Damaged/Undamaged Libra Men

Damaged: Carismatic, flirtatious, friendly, charming, indecisive, may want to, but can't be seriously emotionally involved. Confused when in a situation where they really like the other, but can't commit at the time. Feels jealous or slighted when the person moves on because of lack of their capability to get serious or commit.

Undamaged: Carismatic, friendly, loving, forward with their anticipation, focused on what they want and go after it. Freely expresses their interest in the other party in depth and detail. Flattering, complimenting, making one feel like the most special person in their lives...

Ahhh, I perfer the later. What about you guys?

I prefer the latter. Sorry, eyelids are heavy.

definitely the latter, however, the damaged ones can also make you feel like the most special person in their lives....that's where the confusion lies.

"I prefer the latter. Sorry, eyelids are heavy" hehehehe well maybe the first one will become the second one "later" LOL

LOL!!! Night Chatz, just got home from NY this evening. Tired, gotta work tomorrow, long day... Talk to you soon.

Good you're going!!! I need to get on with my work...its only 1.30pm here Wednesday....you have today to look forward to yet hehehe.....ok catch you soon - enjoy your sleep 🙂

"I prefer the latter."

Oh, wow! We have all kinds of things in common... We really must be sisters from different mothers!

🙂

Yeah, I should probably be going, too. Gotta go pack...

Pack, why for you sexy little scorpio? 🙂

Are you off to an adventure in a far off land?

I am 100% that I have the 2nd type of Libra.

No, I take that back. I'm about 85% sure that I have the 2nd type of Libra.

oh nuuu, i think im a damaged one :o, according to that.

"Pack, why for you sexy little scorpio?"

🙂

"I am 100% that I have the 2nd type of Libra."
"No, I take that back. I'm about 85% sure that I have the 2nd type of Libra."

Ummm, HP? Why are we less sure?!?

"oh nuuu, i think im a damaged one"

LOL!!!!

HP, you have the second and I might have his twin brother. Oops did that slip out?

Alcheme, have a safe trip. I know you will have an awesome time. Do you think you will return—

indecisive, but can't commit at the time

those characteristics fit the Libra right now. he wants to commit but says he can't right now because he needs to know he can trust me. Before I could ask him what exactly he meant by that, he clarified that it was not that he didn't TRUST me, but that he needs to know inside that he is ready. He told me that every fiber in his being is telling him that he and I are meant to be together and that is what is scaring him (because we click so well and so quickly).

I have Libra #1 - Damaged! What's a girl to do after 7 years?

You've been dating one for 7 years—

"I have Libra #1 - Damaged! What's a girl to do after 7 years?"

Make sure she doesn't break anymore mirrors? Nah...just kidding.

***those characteristics fit the Libra right now. he wants to commit but says he can't right now because he needs to know he can trust me. Before I could ask him what exactly he meant by that, he clarified that it was not that he didn't TRUST me, but that he needs to know inside that he is ready. He told me that every fiber in his being is telling him that he and I are meant to be together and that is what is scaring him (because we click so well and so quickly).***

HP, all the signs are there that he wants to, maybe he has some lingering pain from the ex. They do heal slowly. I feel like he will eventually (actually soon) give in 100% . You can't rush him, but support him. Let him know you understand, although it may be frustrating right now. That will bring you closer to him and but you in that "Trust" zone sooner. They need support and to know that person is there. Although you have probably done flips and back bends to try and show him, they need to know constantly.

So, be there and let him feel you really being there, sometimes when they have been through a lot they need this. There are very few who might bounce back pretty quickly and give their all. When you find one like that it could be almost unbelievable 😉

But you are good. In my opinion.

Aqua, patients or walking away would be the formula for number 1. Your call. 7 years. I would die, way too impatient for that.

HP, things that happen really fast and too perfect for us is usually a red flag that tells us to step back and balance the scales to make sure we can trust what we're doing, because we usually make things a bit more complicated than they are. Its internal and not personal toward the other person. It also doesn't mean that what is happening isn't real, it's just our nature. If a Libra man feels like he is meant to be with a person. He decides pretty quick that it's worth the shot. Because after all, happiness and well balanced mutual relationships are our thing. If you can match our intellectual needs, the rest is cake with strawberry icing. So take a seat at the table with your plate and cut you a big slice, your Libra will taste just dandy.

Mmmmm... 😉

yummy.

we had our first argument because my bull's jealous side reared its ugly head. although he shouldn't have done what he did.

we went to a sporting event and i invited my friend to go with me. my guy had been drinking well before we got there. instead of sitting next to me, he sat next to my friend for a long period of time. then he decides to sit next to me. so he's to my left, i'm in the middle, and my friend is to my right. he leans over me and starts asking my friend all sorts of personal questions "have you ever been married?", "any kids?", "where did you grow up?", and then this one took the cake - he leans way over me and looks into her eyes and asks "What color are your eyes?"....he did more flirting that night. i stopped talking to him and just started paying attention to the game. he texts me and says "sexy"...I reply back wiht "yup, i figured you'd like her"...then he walked up to me and said "I was talking about you"....at that point, I wasn't hearing it.

It's one thing for me to flirt when you aren't around, but to do it around you and with your friend, that's what pissed me off.

He claimed later that night that he didn't realize that's what he was doing. He said he was nervous about meeting my friend...blah blah blah.

Can't lie HP, that was a little weird, but I do believe he didn't mean for it to appear as it did. Sometimes, I know this is hard to believe but Libra guys seem to be oblivious about things they do to you. I used to think "he has to know that wasn't cool", only later to find out they really didn't see any harm.

They are flirtatious by nature, even when they don't mean to be. Uhhh, what was your friends reaction to all this.

If it was me and you were my friend. I would have turned all his compliments to reflect on you some way and then maybe it would have dawned on him what he was doing. I definitely wouldn't have been cheesing and batting my eyes. Polite, but said something like " my eyes are ____ but HP's are a much more vivrant color, look at them don't you agree and your eye colors just seem to be a matching pair" y'know, like make a joke out of it all.

I have had my friends bf's slightly flirt with me or give me little looks, I totally ignored them or sort of brought it out and made it about my friend. I can't say I have always told my friend these things, just tried putting balance in the situations. Some females can be scandalist. Not saying your friend is just in my experience.

HP, it does seem this guy cares deeply for you. So if he knows he hurt you in some way he will probably make sure it doesn't happen again. No libra I know intentionally hurt anyone they care about in my experience, sometimes it seems that way though.

My friend caught onto it. She said "Chicks before Dicks"...I'm not going to let him keep making us feel uncomfortable.

He apologized a few times.

HP, then it sounds like you have a good friend. Just make sure he is clear about how uncomfortable he made you both. He shouldn't do it again. He might feel a little embarrassed too.

he's really concerned over making sure my friend doesn't think badly of him. he went a bit overboard on that. if anything, he should be concerned over me thinking badly of him.

yeah, my bull tendencies are starting to show.

i just gave him the "let's put some space between us" spill.

HP, that might be a good idea. He will know that it didn't set right with you, but don't let it be too long. "Don't sweat the small stuff" per se. Pick your fights with him, the bigger ones that might show up in the future. Y'know. Just tell him you really don't expect that to happen again and it upset you. Then never bring it up again. It will be over. Moving to the next stage. He will hear you if you put it this way.

Hi, omg - glad you all are back in form.

Hey girls, so you all said to forgetabout the Libra friend in my life.,boohoo. Still trying, think about him everyday. So my friend said she had a friend she'd like me to meet. He called, we set up a dinner meeting/date.

He looks, ok, we start talking, he tells me he doesnt talk much so I will have to carry the conversation, no problem for me. Then he tells me he doesnt like to fight, confrontation, etc. Then he tells me about his ex wife, kids, etc. Then he tells me he is a bit of a loner. Then I tell him, "you are a Libra right". LOL
That's right girls, another LIBRA. Why are attacting LIBRAS. Are they just available all the time? What gives? He is the third one I have met in the last three dates—??!!!!

attracting, sorry

"Are they just available all the time? What gives? He is the third one I have met in the last three dates—??!!!!"

I guess there were a lot of people who procreated around Christmas and New Years!