Sagittarius Woman/ Libra Man

I would love to have some insight especially from Pink Libra and Libra Males!

Here's my situation:

Me: Sagittarius Sun, Pisces Rising, Moon in Aries, Venus in Capricorn, Mars in Sagittarius
Him: Libra Sun, Scorpio Rising, Moon in Aries, Venus in Virgo, Mars in Libra

We met at the end of May he pursued me throughout June started dating in July fast forward and we're still seeing each other. He is attractive, charming, intelligent, kind, family oriented, sensitive, and of course indecisive LOL! We get along very well. We can just be in each other's presence and be happy. We have a great time together. I can finish his sentences and I am very intune with his energy and moods. When he's around me he doesn't want to leave. I do spoil him with home cooked meals, massages (I'm a pro), lots of laughter and affection. The sex is wonderful

In the beginning he wanted to move very quickly, but I slowed him down (didn't tell him but through my actions). I didn't want to rush things. He's been honest about his past history with women(he's 39).
He was quite the playboy in his past. He has had 2 serious committed relationships.

The problem with him that I'm having is he's very insecure. He tells me constantly that I'm the only woman that he can't read. He says I'm mysterious. He also has said that when he meets a woman he either has chemistry with them as a friend or a lover, but he has both with me and it confuses him as this has never happened before.

Like I know he likes me alot, but sometimes he blows cold. He's inconsistent with his behavior towards me. Almost as if he's toying with me. I feel like he's trying to get a reaction of some sorts out of me. I will admit I am very laid back and peaceful for the most part. In his past women "have gone crazy" over him as he says. I've never been that type of women. When will the game playing stop (does it ever stop?) There's more too, but I'll post this for now.

Any insights and opinions about what is going on here.

The Sunday before last he came over around 9PM I had cooked earlier. He ate we watched a movie and had a good time as usual. At around 2AM I told him I needed to get in the shower and go to bed as I had to get up at 7:30 for work. He seemed a little disappointed. We didn't make love (I was exhausted as I'd worked on Saturday). I also didn't invite him to stay because I really needed to get a good's night rest.

We spoke on Tuesday and then on Wednesday a text to him went unanswered. I left it alone. On Thursday I called him no response. Then on Friday morning he sends me a text stating "he can't shake this feeling". I responded "what feeling?". He said "depressed feeling". I texted back with no response from him. I didn't hear back from him all weekend. So on Monday I called no answer. Then I started to really worry. Sent an additional text on Wednesday with no response.

So then I sent him this text "this is beyond depression you are being rude and disrespectful by not responding. I don't appreciate it and it's fucking unacceptable and I wouldn't do it you." He called me 5 minutes later. Saying he's sorry, but he's going through some stuff (I know about generally) and he has to work his way through it. I told him fine no problem that's ALL I needed to hear and if he needed me I am here for him. I said some funny things and he laughed. Since our phone conversation he's been texting me here and there and it seems like his mood is picking up. Is this typical Libra behavior? Do you think what happened on Monday (me sending him home) is a part of why he's acting this way? Thanks for listening/reading and responding in advance! LOL!

Sometimes venus in caps can be so practical and responsible that we miss when someone is having a moment. I think u missed that,

Posted by size zero superhero
Your respective charts/placements are magnificently in-tune.

Although he claims your mysteriousness immediately drew his attention in the positive sense, it ironically appears HE's become quite elusive & mysterious.

Evidently he has troubles to be addressed. From the way it looks, he's the type to shut down in response to stress. Your objection to the lapse in communication was clearly received and you got through to him effectively--from now on he won't withdraw for days at a time, most likely.

Furthermore I doubt that he was irrationally butt-hurt after he didn't stay at your place Sunday night, but moreso disappointed to the extent of "aw man...oh well". For the most part, Libras are not hypersensitive or easily offended IMO.

Best of luck 🙂

Thanks for responding. Yes he does shut down in response to stress (this is the 2nd time he's done something like this). It's difficult for me because I'm always the person most in my family and circle come to when they need a shoulder to lean on. I realize it just might not be the case with him or he doesn't fully trust me yet. He has started opening up more lately. I guess in time.

Ironically I'm the same way. I'm learning to be more patient when it comes to him and I'm giving him his space to figure things out. Funny when I was having some issues our roles were reversed. Me shutting down and not letting him in, BUT I never flat out ignored him. That is what bothered me most.

I think he's very sensitive based on some other things that have happened. I am normally a very blunt person (the Sag in me) but with him I have curtailed it because I feel overprotective over him in a way and I don't want to hurt his feelings.

Posted by DMV
Sometimes venus in caps can be so practical and responsible that we miss when someone is having a moment. I think u missed that,

Me practical? LMAO

No. However I am pretty responsible. I just found it bizarre that he went from being happy on Sunday to depressed on Wednesday.

It happens 🙂

I'm shocked he responded after your text cursing at him like that. If the sagg man I liked spoked to me like that I duck for cover. Lol. He wouldn't have to worry about me texting him back, then or never for that matter, especially if I told him I was depressed. I would expect him to take my silence as queue to respect my space. Anyway, he has a Aries moon, so I already know he and I handle anger and blunt behavior from our partners completely different. We even handle or insecurities different. I have moon in Pisces so I'm much more sensitive, and I tread a bit softer when pursuing a love interest.

If I'm hot and cold, it's because the balance in the relationship is off somewhere. There's no going around it. If he's hot and cold it could be the balance thing, but then knowing my leeb man it could be him trying to lock down a backup chick just in case you have others, so he won't look like total fool

pinklibra thanks for responding!

The balance is off. I know his life isn't exactly where he wants it to be right now and that is definitely part of the problem, but nobody's life is perfect. I guess I'll have to exercise patience. Definitely not my strong suit. (My Sag Sun and Aries Moon)

He's introduced me to all the important people in his life. He treats me well when we're together, is always happy to see me, but it's the time apart that puzzles me. Sometimes I feel completely disconnected with him when we aren't together He tells me there is no one else. At this point I am willing to give him the benefit of the doubt UNTIL proven otherwise.

One time he came over and I was dressed from going out and he said "where were you at dressed like that?"

Me: Out
Him: Where? You didn't tell me you were going out.
Me: I didn't know I needed to keep you informed of my every move.
Him: (screw face)

I'm grown! I do not have to keep him informed of my activities. LOL! He tells me I'm secretive, I'm really not. I'm just independent and I don't always volunteer information. Now if you ask me then maybe I'll tell you if I feel like it. LOL! I won't lie, but I just don't feel the need to tell you every darn thing. What's wrong with that?

I really do like him, but the highs and lows are driving me crazy. He is very spoiled and also dramatic. However he is a sweetheart though, very affectionate and I feel very comfortable around him (that doesn't happen often). Plus it's so darn cute when he just has to be near me. If we stop at a gas station and I go inside for something I turn around and here he comes right behind me. If I go to the gym (we workout at the same gym) he positions himself on the nearest machine and stares with those eyes. *sighs*

I have never dated a Libra as an adult (my first love as a teen was one treated me like a Princess). I have plenty as friends (females) though. I guess I just I have to get used to this roller coaster.

*big eyes*

We'll see LOL!

LOL. This response made me giggle. You two maybe a little more alike than you think, with both of you having an Aries moon. You just said you feel disconnected when you are apart, but then when he asked you where you were going dressed like that or whatever you blew him off, feeling as though you don't have to tell him your every move, and you only will tell him IF you feel like it. Now that's fine, but then you cannot complain about the feeling of disconnect when he is not around you. I say that because, the feeling of disconnect you are getting is the same as you dish out. My sister is an Aries and my mom always taunts her telling her she can dish it but she can't take it, which makes HER look spoiled and self-centered. Aries can see drama in others a mile away, but are oblivious to when they are being drama queens themselves, even the men. The Aries men are the babies of the zodiac, they can be very childish at times, so that may be the spoiled brat part you are seeing in him, but the women are no different, so hunny bunch you are looking at yourself.lol.

I think you two will do just fine. Libra and Sagg is an awesome pair, and then you both have that fire in your moon signs which could either get really hot, or go very sour because you both want to have control in fear of getting hurt or being vulnerable to the other. You both are going to have to work on being fair to one another. He's the Libra so he will be more than willing, as fairness is one of his strong points. Be careful on how you treat him about letting him in on your life and what you are doing, because if you tell him —I don't have to tell you if I don't want to.?? His Libra may take it as rejection and his diplomatic skills will come into play on how to handle it, and he's not above playing tit-for-tat. For him fair is fair for example; if he decides to hit a strip club with his boys and you flip out that he didn't inform you, he will recite those EXACT same words to you —I dont have to tell you my every move.?? That's why he gave you the scowl face, when you said it to him. He's going to remember it. So if I were you I would nip those selfish ways in the bud right now.

continued...

Aries and most Sagittarians have this problem, this super independent issue that often gets them in trouble in relationships (the fear of living in a box) and for a person that has both in their chart it's worse. You have to learn how to work as a pair. And a little clue, your Libra is the most understanding person you will ever date when it comes to space and independence, all you have to do is let him know what's up, don't ever shut him out because I promise he will shut you right out in return and you won't get anywhere.

When you are in a relationship, it's true you should be able to hold onto some parts of your independence, but when you make a choice to join forces with someone else emotionally, physically, and mentally (because that's basically what a relationship is) you have to realize you DO owe them an explanation, you DO have to be mindful of how they may feel, you DO have to be considerate and offer your whereabouts, because you don't know if they want to surprise you and stop by with flowers and chocolates and wisk you away on romantic date, you never know. So work on it.

This poor dude has his Sun opposite Moon ! (Not to mention he has a Mars in Libra,venus in Virgo - just like my wife and its very disconnecting)Mars as no business in Libra IMO , unless you like people who are passive/aressive. good luck with him , but if he is allready too much work , he always will be .I would pass.