if it moves forward but just keep one foot on the ground, else you'll end up looking like a fool.

He's just some guy of the internet - don't give him so much head space. He could be a nutter for all you know. You didn't do anything wrong. Just give yourself time to get to know him. Who knows his wife might be making demands on his time. Maybe his kid is sick. Point is, you don't know anything about him to make any judgements. If he flies, then it was not meant to be. Good to know early before you have invested too much time in him.

He was going through some personal stuff that day. I'm sure now he's embarrassed that he sent that text. He probably wanted you to ask him what was wrong, and by ignoring it your basically saying, "deal with your problems by yourself, I'm not gonna help". I agree a man should have his shit together to the point where he doesn't pull immature stunts like this, but he did so what's done is done. It's up to u now.. He's embarrassed so don't expect him to text u. He might even ignore a text from u if he's still dealing with his problem. It's up to u tho. Is he allowed to make mistakes? Can u still like him if he's flawed? This day and age everyone is kind of struggling financially, and for me I have to have my professional situation sorted out completely before I can enjoy any kind of recreation. So maybe he's stressed out about where he's at in life. If u wanna save him u can. All it takes is, "hey why haven't you texted me yet?". Let this be a test of your compassion. If ur just gonna run away because of a text message then it won't workout. I had this same type of thing happen to me with a Gemini last August. Pulled an immature stunt for amusement to see how she'd react and it backfired and she stopped talking to me. If she had just said, "lol idiot" instead of nothing, we might be together to this day. I refuse to live in regret though, and so should u. Make a decision and stick with it. Move on, or work it out. Lol this was probably of no help since those are obviously the only 2 decisions. Life is much more fun when u have somebody to talk to though. So keep that in mind.

Hey guys thank-you for all your comments etc, this morning when I checked online he has actually cancelled his account (dating line) either that or he had just blocked me off it I'd say it's prob more like taking me off this. But tbh there is nothing I can do about this and I have just excepted this in my head and gonna move on. I understand what some of you are saying about him having gone through a problem and he prob just wanted me to say what's up?! But in all fairness we only went out one night together, do I really don't think it's my place to text back and ask what's wrong it might have been different if we had been like two months etc...

Well I am deffinately not hanging around, I fact I have a date with a Leo tomorrow night & well Mr Libra has just missed a good opportunity

Gem 🙂

Libra are like that! They come and they go! I'm pretty sure if he is interested and if you do not reach out to him, eventually he will reach out to you. Have you tried to call or text him?? if, so did he respond to you or not?

@DESTINY0809 no he hasnt called or even texted yet! he sent me that message ' not in the mood for talking, text in a few days' on Saturday & this is now Wednesday! So tbh I don't think their is any hope. plus he blocked me off the dating site wee our both on so it doesn't look good lol

Gem

Posted by gemini88
@DESTINY0809 no he hasnt called or even texted yet! he sent me that message ' not in the mood for talking, text in a few days' on Saturday & this is now Wednesday! So tbh I don't think their is any hope. plus he blocked me off the dating site wee our both on so it doesn't look good lol

Gem

Better to know now than to waste any more time on him. You are Gem, you won't be single for long..unless you wanna be. 🙂

HA! I like your attitude girly! The Libra will be back though. When? nobody knows??_and after only one date nobody cares! Geesh! Now this may sound funny coming from a libra myself, but Libra's are not like Leos, we don't look for our mate to kiss our you know what.lol. I disagree that he wanted you to ask him whats up because you two were not on bad terms. Now If you were ignoring him and this had been going on a little longer than yea, I might say he said for attention or to get a reaction. But seeing as though he barely knows you he probably would've been irritated if you would've asked. I would've had a "Umm, I told you I didn't feel like talking" type of attitude. I'll bet if you would've asked whats wrong he would not have responded. You did right. Now in all honesty I think he had a girlfriend, or something close to it and they were probably on the outs, and now they're back good. He's different from me though, even if I did have someone I would've kept you as a friend. You never know. Maybe you??re a good listener. Its not like yall had sex or were really going on to something. Your encounter was so casual its not even funny. Like I said, do you. keep pushing. You did right. You don't know him like that. He might be crazy. Shoot who knows. LOL.