My Libra said something (your opinions)...

To make a long story short, Friday night we were out and ran into a few friends. Good conversation, good drinks, and everyone was having a good time. In the midst of one of many conversations with this group of people, my Libra (who is always friendly) just said out of nowhere "I'm in love with that girl" to mutual friends. I HEARD it and just looked at him wide-eyed and didn't say anything. That was the end of that. I didn't bring it up and I'm not going to bring it up. Here's the thing, he was drinking so I don't know if it was said because of that or what. Do Libras usually express their feelings more so when drinking? Liquid courage maybe?

He always tells me how very fond of me he is and that he really "likes" me. Just last week he said "I think you're pretty damn cool." Anyway, I know he is fond of me and enjoys spending time with me. It kind of threw me for a loop and I thought I would ask your opinions. It was nice and unexpected and that's what I want to hear, but not if it's the alcohol talking. Thoughts?

Posted by KingofLibras
I think he wants to fuck your brains out ( In case you are still confused )

You don't say. We're past that.

Libras are a funny lot.. when they REALLY like someone, they pursue you, catch you, keep you... but they tend to downplay the emotional importance (self-preservation?) considerably. It's like they don't WANT you to know how much power you have over them, because others have used and hurt them in this way.. so they play it a touch cool, almost "I like you.. but I'm not wrapped around your finger, oh no. This isn't a big deal. I'm still perfectly in control." even when they're melting inside and half-positive you're gonna tear their heart out and stomp it flat.

Also, my Libra has a Virgo Moon and wasn't very verbal with his affections for the first year and a half maybe... careful, practical with his emotions and preferred SHOWING love over SAYING love (SO Virgo!)... unless he was drinking... a little alcohol to lubricate and facilitate.. and his Leo Venus moved to the front, including lovey-dovey scenes and public declarations of his feelings for me to friends, just like what happened to you. Took him longer to get it through his head that I like the I love you's in private, to just me, as well. But he's STILL not an overly mushy, saying it every day kinda guy... but alcohol turns him to a sappy, lovesick, adoring beau who simply cannot understand what a girl like me sees in a guy like him LOL

So in a nutshell.. it ain't the booze talking, Micha - it's just the catalyst.. The booze just brings the inner feelings out. I always say drunks don't lie (except the bs they might tell someone to get them to have sex, not talking about that)... they just finally say drunk what they actually think while sober.

Posted by Nefer
Libras are a funny lot.. when they REALLY like someone, they pursue you, catch you, keep you... but they tend to downplay the emotional importance (self-preservation?) considerably. It's like they don't WANT you to know how much power you have over them, because others have used and hurt them in this way.. so they play it a touch cool, almost "I like you.. but I'm not wrapped around your finger, oh no. This isn't a big deal. I'm still perfectly in control." even when they're melting inside and half-positive you're gonna tear their heart out and stomp it flat.

Also, my Libra has a Virgo Moon and wasn't very verbal with his affections for the first year and a half maybe... careful, practical with his emotions and preferred SHOWING love over SAYING love (SO Virgo!)... unless he was drinking... a little alcohol to lubricate and facilitate.. and his Leo Venus moved to the front, including lovey-dovey scenes and public declarations of his feelings for me to friends, just like what happened to you. Took him longer to get it through his head that I like the I love you's in private, to just me, as well. But he's STILL not an overly mushy, saying it every day kinda guy... but alcohol turns him to a sappy, lovesick, adoring beau who simply cannot understand what a girl like me sees in a guy like him LOL

So in a nutshell.. it ain't the booze talking, Micha - it's just the catalyst.. The booze just brings the inner feelings out. I always say drunks don't lie (except the bs they might tell someone to get them to have sex, not talking about that)... they just finally say drunk what they actually think while sober.

My bf is a Libra Sun/Virgo Venus - pretty much the same reaction. When he's got a little bit of sauce in his system - he is a total love bird. It's almost overwhelming considering the fact he's pretty reserved when he's sober. My Libra is always pretty affectionate, sober or not, but when it comes to acutually talking when sober - he clams up. Get him a few cocktails and he's lo0se as a goose.

He readily admits this. So when I was wondering the same thing, I got my affirmation straight from the horses mouth.

Posted by Nefer
But he's STILL not an overly mushy, saying it every day kinda guy... but alcohol turns him to a sappy, lovesick, adoring beau who simply cannot understand what a girl like me sees in a guy like him LOL

So in a nutshell.. it ain't the booze talking, Micha - it's just the catalyst.. The booze just brings the inner feelings out. I always say drunks don't lie (except the bs they might tell someone to get them to have sex, not talking about that)... they just finally say drunk what they actually think while sober.

That's exactly how he behaved! Although he was talking to them, he was looking directly at me when saying these things (and there were a few more things that were said, but OF COURSE, it was that particular statement that caught my attention). It was a bit of a shocker. Nice, but wow.

Posted by LibraLuv
My scales say 9 out of 10, he meant it. The preview of what he'd been telling you all along was bound to lead up to those words. Just continue to be your wonderful Gemini self. It's all good. 🙂

I sure will. Thank you!!!

UPDATE:
I'm still not going to bring up those words and the other things he said. I sent a text the next day saying that I hope he wasn't too hungover to which he replied that he really didn't drink very much. Guess if one didn't drink that much, one should know what he's saying. lol

Posted by TasteOfChaos
Hahaha, when I first read this... I thought she meant he was talking about being in love with someone else?
I was like... WTF?
Anyway, yeah... I tend to open up alot more when I am drunk... I say shit that I would NEVER say sober! (I blame my Gemini Moon) The next morning I am SO pissed off!
I feel all vunerable and exposed...
😢

Nooo, me. hahaha

He has a Gemini moon also. Do you get quiet?
He seems to be a little quiet now.
That's why I'm not going to bring it up.
I don't want to put him on the spot.

Posted by QLIbraMale
lol Micha I thought you was talking about another waitress for a sec. yeah imo he loves you just waiting on the right moment to release his feelings, yeah drunk confessions maybe him accidentally opening up his true feelings.

lol...no it was me. If it were someone else I'd have to let my twin loose to kick some butt. hahaha

Posted by Micha
Do Libras usually express their feelings more so when drinking? Liquid courage maybe?

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It was nice and unexpected and that's what I want to hear, but not if it's the alcohol talking. Thoughts?

I do express more feelings when drunk or high. Liquid courage it is. I wouldn't say it's the alcohol talking. While I am more willing to talk about stuff under the influence, it doesn't make me say things I don't mean. All it does is remove the filter that would normally stop me from saying things I don't want to say.

Side note: It is not fair to use any information gained against someone who was drunk/high when you conned them into talking! 🙂

Posted by LibraSid

Posted by Micha
Do Libras usually express their feelings more so when drinking? Liquid courage maybe?

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It was nice and unexpected and that's what I want to hear, but not if it's the alcohol talking. Thoughts?

I do express more feelings when drunk or high. Liquid courage it is. I wouldn't say it's the alcohol talking. While I am more willing to talk about stuff under the influence, it doesn't make me say things I don't mean. All it does is remove the filter that would normally stop me from saying things I don't want to say.

Side note: It is not fair to use any information gained against someone who was drunk/high when you conned them into talking! 🙂

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I totally agree with you. I didn't bring it up then and I'm not going to. I'll wait to see what happens.

Posted by LibraLuv

Posted by Micha

Posted by LibraLuv
My scales say 9 out of 10, he meant it. The preview of what he'd been telling you all along was bound to lead up to those words. Just continue to be your wonderful Gemini self. It's all good. 🙂

I sure will. Thank you!!!

UPDATE:
I'm still not going to bring up those words and the other things he said. I sent a text the next day saying that I hope he wasn't too hungover to which he replied that he really didn't drink very much. Guess if one didn't drink that much, one should know what he's saying. lol

Yep, I wouldn't bring it up either, I'm pretty sure he'll bring it up again. Yaay! It's sounding really good Micha!

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I'm giddy. lol

Posted by KingofLibras
Everytime I go out with friends and get wasted, I say too much, feel too much, and generally am embarrased in the morning. I wont apologize for any of my behavior of course, but sometimes I regret meeting/getting to know certain girls when I'm drunk because then I can't stop thinking about them. Im generally charming when I'm wasted so they respond rather well, but I forget to follow up with them by either getting their number or scheduling a get together later. Its all about living in the moment, having fun, and not really planning ahead.

I get that. I'm a Gemini and when I've had too much to drink I can talk some stuff!

Posted by BelovedAssata
I guess I'm the only one that thinks she should take his words with a grain of salt...or not even mention it all until he brings it up. Or he has given you the impression that he wants you to bring it up, maybe you can casually mention that night, and see what he says about it. People say alot of things drunk, I'd just take it for what it is, flattery. If you don't feel the same way, bringin attention to that runs the risk of really embarassing the guy. So if you are enjoying how things are going, don't let those words derail what could potentially be a really solid relationship in the making.

See, QLibraMale, remember in that "I love you thread" THIS is what i mean about not taking the words too seriously, he could have really sincere feelings for the girl but if he's allowed to indulge them too quickly his emotions might fizzle out before he has a chance to really enjoy them...This 'could' be a slip up on his part and I think it'd be up to her to try to get the relationship back on the right track.

I totally get what you're saying and I am taking what I heard with a grain of salt. I'm not mentioning it and I don't plan to ever. I've established that he wasn't drunk because he told me he wasn't drunk when I inquired about him having a hangover. He said other complimentary things as well during the conversation. I'm just going to leave what was said at the grill and leave well enough alone. Really, I'm not putting a lot of thought into it. If I do, it will consume my every thought and we all know where that leads...MIND EXHAUSTION!!! I'm really ok with whatever...different state of mind today because it's not as fresh you know? Thanks for everyone's opinons though...do appreciate it!!!