What the heck is going?

So basically, you guys are dating happily and you decide to get drunk and make out in front of his friends, at his work, embarrassing him (with your ex no doubt). He understandabley gets upset. But, being a libra and reasonable, says (in his mind), well .... drunk people do stupid things. The part of him that is angry thinks but now all my friends know what a douchebag she is! Why is she coming to my work and making out in front of my friends!!! (A really stupid move by the way). The reasonable part says well, I wouldn't care half as much if it had happened somewhere else. This is exactly why (insert manager's name) said we should leave our partners at home when we are working. Maybe if she goes out elsewhere, if this happens again, it won't be so bad because at least everyone I know won't know about it. So he tells you that.

You wanted to make him jealous. You wanted to cause a scene so you did. He probably wouldn't have cared had you not done it infront of everyone he works with, making your relationship the source of gossip for awhile yet. We don't like that. Usually, when we like someone, we want everyone to think they are as wonderful as we do. You have made that pretty much impossible. Everyone now will see him as the loser dating the girl who doesn't care about him. Your need to play games and create drama has probably screwed you out of this relationship. Probably not right away, because he will try to live with it especially if he liked you, but in a few months you will probably get your walking papers.

I think it is hiliarious that you want and explanation of his behavior. His behaviour is pretty normal. Yours on the other hand ..... let me guess, you're a Scorp. lol!

excuse all the spelling and grammer mistakes. I'm tired and for the life of me, can't figure out how to delete so I can repost it without my mistakes. *shrug*

Nov

Look at it this way, there is no honesty going on here on any side. It is a lot of games. That isn't love. It is a power struggle. Exciting sure! But love shouldn't be a competition especially of who can hurt who more.

Good luck sweetie! I hope it works out for you.
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libras tend to be jealous, because libras are usually a bit insecure and need a lot of attention and reassurance. jealousy doesn't mean they want to actually be with someone. it just means they're selfish little bitches.

making him jealous won't make him want to be with you. making him feel like you think he's the best thing ever is the best bet if you want that.

and if you don't, who cares. have fun. accept him as he is.

Well one, it seems like during the time that you made out with that guy, you were in your own little world, oblivious to his feelings. It seems that you're only aware of your OWN feelings of the situation & not his. It seems as if you didn't even take notice of the fact that he was spending so much of his time & energy with & on you UNTIL you actually started to feel for him. But the whole time, he might've been really feeling you & you didn't even notice. Regardless of him being a Libra, he's a man in general & I agree with what someone said earlier. You went to his job (and you prob. chose that bar for the main fact that HE works there) & decided to make out with another man. Think about how that made him feel. Who knows, he could've told his co-workers about you. So understand that his ego was probably VERY bruised. You justify it because you were drunk, but to HIM, all he saw was the girl he likes alot making out with some other guy. He reminds you that you're going home with him b/c he's only assuming that you're investing all of this time into him b/c you like him & b/c you feel it's worth it. It doesn't make sense that you'd be feeling him so hard but yet make out with another man at HIS job. Imagine how you'd feel if the shoe was on the other foot. So, I think that explains why he's starting to be so hot/cold with you & where all this distance is coming from. Libras CAN be very possessive & be very jealous, BUT only with the people they really care about. Plus, like you said, he spends all his time with you & assumes that you 2 are both investing so much time into eachother b/c you both like eachother with the same intensity. The fact that it went from just sex to more means that he started to consider you a potential love interest. Well, if that's the case, you messed that up the min. you made out with someone b/c that opened up the door for him to question you & your intentions with him. Even a guy that doesn't like a woman at all won't wanna see the person he's been spending time with all up on another guy. That's just human nature. Ever heard the term, "Get a room?"

I think he's definetely being indecisive now. He picked up the pace with you (taking you out more & investing more & more time with you) b/c at the time he felt it was worth it. And when you pulled that stunt, it hurt him & his ego. So even though you hurt his ego, that doesn't change the fact that he was prob. starting to really like you or fall for you. Right now, his actions are reflecting what's going on in his head. His emotions are going back & forth about you right now, thus his actions & behaviors are LITERALLY going back & forth too. At this point, the best thing to do is to just make your feelings known. If he's going to retreat into a shell & make a mental note to never allow himself to emotionally attach to you now, then you need to demand from him that he be upfront about it. He may still hang out with you & do all the same things you 2 have always done, BUT the only difference (if you even notice) is that he'll do these things with distance. And I think you're starting to notice this. The answer though isn't to just back away & make him chase you. You hurt his pride & b/c your actions weren't necessarily those of a woman who really likes the guy she's dating, he prob. feels justified in taking a mini break from you & making it so that things aren't quite the same. After all, he's just like the rest of us, he doesn't want to be hurt & he doesn't want to chase after someone who he's not even sure really likes him. If this guy is worth it & if you really like him, chase after him. He's already done his part. He's already chased after you. He's already shown you that he's willing to take this "thing" you two have got going on, up as many notches as you'll allow it to go. I think what he's doing wrong is that he's not communicating with you; he's using his distance as a way to show how he really feels & unfortunately, you both sound stubborn lol. You guys need to just get everything out in the open & make the decision about where you 2 want this thing to go so that you 2 won't any longer be in this "middle/confused" zone that you're in. Once a Libra goes into indecisive mode, there's no telling WHEN they'll be back. They can spend ALL year weighing options. And if you really think he's worth it, then give him the heads up that you're down for him. That'll help. You pulling back & expecting him to chase you when he feels YOU are the one who was wrong is just a waste of your time. It won't happen.

you should've just said 'merry christmas'.

libras hate feeling smothered. we want to be wanted, not needed. huge difference.