We choose to love.... is it really an option?

My thoughts:

Ultimately we don't choose who we love. But we can choose how we act on it.
There is a difference between obligation/ responsibility and love.

The dog thing, is different from the human thing. As well as a child thing is different from a partner thing.

Loving is an option because Libra thinks that love is in the mind. That is the greatest illusion.

We do chose who we love. Here's why I say this: B/c establishing emotional attachments (which normally has to happen FIRST before love is even established) don't happen over night. Emotional connections take work, energy, time & effort. Sure, we can't necessarily control who we find attractive or who we admire. Hell we can walk down the street & admire or be attracted to a complete stranger even though we never plan to talk to them. BUT loving someone takes alot more energy, work & time & just walking down the street & seeing someone that catches our eye isn't love. Love takes time & the reason I say we "choose" who we love is b/c we CHOOSE who we invest our energy, time & emotional energy into. In other words, unless we grant others that access to get close to us, it's almost impossible for someone to get in. For example, if someone is bitter, untrusting of the opposite sex, never goes out to public/social places, never gives their phone number out to those whom ask for it, & in other words, never puts any effort into those they are attracted to, then that means that's a person's way of CHOSING not to do/say certain things that would have to be present in order for a connection (let alone love) to be established. Now on the other hand, if you make the CHOICE to get to know someone & invest in them, & then because of those factors love is established, then love was only established b/c you made the CHOICE to do/say the things that naturally establish love/friendships, etc. If a person doesn't make the choice to put themselves out there or to be emotionally vulnerable, then there is no way for love to be a part of the equation

Great insights! both!

🙂 thank you!!

happy v!