When you or your twinflame develops another relationship after you?

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Whether it's you or them having another relationship after you... Because ur twin flame connection is too hard, too intense, too much drama, too painful, too passionate , too deep that you can't find a stable ground that a normal healthy relationship needs or look like..... What happens then?..... I am one to move on from it now.... For someone easier, healthier, less passionate but more predictable.... while I leave the memory of my twin flame behind.... what am I experiencing ? and I believe he's doing something similar.. What process are we going through?
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It's easy to say and hard to do.... I don't have the patient and I'm also doing what's best for me right now.. him who I believe is my twin flame... Is running so far I can't catch up ... We will never work out as a true couple.. There's so much drama involved.... also he cut me off for good apparently for the how many times....... I'm also holding his child so later down the track we may be friends..... but this is my way of healing myself and being happy again... And I want him to do the same.... He needs to grow and heal and be a better person..... if we are in each other's lives, it's so intense we can't concentrate or keep a normal relationship which I need for my child..... So I'm stuck.... but willing to give this normal relationship a go..... there's no pain atleast..... I'm tired of the pain my TF caused me... I can't bear anymore of it.....
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Posted by Libralula
You shouldn't say things like you never will work as a real couple.
You as the Chaser become a runner yourself more like a Pusher. Because of thoughts like this. You make him feel/think you won't work and he has more reason to stay put.





I don't mind being a runner for once.. ( secretly hoping he will finally turn around and Chase me one day) but... It won't work out until he's healed and help himself as a person. He has a lot of burden and dark things to heal.. We are the complete opposite.... Ofcoz I'm secretly hoping he will be healed in a couple of years and improved himself... so that he's ready as a real father... Howeve that hope is still far so I have to do what's best for me and the child for the time being...
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Posted by Libralula
You shouldn't say things like you never will work as a real couple.
You as the Chaser become a runner yourself more like a Pusher. Because of thoughts like this. You make him feel/think you won't work and he has more reason to stay put.




+100 twin telepathy. You can run but you can't hide.
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I honestly don't know what else to do... if I continue to chase he will continue to run... I can only send him love secretly...... while being with someone else....
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Posted by Libralula
You shouldn't say things like you never will work as a real couple.
You as the Chaser become a runner yourself more like a Pusher. Because of thoughts like this. You make him feel/think you won't work and he has more reason to stay put.




+100 twin telepathy. You can run but you can't hide.

I honestly don't know what else to do... if I continue to chase he will continue to run... I can only send him love secretly...... while being with someone else....
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You have to completely let go. Completely
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It's easy to say and hard to do.... I don't have the patient and I'm also doing what's best for me right now.. him who I believe is my twin flame... Is running so far I can't catch up ... We will never work out as a true couple.. There's so much drama involved.... also he cut me off for good apparently for the how many times....... I'm also holding his child so later down the track we may be friends..... but this is my way of healing myself and being happy again... And I want him to do the same.... He needs to grow and heal and be a better person..... if we are in each other's lives, it's so intense we can't concentrate or keep a normal relationship which I need for my child..... So I'm stuck.... but willing to give this normal relationship a go..... there's no pain atleast..... I'm tired of the pain my TF caused me... I can't bear anymore of it.....
Reality at last!!! I never thought you'd make it!!

Sag man and taurus woman a bad match!!! Simple as that!!
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That's not what's important right now. Any combination can work with compromise and patience.
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Posted by Libralula
You shouldn't say things like you never will work as a real couple.
You as the Chaser become a runner yourself more like a Pusher. Because of thoughts like this. You make him feel/think you won't work and he has more reason to stay put.




+100 twin telepathy. You can run but you can't hide.

I honestly don't know what else to do... if I continue to chase he will continue to run... I can only send him love secretly...... while being with someone else....
You have to completely let go. Completely
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I believe I am at that point where I have completely let go.. It doesn't hurt me anymore if he's with anyone or when I'm with another person. I no longer feel depressed , sad or pain.. I do miss him and love him but I believe when the time is right we will meet again.. if not another life time.... I let go that we will not work together at this point in time.... But my love for him is still there.. I'm not going to force myself to let go of my love for him because that will cause me pain.. I just let it be.. and allow another love to enter my life eventhough it may not b as intense... but atleast it's more predictable, stable n more calm..
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twin flame seperation....ugh.

It's funny how things work out so smoothly with someone else.... yet it's missing that intense crazy passion that TF share..... seperation is needed for healing and growing ... I can only send him love and peaceful thoughts from my heart..... and hoping he will hear me... I really do ....
Are you being with another for the wrong reasons. You don't want to create more, karma.what's wrong with focusing yourself and the baby for now. Math nag with another because u genuinely love him
Maybe not same as tf
But running to another is never a solution
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I didn't try to find this current person. He was waiting for me for a while and I see things working out for us ( atleast for the time being ).. and as time goes by, feeling less pain for my TF.. I feel much much better enotionally... more settle and more calm...
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Posted by Impulsv
Question does new guy know about tf.
N when tf returns What will u do him?

I think about this thing because it's not fair for the person to be a filler.

I think about being in the situation myself and feel I would have to be open and say I can't guarantee anything with whomever I'm dating

I honestly believe that the reason I met this guy is for a reason as well.. If the TF returns and he's healed and change, I honestly believe then that I will be changed myself and most likely be single ... lol... Ni think right now we both r mirroring each other ... I don't think he wiil come back any time soon . I'm giving it 3years atleast ..
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Posted by Impulsv
If I start somethings with someone it's because I'm not settling n if I'm not settling I'm not leaving him for my tf!
Not saying ur settling but I'm not going into a relationship thinking when my tf returns. That is not fair for the other person.

No I am not waiting for my TF to return.. well atleast not for another few years... lol... I don't noe I just feel like this is meant to happen this way atleast for a while.... and if he returns he has a lot a lot a lot a lot to prove and if I am ready for the pain again and to take him back is a whole other story.. Right now I'm not at all..... I miss the amazing time but I am running from the pain... he has the power to cause me ....
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How the hell do we know who our twin flames are lol I have a hard time grasping this. Soul mates/groups, I get. But twin flame seems looney toons to me 😛
I'm with my soulmate, been with him for 20 years and couldn't imagine my life without him. I met my tf a year ago and the connection is crazy. Like it makes you think you are because the shit that happens with that person just doesn't happen "irl".

I'm not nor was I ever involved with my tf and doubt that I will be, but there's just something *different* there. It's like a psychic link between people who shouldn't otherwise have that kind of connection. A lot of synchronous stuff like having a similar life history, same relationship history/problems, same temperments, same hangups and personal tastes. I never thought it possible to love 2 men at the same time, like an honest love. I thought it was a copout for weak people. I know different now. But I had to make a choice and chose the soulmate. That love has history and commitment as a foundation and one that I'm not willing to walk away from.

It's been hard for me. I never kept secrets from my SO, and while he knows that there was a point ar which I seriously considered leaving him (due to the combination of strained relations and this other person being something of a catalyst for me considering leaving), he doesn't and will never know that now there is someone else in the background of my mind. Because nothing physical happened, and I made my choice to stay with my SO.

I do believe that my tf still thinks of me. I get strange flushes of sensation and then thoughts of him flood my mind out of nowhere. I've had dreams of him that feel so real I startle awake because it honestly feels like I'm about to cheat on my SO and I don't want to.

He has a very similar relationship with his gf that I have with my bf; strained, not "ideal", but loving and committed. I think we sensed that about each other. I have never experienced this before. Never.

I have walked away from contact with him because it was too hard to focus on the relationship I chose to stay in. I love my man and he deserves to have me present in his life. The tf is an obstacle to that right now. I wish I could experience that connection again in my tf's presence but what good would it do? So I move on with my life and keep a corner of my mind for my tf. If we haooen to reconnect thwn I'll be haooy for that,
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Not everyone meets a twin flame. Most don't, actually. There's usually some great divide that keeps them separate (age difference, geography, different life paths).
For me, all of the above, but our paths still crossed.
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Yep, same with me. On one hand I wish I had mever met him, and on the other I am amazed that I get to have this experience.
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Not everyone meets a twin flame. Most don't, actually. There's usually some great divide that keeps them separate (age difference, geography, different life paths).
For me, all of the above, but our paths still crossed.
Yep, same with me. On one hand I wish I had never met him, and on the other I am amazed that I get to have this experience.
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Same here. I hear ya.
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And there was no way our paths would have ever crossed if I hadn't started what I thought was a dream job that ended up being a nightmare. We worked together in similar job descriptions and career level (both middle managers in charge of our respective departments, in a similar discipline).

Thing is, we live vwry different lifestyles and he's 10 years younger. But we're both in design and got our education in that.

We have the same 3 dominant planets and in the same order. He has feminine sun and mars, I have masculine sun and moon. We share our venus.

I could go on but it was a one in a trillion chance that without our work we would have ever met.
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Posted by Impulsv
Yes , by pain do u mean physical or emotional.
I've felt his anxiety n injuries
How do I know when we talked In the past he mentioned injury where I was feeling pain. Regarding anxiety it come odd time n prior to contacting me. Then he'd contact n I knew why I was feeling it.

I mean emotional pain.... I was feeling all fine today and all of the sudden I feel the anxiety creeping in and I started to feel extrmely sad.... it used to happen before when we were still in touch when he was trying to call me so many times and I didn't have my phone on ... But during that time I was feeling extemely uneasy, anxious and pain like someone is trying for reach me.... It's rare Coz he doesn't call me often.... one weekend I just had a random thought, what's if he pass away, how would I live?..... Then that weekend he told me he almost died.... right now we are not communicating.... so I would love to learn how to communicate telepathically ....