When Libras are serious

Hi all!!


Ok so I've been going out with this Libra guy for the past month, although we've been friends for a few months. Well he seemed really serious about me in his pursuit. I kinda got scared and did my whole push pull thing. The twins really came out on that one! Even so, he still stuck around, still kept holding on (Dang he must really like me! ) But I couldn't get rid of him for the life of me (not that I really wanted to deep down) All in all, I told him that I was scared silly and that I wanted to see him casually, no pressures and that he was free to date other people because I knew he wanted to find someone to be serious about. *Wince* Bad choices of words there because now it looks like I'm saying he shouldn't get serious about me because I can't be serious about him. Yikes! The point is, now I wish that I had kept my mouth shut and my fears to myself because I want him to be serious about me!!!

I fear now that he's pulled back. Oh he still spends time with me but our communication has waned. Also may be due to his job. I know he is still interested because he told me that he wants me and still seems interested.

Libras, would you still keep a woman around if you're not interested in her seriously? And would you just keep her around because you're lonely and just for a casual hookup when you can get it?

How do I know that this Libra isn't serious about us anymore?

Just ask.

* Libras, would you still keep a woman around if you're not interested in her seriously? And would you just keep her around because you're lonely and just for a casual hookup when you can get it?

Of course they would! Don't be silly.

This, however, is easily fixed. Next time you see him or (this is what I would do but I am a whimp) just send him a quick note. "Oops. I've changed my mind. I do want you to be serious about me."

Nothing more.

Then sit in the discomfort and do nothing and wait to see how he responds.

It is VERY important to keep it short, sweet, direct and then just sit there and paint your living room if you have to but don't do anything else towards him.

Oh Little Sparrow you have me here in giggles. That would be quite funny. After a round of making out when I'm leaving just leave a note under his pillow saying "Love, you've got me all wrapped up (Christmas season--corny I know) for me to be anything but serious about you!" And wince at the discomfiture because I hate being the one vulnerable and waiting!

Amethyst, so this is an actual season? My Libra just started a job that has him so drained and busy. And it seems that it's his new love interest *roll eyes* phooey! But I dunno if I can blame the job as the reason because I'm not sure if it's because he's gotten busy or because I back off.

backed off*

Very anal about typos!

Posted by IsabellaGem
All in all, I told him that I was scared silly and that I wanted to see him casually, no pressures and that he was free to date other people because I knew he wanted to find someone to be serious about. *Wince* Bad choices of words there because now it looks like I'm saying he shouldn't get serious about me because I can't be serious about him. Yikes! The point is, now I wish that I had kept my mouth shut and my fears to myself because I want him to be serious about me!!!

Honesty is the best policy. I agree with sparrow, this is fixable but I don't think you should do the note thing. In this case, the ball is in your court. He was serious and you told him not to be. We do have "rules" of our own, but you set the rules here. You should take the lead in this. Talk to him.

Thanks Sid! So his impression of me hasn't changed then i.e. putting me into the friends with benefits category since I said I wanted casual. Another thing, is it usual of you libras to be hot on the chase and then fall off becoming all boring? I know his job is hectic but sheesh! Also, I gather he is going through some "stuff". He seems moody of late and I don't mind that in the least, but he doesn't talk about it so that makes my time with him so boring because when we're together either we cuddle which is great but then he becomes lost in his "world". I can feel him not being totally present. That just kills the vibe! And it drains me because I dont know what's up. I ask but he says it's work. He hasn't spoken to me in the past 3 days and I havent had an urge to message him because I'm a little frustrated atm.

So his impression of me hasn't changed then i.e. putting me into the friends with benefits category since I said I wanted casual.

It's possible. And if he looked at it from the outside he'd probably advise a friend to stay unattached if they were in the situation. But when it's us... I've noticed we can be very forgiving if we are really into someone. I've let shit slide that I have later mocked friends for doing. You guys hadn't been together too long either so it's not like you betrayed him or anything. He just got in too quick. If he realizes that (with guidance but he has to connect the dots himself) then why not give it a go and just slow down for now.

A relationship has to have a friendship as the base. KoL is right too, we are easily influenced. Plus we like to talk about almost anything. Just talk with him about whatever comes up. You can't talk with someone about serious stuff if you can't talk with them about the little shit.

Hi guys! See my recent post please "Sexually exclusive but not committed" Would love your feedback!