MY LIBRA-ARIES-LEO DRAMA LOL.HELP!

Hey all,

I don't know if any of you know my story about childhood crush on this Aries. But anyway things have really gone downhill as time goes on.
Back story: I met an Aries when I was like 6 or 7 and we had been crushing on each other like crazy all the way up until now we are in our 20??s. In the past he always liked me more though. Anyway, one day after 5 months of just crushing and talking, I finally caved and told him I was falling in love he didn't say it back. Then 3 months after that we crossed the line and got physical. That's when the problems started. He began changing, but swearing he still liked me, we??d still mess around but I wasn't getting the attention I did before, which caused me to to change too in effort not look like a fool over him. Long story short our relationship has turned into strictly fwb. He will walk in a room and won't even speak to me even if I was just with him the week before. He did it recently at my house. I was having a party (I didn't invite him our mutual cousin did without my permission might I add) he walked in and spoke to everyone he knew except me. It hurt, but I shrugged it off, because I made a comment about it before but it obviously went in one ear and out the other. Not to mention last week I texted him while I was drunk saying —I love you always?? he never responded.
Anyway fast forward to the present:
We have a mutual cousin whom we both are crazy about. (The aries uncle married my aunt, that's why we share a mutual cousin) anyway, we??d all hang out in a group with their other male cousin whom is a Leo along with my bestfriend.

At one point I moved in with our mutual cousin at my aunts house and I??d notice that the Leo would make certain comments about the way I dress like —Dang you always dressed up.lol. Like you going somewhere. I??ve never seen you dressed down.?? I used laugh and ignore it at first, but after he said it more than once I used to wonder why he cared? He and I were always real cool cracking jokes on one another and just laughing while we all hung out, and then one day he and I were over my aunts at the same time and he said —You gonna make a good girlfriend to the right dude one day??. Again it flew right over my head until now.

I think the first question is are u interested in the Leo?

Do you want the Leo

Is the Leo crushing on you?

Looks like the Leo finds you attractive since he keep giving compliments but anyways I find this funny because a know an Aries who has girls going nuts for him and doesn't give a rat ass but he chases the girl who doesn't pay him no attention.

I almost lost my dinner @ 'mutual cousin'. Whew, thanks for clarifying that one. I'm not sure what your question is but this Aries dude is not worth it imo. Ignoring you infront of people, your texts...um no.

Posted by QueenAnna
Looks like the Leo finds you attractive since he keep giving compliments but anyways I find this funny because a know an Aries who has girls going nuts for him and doesn't give a rat ass but he chases the girl who doesn't pay him no attention.

True. Aries go nuts for people they sense they have no hold over. Treating them like crap works like a charm as well...but that goes for any man *evil laugh*

I'm so mad this darn internet did not let me finish the story.lol
Anyway you guys are spot on. My question at the end of the day was whether or not you thought the Leo liked me or if he just genuinely enjoys my company from the many times we hung out as a group? I wanted to know what you all thought the Aries may think? And should I care about Aries feelings?

I won't lie my gut is telling me the Leo MIGHT have interest in me, just because he pays attention to little things like the way I dress, one time I got my toes polished he took notice, if I changed my hair he??d make a comment faster than my Aries. I got a lower back tattoo and he made a comment like he was shocked when he noticed it. He once made a comment like —I think you??re going to make a really good girlfriend one day to that right guy. Like you gonna be a cool ass girlfriend to the right man.?? I don't remember what we were talking about that made him say it, I only remember it because that was the day I finally realized he MAY have interest but refusing to say it directly because of his cousin (the Aries) and our history. He's been texting and inviting me out and because I still somewhat care about the Aries I have been sort of blowing him off in a nice way, like saying I'm busy or people I was supposed to come with bailed on me. He's really laid back and cool. Like last night he invited me to a hotel party and call twice to see where I was, but I ignored the calls and texted him this morning saying I was caught up with family. He laughed and said it was cool. I feel like he knew I was probably lying but he's too chill to care or show he cared. I ignored the calls because I didn't really know how to react or if I should go because of the way my Libra cousin has been acting. I'm afraid I'm gonna get caught in the middle of something or that I will look bad hanging with the Leo and his friends after what the Aries and I have been through.

What are yall thoughts?

Posted by size zero superhero
From how it looks the Aries' current attitude toward you is disappointingly casual & fair-weather given that you two go WAY back, as do your respective feelings for each other.
It's understandable if you're particularly hesitant to abandon said prospect, due to the fact your mutual crush was long-standing before finally speaking up and acting on it. Now that you're there, things between you & the Aries haven't panned out as well as you had hoped.

All things considered, including his brushing you off in your own home & generally acting as though he could take it or leave it--after having the hots for you for most of his life--there's no reason you should tolerate his sudden iciness.
Especially when it's clear that other guys, such as the Leo in reference, wouldn't mind replacing him.

Now, I'm not saying you should hook up with Mr. Leo on account of his interest in you, nor to exact revenge on the Aries over his recent reciprocation/communication failures.
If you decide to give the Leo a chance, do it because you like him. And if you don't, well...why even bother?
There's NO shame in staying single until the right person comes along. Yet conversely, in my humble opinion, settling & finding placeholders is just TRAGIC.

I am sort of interested in the Leo BUT i know he's off limits as far as dating because i crossed the line with his cousin.
However hanging with him was always a good time. He's a Leo so he's always the life of the party. LOL.

Pink libra, I know you and the aries go waaaaay back, but please dismiss him! You are a Libra, and a female Libra at that, so since when do you allow someone to mistreat you like that? Total disrespect is not something that most Libra's tolerate. We can tolerate a lot but blatant disrespect and inconsideration is not two of them. Especially since we are always considering other people's feeling and being respectful. I understand the love part and all and you wanting to see where the relationship can go, but if you ignore me and not even have the decency to extend common courtesy IN MY HOUSE, then your azz is history. In fact, he would have been escorted out of my party with the swiftness. Even when I was in my 20's I didn't allow anyone to disrespect me. I didn't and I still don't disrespect anyone, so that is a no no to anyone who tries to do it to me. If you really want to turn me off, try being inconsiderate and disrespectful, I assure you that you won't have to worry about where our relationship stands....friend or lover. You will automatically know when I totally ice your azz into another zone.

Posted by tiziani
Pinklibra I like your opinions so prepare to dislike my following one. You can do a lot, lot better than this whole situation. The world isn't that small. And if you pursue this drama it will likely blow up in your face big time but maybe that's what you want. That's all I can say.

Point well taken Tizani. Thank you 🙂

Posted by LIb4Life
Pink libra, I know you and the aries go waaaaay back, but please dismiss him! You are a Libra, and a female Libra at that, so since when do you allow someone to mistreat you like that? Total disrespect is not something that most Libra's tolerate. We can tolerate a lot but blatant disrespect and inconsideration is not two of them. Especially since we are always considering other people's feeling and being respectful. I understand the love part and all and you wanting to see where the relationship can go, but if you ignore me and not even have the decency to extend common courtesy IN MY HOUSE, then your azz is history. In fact, he would have been escorted out of my party with the swiftness. Even when I was in my 20's I didn't allow anyone to disrespect me. I didn't and I still don't disrespect anyone, so that is a no no to anyone who tries to do it to me. If you really want to turn me off, try being inconsiderate and disrespectful, I assure you that you won't have to worry about where our relationship stands....friend or lover. You will automatically know when I totally ice your azz into another zone.

Girl, all I can really say to explain my actions with this Aries is foolery over love. Period. You are so spot on, I laughed when I read your opinion because I always think it's so funny when someone reads me like that (I'm normally the one doing the reading and dissecting on dxp)lol. You are right disrespect, and rudeness is on my zero tolerance list. This is why cheating is at the top of my deal breaker list in a relationship and guys think it's so common that they feel I'm petty but I see it as ultimate disrespect and dishonor. But that's beside the point. You are a reminder on the woman that I am, I'm not ashamed to say I lost myself a little when I fell for my childhood crush(Aries) but I??ve gotten a lot better with my emotions towards him over the past two of years of this bull. I??ve stopped calling, and I deleted his number after the party. I know I will run into him at family gathering because He and the Libra are tighter than bark on a tree, but I will keep your words in my head when I see him again. Thanks for reminding me sistah! Lol.

"pinklibra"..It's cool...we all know how it is when in love. Everyone deserves that moment when we loose our faculties and think with our heart instead of our head. That's only human, but you seem to have snapped back, so it's all good.The Leo dude is probably a better fit anyway..lol. I say give him a shot🙂

Houston we have a problem now??_
The other day I happen to think about the Leo and then I logged onto my Instagram and guess who face popped up on my timeline??_smh. I had to hurry up and keep scrolling because I found myself blushing.
I feel bad having even a small crush on him because I'm the number one person that always encourages my friends to stay away from guys that hang in the same flock. And this is worse because he's the Aries?? cousin! I know the Aries behavior towards me over the last year is horrid, and most of you will say —BUNK HIM!?? BUT??_smh I don't know??_lol

I'm not a libra, but I mean he is doing his own thing(the aries) so why don't you. I mean that's the aries and Leo's issue to figure out, I usually don't condone homie hopping, but I also think you cant miss out on relationships because of their connection to someone close. The best way to go about it would be to take it slow, and ya I'm gonna say it, "Bunk HIM," the aries guy lol. You guys are long term friends and he still isn't being decent?

Just be careful, make sure the cousin's dont think the same way though! No playas lol. Libras and Leos help each other feel at their best and secure, lots of support and love. I've got a lot of leo/libra couples around me, including my bf and I. Try it out 😉 you might be happy that you did!

Aries men are so territorial. He probably thinks "I've got this, she's mine". Dismiss him and see how fast he comes running back. So what if they are cousins. You are not beholden to anyone. Go out with Leo as just friends, let things develop naturally, slowly.

You are always so good at offering advice. Go back and read your post as though someone else wrote it, use your logical mind, not emotions. What advice would you give if it were someone else posting?

My best friend is an aries but he's not petty in the way your guy seems to be. What I will say is that if you keep engaging in the interaction and feeding into it, NOTHING will change. I would just leave that be. Per the Leo, they are pretty charming. I would have fun with the flirtation but not sure if you should take it anywhere just because of the whole cousin connection. You don't want to be messy lol...