Open relationships

Me personally I don't think I could do it but that is for the simple fact I've been cheated on so many times And in the back of my head I'm like if you choose this person over me and say well I don't want you anymore then I have to live with the fact I allowed that. Any one ever been in an open relationship or know someone in one? What was it like and with which sign?

I've been in 2. They work as long as there is a LOT of open communication on both sides. There has to be a lot of trust and honesty. My first one was with a Gemini Sun, Gemini Moon. My second was with a Libra Sun, Sagittarius Moon. I have an "alternative" lifestyle by choice so it's known upfront with anyone I date. My current partner is a Libra Sun, Aries Moon.

You'd be surprised how many people have successful open relationships...probably more than you'd think or expect. I've found Libra men and women (depending on the rest of their chart of course) very good at it...especially when they pull their disappearing act, haha.

Posted by Aquaviper
I've been in 2. They work as long as there is a LOT of open communication on both sides. There has to be a lot of trust and honesty. My first one was with a Gemini Sun, Gemini Moon. My second was with a Libra Sun, Sagittarius Moon. I have an "alternative" lifestyle by choice so it's known upfront with anyone I date. My current partner is a Libra Sun, Aries Moon.

You'd be surprised how many people have successful open relationships...probably more than you'd think or expect. I've found Libra men and women (depending on the rest of their chart of course) very good at it...especially when they pull their disappearing act, haha.

So has jealousy ever come up? And how did you handle it? As soon as it comes up is it a deal breaker? Like do you have a set time for each partner?

I most definitely cannot do open relationships. I don't understand how that works.

I can see Aquas and Geminis enjoying these types of relationships, but Libras not so much.

Yeah.. Personally, I just see an "open relationship" as an upgraded version of friends with benefits. It's just that you both agree that we can still do us, but we can do other people too..just keep me informed.

Real committed relationships require a whoooooole lot of work, understanding, sacrifice and compromise just to mention a few. I think folks have been burned so bad that open relationships have become the "norm" because it's easier to settle and not risk your heart n the process even though most people end up doing just that. It's like a no-win situation.

BUT....to each it's own...if it works for you, then by all means do you. It's just not for me.

I actually was invited to a birthday party by a girl who was in a “open” relationship. Everyone at this party seemed to be in open relationships, and I swear to God I have never experienced so much drama in. my. life!

Everyone was upset with someone. The girl I had been invite with ended up crying on my shoulder all night because one of her partners had brought his other female partner. Another girl was upset because her male partner was supposed to call her after his date with his other female partner who stood him up and was other with the other male partner instead. She ended up counseling him all night on the phone and between phone calls being pissed off. There was another couple there that were bitching about their third (not sure if that is what it was called) who was seeing someone they didn’t approve of. I can’t even remember all the drama. I spent the whole night playing councilor and buying rounds of drinks for the birthday girl because everyone else was to wrapped up in their crap to think of it!

I said to the girl who invited me are you sure this is what you really want? You don’t seem very happy. She at the time and under the influence of truth serum (wine) I confessed it wasn’t working out and that truthfully she was in love with her male best friend who was seeing someone else. She had never told him.

I went home to my monogamous BF, completely grateful. I curled up to him and told him how completely ridiculous my night was.

The next morning, I got a very angry letter from the girl who invited me saying she talked to her male partner (the one that brought the other female partner to the party and upset her) and that according to him I had it out for him and was not respectful of their relationship and that she had a terrible birthday because of me. LOL! Noh honey. The choices you make are not my fault. And you can lie to others but never yourself.

Anyway, she was a Taurus and I am pretty sure the male partner who brought the other woman was a Virgo. The others … is there an astrological sign for crazy? Pretty sure it would be under the symbol of a lama. HA HA HA.

I really don’t care where people stick there bits. Not a problem for me. Never has been. If it works, go for it. For the group I met, it didn’t seem to be working for any of them. They all just seemed to be using the drama to escape something deeper.

Just my experience. Your mileage will vary.

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Posted by Aquaviper
I've been in 2. They work as long as there is a LOT of open communication on both sides. There has to be a lot of trust and honesty. My first one was with a Gemini Sun, Gemini Moon. My second was with a Libra Sun, Sagittarius Moon. I have an "alternative" lifestyle by choice so it's known upfront with anyone I date. My current partner is a Libra Sun, Aries Moon.

You'd be surprised how many people have successful open relationships...probably more than you'd think or expect. I've found Libra men and women (depending on the rest of their chart of course) very good at it...especially when they pull their disappearing act, haha.

So has jealousy ever come up? And how did you handle it? As soon as it comes up is it a deal breaker? Like do you have a set time for each partner?

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Despite my Scorpio Moon I am not a very jealous person by nature. Jealousy came from the men in both past relationships. Obviously it's a lot easier for a woman to find partners accepting of the lifestyle then it is for men. The jealousy triggered the trust and communication break down. We tried to work it out (this was the Gemini) but he couldn't get past the fact that I had a playmate when he didn't. The Libra male and I never had a jealousy problem...his was more so that he was older and wanted to settle down (surprisingly, haha). At the time I was 25 and still wanted to play.

Dealbreaker no, a lot of work yes. I usually will give it until the next time we decide to play outside of each other and see his reactions/how he handles it. A lot of men always tell me they'd love an open relationship, yada yada...but 99% of the time they can't emotionally handle the consequences. It does trigger a LOT of jealousy and feelings of inadequacy, etc (Especially if another man satisfies their woman more). I know several women in open relationships that have a HARD time coping with the drama. You have to have a lot of self respect, confidence and love for your significant other that goes beyond your run-of-the-mill lust.

On a side note...if you can't handle enjoying sex for what it is (IE: you get attached or can't separate your emotions) then I'd never consider it. If you are like me though, an off the charts libido, it's wonderful with the right partner 🙂