advice?

I have a friend (a cancer) who is going to be coming to the states (he lives in a different country now, but was born and raised here) in a couple months. He's a good friend of mine, also an ex (but we only briefly dated). The thing is, I don't want to hear about his perfect relationship, and the details of his sex life, etc etc, which I know he's going to try to tell me all about. It's kind of irritating for someone who's single...I don't know. A small part of me is happy for him, but an enormous part of me is dreading the visit, because...I have nothing to talk about when it comes to these topics. I mean I could talk about past experiences, but ... how lame. lol. Should I completely avoid him? Should I not? Am I being evil? And why does he get to have this great relationship BLAH BLAH BLAH while I..don't. Rhetorical mainly, but ... 😢

Oh GAWD, somebody's gotta be here! 😢 lol -- jackbutter you're a cancer, what should I do?

Well, i usually just tolerate this kind of thing. Besides, how happy can he be if he has to tell everyone about it? I dunno, just my thoughts. A friend of mine used to do it and i found out later she was not happy at all. Just recently we had a convo and i set her straight on a few issues. Perhaps you could say (if it gets to you), "look, ive just had a really horrible break up and I'd like you to know that i am sensitive about these issues right now. If you want to share with me that is fine, but just remember i cannot talk about this too much". I dunno, it might sound stifling but you might get to the point where you crack.

Yeah, I usually just tolerate it too...it's just hard when someone's being really explicit about it, it's like...dude...do you not realize how bitter a pill that is for me to swallow considering the butter I've been through in the past year? lol. Or maybe I'm expecting too much, I don't know...but I've always tried to think of the other person's station in life and frame of mind before I go telling them how fantastic my love life is (speaking of the past...the waaaay past. lol) You know, it's very good advice, the just telling him straight out idea. I think...if he's that good of a friend, he'd probably understand what I was saying. It's weird when it's an ex, too. You're not with the person, and have no real desire to be with them romantically, but at the same time you kind of feel this twinge of, "don't tell me about other women". But that could just be me. lol. I mean I really wouldn't mind it if he would just SKIP all the sexual crap, and the going on about how perfect she is, blah blah blah.

Thank you for your advice, I may very well do that. It might take some beer or something for me to get up the nerve, but I can do it, once I get the nerve to.