Librain Men please help

Hi,

Wonder if anyone can help me. I was dating this virgo/libra cusp man for 6 months, we got on great never argued, spent loads of time together, to cut a long story short, I have issues going on at work and can be a bit over emotional, he basically made a comment on his fb account which I didnt like, I told him why I didn't like it, think I was just being over sensitive with everything else that's going on at work. He then ignored me for days, I hate being ignored I would just rather sort the problem out deal with it and move on, but he sulks and I find that really hard to handle. When I did text asking if we could sort it I kind of said if he didn't contact me that would be it, needless to say he didn't reply, until friday night when he just text me and told me that's it I don't want to be with you anymore. I then went a bit mad and continuosly texted him asking if we could meet face to face and talk about it, he ignored me so I made sure I went to his place and waited until he came home from work. We talked and he said he just wanted to be on his own, he didn't want to be with me, he didn't care if he wasn't with someone for the next 10 years, at this point my cancerian emotions took over I was in tears not hysterical or anything just upset, he kept wiping his eyes as well, he couldn't even look at me, and I couldn't look at him as I was leaving, I got my coat, gave him back his stuff, even the bracelet he gave me, as I didn't want anything that reminded me of him especially not wearing it. He cam down in the lift with me and even walked out with me to the pavement, I know he was watching me as I walked away but I couldn't turn back. I got home and he'd already changed his status on fb, which upset me even more, then I had to change mine, and got bombarded with messages from friends, you know what its like. I did text him and say something about why he had to do it so quick he could have given me some time, as now I would have to tell friends and family straight away, but he never replied. I haven't contacted him for 2 days now and I am planning on doing no contact as it is easier for me to get over someone that way, we are still friends on fb, which I don't understand, as he was so quick to change the status that I thought he would remove me as well, I have untagged myself from mutual photos as I don't want them to keep popping up, whereas he has left them all on his. cont:-

This happened 3 months before as well, however, we never went as far and changed statuses etc, we got back together, took it slow and we were fine. When we are together it is great, a real closeness, he was always telling me he loved me and would do anything for me. I really miss him though, and feel we are so good together that it shouldn't just be thrown away, but just don't know what to do, I am trying to give him his space, but am really hoping he does change his mind and come back soon, are Librains, likely to do that or is it definetly over. Also, I don't get the whole keeping me as a friend bit on fb, is this so he can keep tabs on me? Any insight would be greatly appreciated. Thanks

Thank you for your reply, yes I know I need to use this time to get myself together, and am going to try and be positive about it, the problem is it was a really good relationship, and he was always telling me how happy he was being with me etc, I know he has some issues going on in his own life, that seem unresolvable at the moment, and I think that is getting him down, so me and him was probably the straw that broke the camels back. I've never changed my status on fb only ever with him, and we both did it at the same time as we were both so happy, and have now learnt not to rush into that again. You say you do the whole break up and make up thing generally how long is it before you get in contact again, or realise it wasn't what you wanted, or is it because the other person has got in contact and given you a bit of space to think things through?

Yeah I can totally understand what your saying, I have big issues going on at work which I don't want to go into, but to be honest I have been quite emotional because of this, its draining the life out of me it was a silly comment he made that made me feel like crap, I do think sometimes Cancers are a bit too emotional for Libra's I don't think they quite get us sometimes, the slightess thing can change us, they say we can be moody and that is true, but when we calm down and think about it, we realise we jumped the gun, but then its too late.

I am going to give him time, I realised I had jumped the gun and did say sorry, I am now on the no contact phase, I just hope though that he will change his mind after being given some space.

Yeah that's the thing while I would want to talk things through and sort them out he couldn't do that, I don't think he liked confrontation, he was a good listener in general, but if it came to anything emotional he wasn't quite sure how to deal with it and would close himself off like he has done with an issue he is going through.

That's what I am hoping that when he gets through the anger of the situation that he will start to miss me and realise that he has made a mistake, really hope that is the case, but also know that I have to just except it if he doesn't. From reading on here on other posts, most Libra's do go back eventually after some time, so do hope this is the case. I know he has shut me off at the moment but hopefully he will be back. I do feel like Libra's are quite impulsive sometimes, I remember he did say to me the last time it happened, that if I hadn't contacted him he probably would have come back with his tail between his legs.

He's an Air sign, you are way too emotional for a Libra's comfort level, plus you sort of dumped him first by threatening to leave him if he didn't stop ignoring you, you took his non action as ignoring, he most likely thought you needed a break more than it was about ignoring you.

I do believe he could have been more warm with you regarding your work situation but he's Air--Ice cold, can't expect too much from an Air sign in the displaying feelings department, I'm Air (Aqua) too so I get it, I've learned to evolve into being a warm and generous, giving human being but it doesn't always come naturally. I used to avoid intimacy of all kind now not so much.

Too much drama for a Libra, they need balance and you are just all over the place in general, I'm not saying this is you all the time and this is your typical behavior but just maybe the timing is all wrong.

There obviously a whole lot more going on than fit into the coupld paragraphs we've gotten. This kind of fighting has happened before and even to the point of breaking up (even if fb didn't get notified...) so this isn't new. What usually brings all that on. I don't like a lot of drama. I'm curious if he just got tired of it and is walking.

Thanks for all your comments, his birthday is September 23rd so he is right on the cusp of being a virgo / libra. Yeah tiki33 I think your right about me being all over the place at the moment, had loads going on that has just really thrown me off balance, things that don't usually bother me got to me, and I guess I just thought he would be there for me a bit more, as I always have been with him. So it did really hurt when he shut me off and ignored me as I just felt he wasn't taking my feelings into account, and the way I saw it was that I would never have done that to him.

Theultra79, I do hope your right, that he will use this time to reflect and thats what I'm hoping the no contact will do, it will actually make him start to miss me, but also know this is going to take a while and not be an overnight thing, as he will need to get rid of the anger first.

Librasid the last time he had a lot going on that he was finding hard to deal with lets just say child issues, he got himself really down about it, we'd made arrangements to see each other on the saturday night, he'd spoken to me that very day a few times, and knew I was seeing him, I then organised childcare for my daughter, and at the very last minute, right as I had dropped her off, he text me and said he was tired and wanted to leave it, which I was a bit fed up about, not the fact that he didn't want to see me, the fact that he had left it until so late in the day to tell me, had he of said it earlier it wouldn't have bothered me, so I was a bit short with him by text, he then just totally cut off from me and to be honest understand why I felt it was a bit extreme to ignore me. I'd rather say what I have to say, he says what he has to say and then we deal with it. So obviously I contacted him, but as the days went on and he hadn't replied I was getting more and more agitated, especially when to me it wasn't even a proper argument, I couldn't understand the sulking. I didn't have a clue what was going on, he must have then got fed up with me texting, then he just told me it was over, same as this time, all by text, which I then got upset about and wanted to see him face to face, which I know he hates, but I just can't understand why you can't talk to someone face to face, by text is a cowards way to me. So eventually he agreed to see me, we spoke he said it was over, he didn't want to be in a relationship, he wanted to make his own decisions and not be judged on them etc. I got upset, then he asked me to see him again so we could talk, which I did, my friend did tell me not to go, but I wanted to see him again as him wanting to see me again had totally baffled me. He was telling me one thing then wanting to see me again, made no sense at all, so I went, by this time I was a lot stronger, wasn't crying, as far as I was concerned he said it was over so it was, but then he asked me if I wanted to go with him to see his best friend the next weekend, which would mean staying there etc, so as you can imagine I was shocked, didn't know if he was playing games or what, said to him but we're not together why would I go?, and then he said he did want to be with me etc, so that's what happened the first time. So to me he is totally confusing and seems quite impulsive. Any ideas, is this normal behaviour for a Libra male?

Oh Theultra79, I do think we are really good together, when we're good we're really good,always laughing, can talk about anything, everything is great, he is the most caring considerate person ever, we love spending time together, he always saying nice things to me and I do him etc, my daughter loves him, my family like him, I get on well with his family,it's great. It's just this dark side to him sometimes, where he won't talk and ignores me, I don't get it. I understand he needs space, and initially after the first time I did back off and let him say when he wanted to see me etc, as I didn't want to suffocate him, but recently we have spent more time together, his choice though, which I was happy about and then it takes something small and minor that most couples would shrug off and it's all over. The other week he did ask me "If I really loved him? which I thought was strange but I told him I did, and then this all happened a few days later. Do you think he was thinking about it when he asked me that then?