Libras ego bent. He's hurt. HELP

Well, I've dinged my lads ego. A few weeks back I wasn't that readily available for him and he showed his, I say possessive side where he contacted me over and over again to a point where it was very late at night. When I finally contacted him he ignored me back. What he didn't know as that I had a friend in the hospital that was non responsive to medicine from h1n1. I can't say much about my friend, a woman who is in the hospital since she is well known in our town. Have to keep it quiet. I explained to my lad that I was sleeping when he phoned. Since then he has been avoiding me. any advice or suggestions? by bff tells me my libra may possibly think that I was out with another man which is not true. Do I give him space or contact him?

he's avoiding me.

You might HAVE to tell him the truth -- he clearly doesn't believe the "sleeping" lie. You could have at least told him that you were spending time with a sick friend, making sure to note it was a SHE, even if you wouldn't tell him exactly WHO she was. He might still be hurt and upset that you wouldn't tell him everything, but instead he's now JUSTIFIED in being pissed at you - YOU LIED TO HIM!

Also, I don't really understand how this woman being "known" in your town justifies you telling a bald-faced (and obviously apparent) lie to your Libra - it's H1N1, not frickin' HIV! ....Libras HATE liars, they are careful who they trust, they NEED to trust you. He KNOWS you're lying, and probably DOES think you were out with another guy... that would be just about the only thing he'd think was anything to LIE about. So he's working into his weighing and measuring and balancing now... that you will apparently tell him lies when you see fit. Fix this fast, or you are FUCKED.

FFS, tell him the truth - and ask him to not say anything about the woman, if it's that damn important to you. Libras aren't malicious gossips, especially when told to keep something quiet. But telling him could even make HIM feel trusted and respected enough that you would tell him this "secret"... or maybe even MORE pissed off that you DIDN'T know/trust him enough after 9 months to tell him in the first place, and apparently thought he was stupid enough to fall for your stupid lie.

Could go either way. Why do people lie in the first place? Damned if I know. More trouble than it's worth.

I used that excuse since he tells me the same when I contact him and he replies back the next day. It was the first I wasn't available for him. Yes I lied I want to tell him the truth but how will he react after that. I don't know. I'll call him but he hasn't answered or he calls back HOURS later. his text have changed as well to short and short. no emotion.

Aww, come on. You can't justify lying to him by saying that he says he was sleeping when he calls you back the next day. You thought he'd believe it, since you believed him... well, no, you probably didn't, did you? But you always acted like you did.

Honesty, expressing true and genuine emotions, and trust are the only way to deepen a relationship. I get the impression that you two are "together but apart" which is slow death to a Libra, the sign of partnership... Something is off here - you two aren't connecting. 9 months is not UNHEARD of for Libra indecision, but it's getting right up there.

Jsharck - Do you stuff down your feelings, esp your negative ones, so that you remain The Cool GF, The Fun GF, The No-Pressure GF? Holding back a little, have a few walls for self-protection, because you "don't know where the relationship is headed"? Smiling and being pleasant and sweet when you feel anything BUT pleasant and sweet? If any of those are true, your "inside" does not match your "outside" and it's going to prevent him from connecting to you on an emotional level.

I'm going to email you something.

Nefer. Nail on the head, smack right down yes. you've read right thru me.