StingTailedLibra

Adult colouring in books! Scouring new properties online. Watching property hunters international. Cooking. Eating hehe!

End it in a moment of fury but "not really mean it"

I have personally experienced this with a Virgo. Boy did it chip away over and over until I lost all faith and wasnt gonna hang around for the time that he DID mean it. Plus I dont do threats. With me you better be sure the first time you call that, you mean it because the relationship will take a slow descent in my mind from that one go.

Its refreshing to be with someone who understand we will have disagreements, but nobody has to cry wolf everytime a slight upset happen. Its shows stability, strength and faith to me

Posted by MondayMorning
thanks @LibraLovesHim

I think the bit that left me feeling confused over the reaction was that it was clear I was breaking up with him our of suspicion he was messing me around, so in my head it followed there was two possible outcomes:

1. If he was into someone else or looking for someone else he'd just be relatively nice and say "bye".

2. If he wasn't into anyone else and he'd just done it out of habit or whatever that he'd realise how hurt it made me, apologise and remove the dating page.

I think what confused me is how mad he got with me, over something he did

What a weird guy.

Its only been 3 weeks... maybe you went about it the wrong way. (accusatory manner) be calm and rational.

Posted by MondayMorning

Posted by LibraLovesHim
Just another word of advice try not to accuse or suspect an Aries-this does not go down well. I myself don't mind the challenge of proving i'm righteous and you are oh so wrong but Aries will take it VERY personally. They will respond like a guilty person if i'm being honest lol!

ha ha, maybe that was what made him so mad then. I definitely accused him, pretty aggressively (Ach, Scorpio temper)

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I know its difficult Scorp but learnt to trust until you are given without a doubt reason NOT to-then confront with all you have if you do so choose to until then do yourself and relationship potential right. Men AND women will do what they want how they want until they decide they are committed. Until then its up to you to make them realise you are the one and turn their heads towards you only, out of a desire not to lose what is more important to them-the aim is to achieve that spot in a persons life, first.

Posted by Jlol
How do you libra act when you don't want to be in your relationship with someone anymore do you guys tend to make excuses about not contacting your partner?

Immature Libra yes, slow fade*

Posted by SentimentalCrabby
Why does it bother Libra men when you ignore them for the longest when they did it to you?

Like wtf

Playing tit for tat?

Just another word of advice try not to accuse or suspect an Aries-this does not go down well. I myself don't mind the challenge of proving i'm righteous and you are oh so wrong but Aries will take it VERY personally. They will respond like a guilty person if i'm being honest lol!

Posted by MondayMorning
I just broke up with an Aries man I was dating, he turned unexpectedly nasty on me and left me shocked like a slap in the face. Is this an Aries male thing?

We'd been dating about three weeks and he was laying it on thick, like really thick with talk of engagement and buying a house nearer to me and talking about kids and the future and saying how happy he was and all that. Calling me 5 times a day. Messages all day. It was really full on.

He'd been totally sweet with me and although I was a bit disturbed by his crazy romantic rush I also thought it was quite nice to experience a little of being swept off my feet. But I was at the same time with one eye open because you now - guys who do a lot of talking are sometimes the last ones you should trust.

Not going to play innocent here, I broke up with him abruptly when he wasn't expecting it because I was mad at him. We met on a dating site and I'd noticed that in the past few days he updated his photos. I found this just really offputting, because he's giving me all this talk, then why update the pictures? I personally think he'd have been really angry if I did that, but he denied it was wrong. I am a Scorp...if you do stuff like that you're going to see the stinger because it causes suspicion.

So anyway, I broke up with him abruptly. I still think I was right to do so (he thinks he did nothing wrong) but I'd never trust him after that, so what's the point. He made me totally suspicious.

What really shocked me was his reaction. He just flew right off the handle at me and said some pretty cruel things; like stuff you'd not normally say (criticized my appearance etc) to try and hurt me deliberately and then fired off that he'd deleted all my pics, phone number and kind of also insulted me by saying he thought I had issues and was no good for anyone and all that.

It was all a little over the top as a reaction! I tried pretty hard to have a reasoned conversation about it (I prefer to part on good terms) but he was really just repeatedly rude to me. He was like a totally different person, cold and really nasty.

Is this an Aries thing or did I have a lucky escape from a douche there?

Totally made me cry!

He sounds like a crazy cookiemonster. lol! Maybe an undeveloped Male thing never mind Aries. His ego is probably hurting btw Aries do have grand plans and all from the beginning mines was the same, and yes I was suspicious also. But! You never know until you try and theres no use in suspecting-time will tell. Dont deny yourself a possible good thing at the expense of your desire to know everything. Thats for future ref not just him coz he des sound a tad loon!

Eg after that first dinner, he was taking his time to do something with me (he is pretty much a homebody because of where we live etc but I wasnt accepting going "over to his netflix and chill" lol) he enjoy's music, live performances and history so I found out there was a jazz player at one of the oldest restaurants in town (its a former huge house with a massive beautiful courtyard) I asked him to this and we had a great night! Keep it on activities for you both to enjoy. Its still the courting phase I think yeh? Come up with ideas, be spontaneous. Be his friend!

Posted by pisceswoman123

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Posted by pisceswoman123
So I am in love with this Aries man. We are good friends. When we meet in the day time we are friends and shy to talk about us but in the night with a few drinks we are super good. He tells me he loves me, kiss and super sweet. He has asked me once when drunk how should we meet again in the day time as a couple but we left it very open and we never made the move. We are both shy. I feel like he is waiting for me to give him the green light.
I will like to call him and ask him if he wants to meet with me in the day time, have a coffee, talk and make the situation a bit more clear.
Do you think that is too forward? We never talk about us on the phone. I know he likes to come to me and be in control. Should I wait until we are together in the evening again and ask him?
What do you think?

Suggest it but let him take control of it...he needs to feel like a man. The way I done this way by telling my Aries that another guy wanted to take me out for dinner and would he oppose to it or would it upset him in any way. (we werent official but I didn't want to mess up) This was his queue and he immediately said how about I take you for that dinner. Its good if you can allow him to show himself as being the big man but you have to lead him to it lol!

That was a fantastic move from you 😉
We are in that difficult stage when we don't feel safe to give the first step, (maybe his Pisces Venus) I am tired of waiting and want to make a move ( my Aries Venus talking) and I know he wants at least more sex. The chemistry is amazing.
I just don't want to scare him away.
At the same time he loves when I am daring and go for it. But we have only been like that in the night and with few drinks down.
I was just planning to call him and ask him if he wants to meet and maybe talk...
Do you think he will run for the hills? Lol

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Don't say let's talk. Keep it casual, friendly, upbeat! Not scary! lol. Or just ask him what he's up to...try and coax him into asking you. If he doesn't then ask him of he wants to do something. Come up with a plan. Think what does he enjoy doing etc...work around this. If theres something you want to have talks about wait until the time is right-you will get the opportunity to and take it then.

spicy chicken ranch mmmmmm

Posted by pisceswoman123
So I am in love with this Aries man. We are good friends. When we meet in the day time we are friends and shy to talk about us but in the night with a few drinks we are super good. He tells me he loves me, kiss and super sweet. He has asked me once when drunk how should we meet again in the day time as a couple but we left it very open and we never made the move. We are both shy. I feel like he is waiting for me to give him the green light.
I will like to call him and ask him if he wants to meet with me in the day time, have a coffee, talk and make the situation a bit more clear.
Do you think that is too forward? We never talk about us on the phone. I know he likes to come to me and be in control. Should I wait until we are together in the evening again and ask him?
What do you think?

Suggest it but let him take control of it...he needs to feel like a man. The way I done this way by telling my Aries that another guy wanted to take me out for dinner and would he oppose to it or would it upset him in any way. (we werent official but I didn't want to mess up) This was his queue and he immediately said how about I take you for that dinner. Its good if you can allow him to show himself as being the big man but you have to lead him to it lol!

Posted by AntiSocial
So I am still w my pisces girl...& I'm just thinking about dipping out without a word...what repercussions, if any , could happen..

As always, any advice is deeply appreciated, thank you.

Do not do it. V bad karma and guilt. I truly believe its one of the worst things you could do to someone who cares about/loves you.

Love, fresh air (the outdoors), light exercise, something that interests me to study, cell feeding food. A perfect combo of all.

Not much, but ive read this is true with my placements, short term memory lol!

Kind
Thoughtful
Affectionate
Not too highly opinionated
Considerate and accepts others as they are
Keeps me in check
Strong, manly but can expressive their emotions healthily
Wants the best for me and us and helps us grow progressively
Forgiving (doesn't hold grudges) and knows how/when to apologise
Funny, intelligent and able to hold a good conversation about life, the universe, humanity and other worldly stuff at 3am
Feeds me
Sexes me
Rubs me



That's him

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Posted by The_Ands
Separate bedrooms is all you need

Separate bedrooms is a must sometimes .. when I'm married , I need a getaway bedroom in the house lol

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My Aries, Pisces moon man the same! It's weird though because I want to give him space but he makes me feel guilty and says no if I say i'll go to my place for the night...or if he's going to bed i'll hang back, but then he wont go he'll sit up with me lol difficult to manage it! How often do you feel the need for just hanging out on your own?

I totally get it because I have my own space everyday when he's at work, but he is constantly surrounded by people. It's always in the back of my mind.

Yes

Myself