The Age Old Quandary: Leo Girl/Libra Guy

Hi Everybody,

I know there are quite a few threads floating around this forum about the mysterious Libra Man and the beautiful women who get besotted with them and then left out in the cold. I am a bit new to this elusive creature but maybe if I tell my story I can get a little bit of insight into what I am getting myself into.

I am a Leo Girl (July 23rd) who met quite a charming Libra guy about a year ago when I was doing temporary duty on his ship. At the time, I thought he was pretty cute but I was taken by my Leo fiancee at the time (What a nightmarish relationship that was). Well, me and my Leo paramour split in December and I for the first time was all torn up about it and it took me a while to heal over it. In May I was going on summer deployment on Mr. Libra's ship again and I happened to run into him and for some reason, a connection was formed that I wasn't feeling for any other guy that was trying to pursue me. I kept telling myself that I was going to bury myself into work but he kept coming up with his sweet little Libran smile and chatting with me. I felt that he was doing the whole flirting thing until one of my best friends pulled me aside to tell me that lo and behold, Mr. Libra had feelings for me!At that time I had feelings as well and told him as such. We made some plans for Australia. Well, things got physical and then we both kind of backed off because his command was trying to pry but then the fabled hot-and-cold situation came about. He wouldn't even half way speak to me some days so I made the decision to drop it. As soon as that flew to his ears, he was in my face trying to figure out what was wrong and why I was upset and whatnot so we patched it up, or so I thought. Our next port was coming up, I asked him what he was up to and why didn't he ask me what I was up to (I know, typical snooty Leo). He hemmed and hawed like he wasn't interested in what I was doing, so I pretty much told him he wouldn't see me during it. I invited him to my B-day party (I forgot he was working that day) and that was that. I got one of the guys from my shop to be my liberty buddy because it saved me a lot of time and paperwork and we went out and had a great time. The last night in port, I run into Mr. Libra with my liberty buddy in tow and then amazingly, Mr. Libra became really irate with me and barely spoke to me at all. On one hand, I wanted to explain to him that there wasn't anything going on between my liberty buddy

but a part of me told me to just "screw it". Well, I felt terrible about it mainly because I saw that he was visibly upset about it. I went up to him and asked him if I did anything to offend him. He just smiles at me and tells me he isn't upset with me, I knew damn well that he was so I apologized to him for offending him if I did. He accepted my apology even though he told me that I didn't need to but he still remained cold and distant. Well a few days later an acquaintance of mine came up to me and told me that Mr. Libra was bad mouthing me to one of his friends (I found out that this was a lie, a week after I left the ship) and I was exceedingly pissed about it. I was trying not to lose it on him about it but it is so difficult to find a place on the ship and talk about it civilly and I am not one to send a bunch of e-mails when you are just right there. I was seething, he knew it and he began to hide within himself. At that point, I could have gave a butter about it.

Fast forward to when I got off the ship. I went to a mutual friend's house for a BBQ and Mr. Libra was supposed to show up. He doesn't, his friend comes back and says that he was passed out with a girl in his bed (another lie). I was pretty much at the point where I said "screw it" to the whole situation, I'm way too good for this bullbutter. I was then pulled to the side by his best friend (who I seriously thought was mute for a while) and he lays all of Mr. Libra's feelings on the line for me. Apparently, Mr. Libra has feelings for me but he is too afraid of messing things up with me and he was afraid of my reaction because I was too unpredictable (Unfortunately, I truly was on that whole trip. Everything that could have gone wrong, did and I was the worse for wear about it). He then advises me to send him an e-mail pretty much to say hi. I did just that, no response. The very next night, my best friend comes up to me and tells me that Mr. Libra was pretty much interrogating him about me and telling him how he felt about me which mirrored the same thing that his friend told me. A few days after that, another friend come up to me and says the same and the same advice is being put out, "reach out to him". Alright in the space of a month and a half, I reached out three times, and not one response. I understand that he is stressed out because of work, but that doesn't stop one from writing a reply to an e-mail. I'm halting the communication. What is you all's suggestions?