Ok first time here. Sorry in advance if this is a little long. So I met this girl on FB. I just sent her a simple message..."I know we don't know each other but I would like to take you out. I normally don't do this but you only live once." She replied back a couple hours later and said ok, she would send me a message later. Instantly we connected I felt so anyways. I was out of town at the moment so it started as general conversation. She told me she was having car trouble and that she had been crying and she didn't even know why she felt comfortable telling me. When I got back in town I offered to take her to and from work...probably my first mistake. I pick her up from work and we go grab a drink and everything continues to be cool. We text all day everyday and she is the one who initiates first contact majority of the time. She text me during the day and says "wyd...ttm." She's been calling me babe, baby, boo etc. She also has said a couple times that she's pretty sure I will be around for a while. I tried not to text to much because I didn't want to bother her but every time I wouldn't text her for a while she would end up texting me. So two days later after our first initial meet I plan to pick her up from work. I go early because she is a waitress. She gives me food and two drinks and me and my cousin wait for her to get off. I asked for a kiss and she said she wasn't ready for that. Ok no big deal. On the way home I ask for another one...liquor talking. She gives me one. I drop her off home and we have a little disagreement. She then texts me a whole paragraph saying I'm aggressive and she can see that I can be possessive. I get the aggressive part because of the liquor but not the possessive part. She then texts me and says drop my cousin off and come back. I go back and get in the bed with her and fall asleep. I actually stayed the night before but we slept on the couch. The rides continue with either her request or me offering. I'm a nice person and I did'n't mind helping her out. She then changes and says I'm trying to keep tabs on her and I'm too bossy. I feel like she was the one being bossy. Telling me how to drive and which ways to go even though we were in my hometown and I knew how to get around better than her. I never once asked her where she was and what she was doing. Only was she ok getting to and from work. She got upset with me one day because she said I could pick her up from work...not asked me could I. I responded and said I was playing cards which I was. I was trying not to spend too much time around her for fear we would clash too soon. Exactly what happened anyway. It's like she would ask me to do things and come around and then flip it on me when she got mad and say I was trying to keep tabs on her. So we had another small disagreement after than and she told me not to bother her. Which I didn't. She posted on FB that she really needed a car. So me just trying to be nice sent her a message and told her that
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idk where the last part of the message went but...I told her that I would help her and that I didn't mind. She says she doesn't need my help. Ok so I leave it alone. Two days later she ask me for a ride. I tell her that I'm busy but I could pick her up later from work. She later responds that she doesn't need a ride until the following day. I give her the ride and everything seems to be getting back on track. She even says something to the degree of if your going to be around you have to learn me. This is where I get even more confused because she just said she doesn't need me around everyday which I agree with. The next day rolls around and she doesn't text or call and I don't reach out to her either. Trying to give her space. She ends up texting me and asking me what I'm doing. I ask her if she has plans, she says yes and I say ok have fun. Less than an hour later she text me again about Christmas tress and says she needs to go to the laundromat. I ask her if she needs a ride...another mistake. I drop her off and leave because she gets an attitude because I move in a parking spot to let another car get by. I'm still trying to avoid conflict with this chick. I text her and tell her to let me know when she is done. I instantly get a reply of thank u. At this point I assume she saw the text about letting me know when she was done. I never hear from her so I decide to give her a call. She instantly snaps out saying she doesn't need me keeping tabs on her and she doesn't need me around her all day every day. I'm pushed to my limit at this point so I snap back and call her a psycho and tell her she doesn't know how to read or comprehend. This is around 10:30 at night. The next morning at 5:30 she sends me all these texts about she doesn't care about me and I'm a liar etc. My response is "if you don't care so much why are you taking the time out to text me all this at 5:30 in the morning." We haven't spoke since. She blocked me on FB and unblocked me two days later. This all happened 6 days ago. I know I should probably leave it alone. I just thought the initial part of us was great and we seemed to be clicking so well. I also read that Libras are mean and overwhelmed when their scales aren't balanced. Wondering if it all happened to quickly and if was just the wrong timing. She is going through a few things at the moment. Any insight would be helpful.
Sounds like she is emotionally unavailable. She likes your for a little while then changes her mind. She probably feels bad thinking she lead you on accident, and the whole situation just blew up. She probably likes you but has someone else on her mind that she cant get rid of and is frustrated about. so she is aware how unfair she is being and giving you a hard time because part of her does feel like you are aggressive but only because she knows she hasn't been totally open about what is going on in her head and why would she? Who wants to hear oh sorry I know I have been super sweet with you on accident but I am really thinking of someone else most of the time. Or that is what I think at least who knows. Its a shitty situation I'm sorry.
Sound like a reasonable explanation. She actually said I wasn't the only one trying to be the only one. LOL I didn't want to be at the moment. I just enjoyed our conversation and the selfish part of me isn't ready to let that go. She also said we could build to the point of being in a relationship which was cool to me. I just didn't like the fact that she would make me seem like I was trying to keep tabs on her. Seem a little self-centered! I guess I'll just leave it alone for now and maybe we will reconnect in the future.
Yeah she is hiding something and feeling guilty about it Iboogie what is your sign
Yeah I agree. Too many mixed signals. I'm a Taurus lol...I know we don't generally tend to mesh well.
Well irregardless of the sign...anybody that has to go through all that is immature and definitely worth my time. Thanks for the feedback!!
Not worth!!
Yeah I agree...I think the initial connection was strong on both our ends and we both realized we were moving too fast. At the same time she needed me so that's where the conflict began. Do you think because she needs to get her life together that in time not like next week or even next month she will reach out. Just trying to get an understanding from a Libra standpoint.
LOL well she would be playing herself again. She already did it once by ranting and raving about not needing me and then actually needing me two days later. I dindn't lose anything. I still have a car while she's paying for ubers! Thanks tho!!

Amen at ur last statement sometimes we have to know our worth. You can take a uber or have one of your other prospects help you. She playing games and some libras love to start arguments for mo reason its an air sign thing. You deserve better. How she is in the beginning is how it may be throughout the relationship @lboogie123

Posted by lboogie123Yep, you should have bolted the minute she started crying when you guys first started talking. You hadn't even got to know her before she went into a crying fit....not a good sign at all. That was a sign that she was an emotional mess! and that she's using you....count your losses and move on or she will end up dragging you into that crazy little web with her.
idk where the last part of the message went but...I told her that I would help her and that I didn't mind. She says she doesn't need my help. Ok so I leave it alone. Two days later she ask me for a ride. I tell her that I'm busy but I could pick her up later from work. She later responds that she doesn't need a ride until the following day. I give her the ride and everything seems to be getting back on track. She even says something to the degree of if your going to be around you have to learn me. This is where I get even more confused because she just said she doesn't need me around everyday which I agree with. The next day rolls around and she doesn't text or call and I don't reach out to her either. Trying to give her space. She ends up texting me and asking me what I'm doing. I ask her if she has plans, she says yes and I say ok have fun. Less than an hour later she text me again about Christmas tress and says she needs to go to the laundromat. I ask her if she needs a ride...another mistake. I drop her off and leave because she gets an attitude because I move in a parking spot to let another car get by. I'm still trying to avoid conflict with this chick. I text her and tell her to let me know when she is done. I instantly get a reply of thank u. At this point I assume she saw the text about letting me know when she was done. I never hear from her so I decide to give her a call. She instantly snaps out saying she doesn't need me keeping tabs on her and she doesn't need me around her all day every day. I'm pushed to my limit at this point so I snap back and call her a psycho and tell her she doesn't know how to read or comprehend. This is around 10:30 at night. The next morning at 5:30 she sends me all these texts about she doesn't care about me and I'm a liar etc. My response is "if you don't care so much why are you taking the time out to text me all this at 5:30 in the morning." We haven't spoke since. She blocked me on FB and unblocked me two days later. This all happened 6 days ago. I know I should probably leave it alone. I just thought the initial part of us was great and we seemed to be clicking so well. I also read that Libras are mean and overwhelmed when their scales aren't balanced. Wondering if it all happened to quickly and if was just the wrong timing. She is going through a few things at the moment. Any insight would be helpful.
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