Sag met a Libra and not sure what to think - Help.

Ok, I met a Libra man the other night and we hit it off so great. He was sweet and charming and his eyes just put me in a whirlspin. I gave him a ride home because he drank too much. He invited me in and normally I would say no but for some reason I felt I could trust him so I did. We talked and then he put music on and he grabbed me and we danced and he sang to me as we danced, then we talked some more and danced some more and then he kissed me and then talked, danced, kissed and before long it was like two or three in the morning. Time just flew by and I was enjoying myself so much that I didn't want it to end so I stayed the night well, what was left of it since we had work in the morning and he was such a gentleman and just held me while I slept. He texted me the next evening and asked if I was still alive. I responded and then no text back. I send another one the next night and asked if we could talk and he said he couldn't because he had company. That made me think. Does he have someone he is dating? He presented himself like he was single but we never actually talked about it for some reason and we talked about so many other things that were so deep. So I asked him the next day if he is dating someone. He told me that he is just hanging out with someone but it's nothing offical and things are working out and most likely they will not soon all together. I asked how long and he said not too long but wouldn't tell me anymore. I tried to ask him more about the situation but he isn't talking about it but he will write about other things. I told him that if he wants we can talk and hang out but only as friends. So, do I just chalk this one up to a cool experience and leave it alone or do I associate myself with him. I just loved being around him and talking with him. We have so much in common too. Well, maybe I'll just let it be a friendship but I will let him initiate it and leave it alone for now.

He found you more friendly. You talk to him about your other on going relationships and he will also open up.

Huh? What does that mean?

Every libra will have at least few options open. If it looks like he is closing on you, its because he found you more friendly and less potential as a lover. But then anyway ignore it. Its actually a good combo. Remain friends. and find out the zodiac of the girl he is seeing. they might break up real soon.

Sag + Libra is verry special , keep doing your thing with him he'll fall for you
just don't push it , enjoy your time togheter

I meant to say that he said things are not working out is what he said.

Anyways, I tried to ask him more about his situation and got no response at all. Nothing. Well, maybe he is more involved then he had told me. It was a great night that I will probably think about for a while. He was very romantic and we definately had an intense chemistry. He was charming yet stern and I really liked that. I guess I will just let this go as an experience in life that was very enjoyable.

Do you think I should contact him or just see if he contacts me? Are Libra men slow in that department? Do they take alot of time to figure things out? Why would he kiss me if he was in a serious relationship or is it just a casual dating thing he is doing? Do Libra's casual date alot? I'm not one to casually date so I really don't know the rules on that one.

Hello?? Hello??

my suggestion....

He was full of courage juice ie alcohol thus his inhibitions/gaurd was down so you probably saw a very rare side of his personality, he's more than likely not close to that persona when sober....from my experience Libra males will stray or cross boundaries in relationships if not happy so it doesn't suprise me that he kissed you. Before you get fully involved make sure you understand what his relationship status is. Sounds like he's dating someone or isn't fully available to one woman so for now put him in the friend category.

you really really don't want to get attached to him while he's deeply involved with a woman or other women...emotional attachment equates to emotional disaster and his indecisive nature will drive you nuts so take what you had with him at that moment as something wonderful.

let him come to you, contact you, pursue you...also red flag is him avoiding your questions or not being fully clear, make sure you understand whats going on.

Thanks! He may have been having alcohol courage but not sure. He finally told me that he is really busy this week and has alot of things going on and maybe we could hang out next week. Not sure what that means but ok. The thing for me is that it was kind of strange how things happened. The chemistry was so there right from the start. We just clicked and he made my insides flutter when he would look at me. This was way before he ever kissed me. I'm around alot of men all the time (I work with all men and I have alot of male friends) and I don't get butterflies like this easily. The passion was there right from the beginning too. I would never put myself into the middle of anyone's relationship so I told him we can only be friends for that reason. Not sure if he is trying to figure out his relationship with this women or what. From what he tells me it's just hanging out and will end soon but what that actually means I don't know. I also told him that we can just chalk it up as one cool night and he said no but he is busy taking care of things right now and he will get back to me later. I have alot friends and plans with them this weekend so that works for me anyways.

You can't really go by what he tells you but then yet you have no other choice but to go by what he says (if that makes sense) I'm sure if you had the opportunity to speak with the other woman/women those views of the relationship would be so much different than his. I know how great that feeling is when someone can make you feel wonderful but at the same time make sure its reciprocated, if he's putting you off a week in advance then he may not be ready for you and I have a feeling he will be dragging his feet which will be more than a week, the lemme get back with you later excuse is not a great sign and its the nice way of saying I want my space, I'm sure he can sense your anticipation and probably isn't sure what to do with it b/c he has so much on his plate already. Sit back, relax and let him come to you.

Well the only thing I can go by is what he says. Well, I haven't contacted him yet he texted me tonight. Wanted to know what I was doing and if I was out. I told him I was a home watching a movie. He said he was home too. I asked him what he is up to tonight and he replied that he is going to meet a friend in another city so I told him that's great and have a good time. He's like, thanks, you too. Then I asked him if he decided on if he has time and when he wants to hang out. He says he's not sure yet. I told him that he was so indecisive and then he said yep. He waited a little while then sent me a text saying that he has to just figure out with what he has happening. Not sure what that means. I asked him but no reply. Why did he bother to start texting me and then stop. I even asked him to call me instead of text and he doesn't seem to want to do that. I really hate texting. I like to either hear someone's voice or see their face because so many things can be taking wrong in writing because of there is no tone of voice to here if someone is serious, playing around, sarcastic, being funny and so on and so on. I have gotten blown off my men before but they don't try to contact me so soon and then blow me off again for no reason that I know of. Now what? Why did he bother to start up a conversation?

Checking to make sure that you were still available...see the deal is he likes you and he likes whoever this friend is, and he cannot choose. So he is hoping one of you will lose interest, get in a relationship, etc so the decision is made for him... thus the ignoring. He is probably doing the same thing to the other person

I just posted a new topic about the UNSTABLE libra I encountered. His behavior has been tipping my scales horribly so I had to let him know..yo dude uh YOU ARE NOT the business! Instead of you thinking it was you that had to make the decision, YOU should have been remembering that I have the ability to make a decision too! So I reminded him of that when I said look I dunno why you are trippin.....but um one night does not mean the beginning of a relationship so let me remind you of that......there is NO decision for you to make...I made it already sweety!

ya might want to try that approach...but be firm dont do it as a question or say I think, or maybe it would be better......I'd say yo lets just cut this here before this craziness ruins a friendship......lets call a spade a spade and we can just be friends cuz I do like you as a person and I dont want that to change....

Seriously, men forget that women have options too so why should you have to wait while he vacillates back and forth....go get your own options!

Just as I got done writing the last one he texted me again and wrote about trying to figure out about the girl he is hanging out with. I asked him what does that got to do with us talking or hanging out. He responds with I just don't want to lead you on. I told him that I liked being around him and it can be platonic. Then he says no don't misunderstand me because I do like you around and I'm not f**king around and says he has to have this resolved before there would be other than just friends and he said he knew I was cool with just being friends only but he felt it would be ackward for me to hang out with him and her. I told him that I have a lot of male friends that have girlfriends and I hang out with them with and without their girlfriends around because my friends know that I will not cross that line. I asked him if we could talk and not just text and he said he will call me before the weekend is over and we can talk so I told him to have a good night and left it at that.

The only reason I crossed the line this time was because he said he was single and that could of been true to a point yet he seems to be having a problem with all of this which makes me think she is just not a casual dating partner and more of a girlfriend. I won't know for sure until I actually talk with him on the phone or in person to see what the real deal is with him and her. If it's serious than I don't want to mess up anything. If it's only casual then I want a chance.

I didn't tell him this - but, he's right. It would be ackward and if I got to know this girl than I could never ever date him whether they broke up or not because I don't date my friends boyfriends.

I have lots of options with men because I get hit on all the time yet they aren't the guys for me. I'm to the point in my life where I want to settle down so I'm not just looking for a fun time, I'm looking for a new life that I can enjoy it with someone. The last guy I dated was great. We really had no problems except for him wanting kids and me not being able to have them and we broke up and it was hard to break up with someone that is good to you yet you have different visions in life. I think it's easier when they piss you off somehow. I hung onto not letting the feelings go for a while and he did the same with me so it made things harder. The good thing though is that we are friends now and we do talk.

He was playing the jealousy card.....seeing how you would react! If he was REALLY into her he wouldn't be texting you point blank. Honestly for all u know she could not even know he's alive or when they hang out it could be a group thing...trust me on this if she was all that he wouldnt be talking to you.

And actually I will be real with you....he IS getting a sick enjoyment out of this. It is an ego booster....my opinion walk away, and he will come...

Thanks, I guess I will just wait and see if he actually calls or not. I won't stress over it too much this weekend because I have plans for the rest of the weekend for the most part. It is Mother's Day Weekend. I'll check back later. Time for bed. Night.

I'm not trying to be harsh and will try to be soft but honey you don't need another guy friend with a girlfriend, you have plenty of those already plus why would you want a guy on the rebound, let him be a man and deal with his issue on his own, you will not regret it, after that text well thats enough talking...Why keep discussing it??

Tell him that your really happy that he's chosen to be honest and to get back to you when he's resolved his issue and you 2 can pick back up again.

He's made it clear that he likes you but yet he has some baggage, that should be your que to exit and leave him with that yet leave the door open for him to enter if things don't work out.

If you sit there and listen to him moan about this flaky relationship that exist between him and someone else you become attached to him, attached to his issue which may become your issue and that makes you smell desperate because in all reality a woman with self confidence wouldn't even blink, his ass would be put on the back burner...back off and let him figure it out and give him space to come to you after he's resolved his issue with his now girlfriend.

you have to pay attention to what your attracting and you really have to ask yourself is this guy relationship material, if he kicks her to the curb for another woman he will do you the exact same way.

His issue is going to drag on for a little while, you might as well relax and go play with other suitors.

If you sit there and listen to him moan about this flaky relationship that exist between him and someone else you become attached to him, attached to his issue which may become your issue and that makes you smell desperate because in all reality a woman with self confidence wouldn't even blink, his ass would be put on the back burner..

You mean imaginary relationship...Im tellin you its a test....and I'd help his arse out with the decision! It sounds like he is insecure..however you aint mr. fixit so it aint up to you to fix that! I just had a dude today tell me flat out he was married on the search for a GF! Now most women would have jumped at that opportunity because of who he is....he's very very well known. However I was like well because you were honest we could be friends but may I remind you about what just went down in Texas—? Think about it pimpin!

ROTFL@libragyrl...You go gurl!!

Well, he never texted or called this weekend. I did however broke down and tried to call him but no answer of course. His phone says leave your name and number and I will get back to you. So I left a message saying this is _______ and you have my number but apparently you aren't using it so maybe I will hear back from you and if not maybe I will see ya around sometime, talk to you later. (I used a sweet tone when I said it) Well, that's it I guess. If he comes around then we will see. If not well, I'm not going to contact him no more. I don't know what else to do.

Well, finally I realize now what had happened I guess. It is way more serious with the women he is with then what he led on. At first he told me it was a girl he hung out with basically and now come to find out he referred to her as his girlfriend. Well, I cut that one out! Bye, Bye! I just feel bad for her because he crossed the line with me and they are more serious than he kept leading on. Well, that was my experience with a Libra male. I probably should stay away from them if they are untrusting like that or maybe I just got a bad one. Who knows!