Questions for Libra men

Calling all Libra men for advice --

Have been hanging out with a Libra guy for two months. Have become a huge fan of Libras since but was wondering - he never wants to pick a day/time to hang out. He always asks when I'm free and then says he's available anytime/day. When I ask him which day/time is good for him, he always responds "whenever is good for you". As an Aries I definately don't mind making the decisions, but I want to do what's convenient for him too. Not a big deal at all, just trying to understand his mindset.

Also - we have not had the "what are we conversation" yet. He's said in the past he's a little intimidated by me because he thinks I'm really hot - kinda took from that that theirs a little truth to it but mainly flattery. I don't have an undying need to bring it up because whatever you want to label it I'm having fun with it now, more concerned that someone will ask us when we go out and it will be awkward. Leaving it alone from now, I avoid emotional issues anyway, but at what point should I bring it up? Or just wait for him? I'm pretty sure he's not sleeping with anyone else which would be my only concern anyway, also I'm his boss so it's something we have to keep secret anyway.

"Or just wait for him? I'm pretty sure he's not sleeping with anyone else which would be my only concern anyway, also I'm his boss so it's something we have to keep secret anyway."

This is going to be a problem. Libras don't like keeping secrets. It is an unnecessary source of focus and stress that could be put to better use. We will do it, and we will do it sucessfuly but at the same time we know we would rather it not be that way.

As for the rest of your questions they are kind of vague. There is no real clarifying answer for them without knowing more about both of your personalities instead of basic points of the situation.

But, ill give you a basic run down and others will chime in. First, we don't really like confrontation. He is not really asking you to take charge or control by picking the day/time, he is just showing that he is flexible in the situation weather the flexibility exists naturally or he will work other stuff around you guys. We can be very passionate and convicted about work and our ideas and intentions but relationships to us need to be as smooth and effortless as possible. I know effortless and relationship aren't two words people would naturally associate with each other, and it is not to say we won't put forth great effort, but we like to arrange and compartmentalize everything so that things flow as smoothly and harmoniously as possible. with this kind of easy going freedom in a relationship it allows us to put more surge in everything else, and it motivates us to do so. It gives us the personal foundation to get more solid footing in other ares.

He is not going to jump to attatch a label to the relationship (dating, exclusive, friends with bennifits, etc...) because he really isn't interrested in that. It is at the same time (confusingly so to most people) both simpler, and more complicated than that. Simpler in the sense that the label doesn't really define anything to him, in his mind but to those looking in which isn't a big priority to us. And complex because those lines and definitions blur a lot of the time in relationships.

Keep in the back of your mind that you are dating a philanderer and a romantic who is willing, at some point in his life to find Mrs. Right, but will take Mrs. Right Now opportunistically along the way. He is not going to have the same drive for clarity and definition that you do, he is going to go with the flow and his intention.....

is to find an invisible and unique clarity in your relationship as it is together than to define it conventionally. In the end, both methods will reflect the same way with a Libra who falls in love with someone, but the way of going about it is very different. We fall in lust quickly, passionately and fiercely but we fall in love slowly and methodically. Deducing and reducing every topic into it's smallest and most basic factor and we build our philosophy of us and our partner within that. This part specifically is not very different from you, both being cardinal signs being creative, flexible and intuitive are common traits and needs so that shouldn't be problematic, what might, being an aries is your pushiness in trying to find clarification in the situations you encounter together. He is not quick to decide, it is not a matter of indecision, it is a matter of necessity. When it comes to goals, dreams, visions, and self projection there is never enough time with us, we never feel we are doing enough, fast enough but when it comes to love, we have all the time in the world because in the soft and sensitive confines of making love (in all facets) it is all about detail and perfection.

This will come later, from my experience with Aries' close to me. Careful with the impulsiveness. The sharp wit is amazing, and one of a Libras main factors in being attracted to Aries, but one of the turn off's is the personally crowned infalability and harsh, unnecissary outspokenness. Your both used to being in a position of dominance in a relationship, and you will both need one to be happy. It is best to understand each others strengths with this pairing IMO, don't try and take the lead everywhere, and don't ever try to steam roll a libra....this velvet glove holds an iron hand. It is soft, pretty and appealing but it carries a lot of weight.....weight that may not be used to strike, but to push aside....keep that in mind. We are masters of removing conflict and imbalance so execute more patience than you think you have, and in return your Libra will execute more impulsiveness and decisiveness than he led you to believe he had.

Thats enough for now, others will chime in. Take it for what it is worth, because there weren't many details to go off of.

Wow, thanks Nic for the insight, you are poetically profound. Oddly enough he brings out some very un-Aries qualities in me, I'm never pushy around him, his inability to make decisions totally intrigues me instead of annoys me (think about all the options I have missed throughout the years as the first choice has always seemed so exciting and I'm too impatient to hear the rest!) As a triple Aries (Sun, Moon, Mercury) I am definately a leader professionally but personally don't need to dominate anyone unless they are trying to dominate me (then watch out). In fact the secret to Aries relationship wise are that we are really looking for someone we respect who mutually respects us who we can let our guard down with and don't have to be Athena with - the only exception being in the bedroom - can share roles but ultimately need to fullfill my huntress/conquerer needs regularly. Either way, had a great weekend w/ him, felt like he was trying to bring up the relationship thing w/ me a few times but just couldn't get the words out, and unless he gets closer verbally not something I would engage in as what we have is cool and had a prev 4 yr relationship w/ a scorpio so done w/ the ultra-intentsity thing. Besides fire-air sex is incredible, if nothing emotionally develops have no short-term complaints.

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