it's not always better to know...

Have you ever investigated something, or someone, or someone's thoughts, as in, asked them to tell you what they "really think", and the answer they give you, or what ends up being revealed is nothing like you thought or wanted it to be? I'm wondering if sometimes...ignorance is bliss.

not if you knew that you were ignorant

but maybe that just indicates that you know something, ne? oh treetrunk this butter, on to the point, yes i have experienced that pheonix, especially with my boyfriend. Why? What happened?

sometimes I think ignorance is bliss because then you cannot "assume" anything. It just is what it is, Bliss. 😉

For the most time I think ignorance is bliss-ish!!!! I discovered to my peril a few cans of worms - back in my Ms. Super-Sleuth days!! and vowed never again to don my Columbo Mac!!!!

On one occasion years and years ago about 3 months before we were to due to get married, my fiancee and I had both done our pre-marriage course (we were all lovey-dovy) and I was feeling on top of the world, convinced that I was the love of his life and he mine. One nite, he went out for something to eat and I for "pure idle curiosity" decided to open his wardrobe...and looked around...I came upon a letter with my own name on it....I took it out astonished and began to read - as I read my heart sank deeper and hit rock-bottom - guess what.....he had written it just a few days previous, saying that he wasn't ready for marriage or me! and wanted out now!!......I was so gutted and staggered beyond the power of expression but yet when he came back I had to pretend to be fine.....how could I tell him that I had opened up his wardrobe and found the "private" soul-destroying letter in his jacket— However, naturally it ate into my very soul and a few days later I confronted him and told him what I had done.....we broke up, then got back together just before the wedding but now ain't together anymore!!!!

On another occasion with another love of my life!, when he went out to shops, I decided to look into a press of his on the wall. I discovered an open box of condoms - and they weren't the ones we used!! - so I knew he had been messing around!!! - again when he returned I couldn't say what I had seen. However, that nite I phoned him, told him what I had found and broke it off then and there!!!

So for me the bottom line is - don't go poking or delving too deeply coz you just might find what you never really wanted to or drempt of in the first place.

There you go P Rising!!

A x

I'll tell you what...IF I ever need to hire a detective...I KNOW who I'm gonna call.....AX to my service!

You have a natural talent girl....Where were you when Columbo needed you? Nevermind, I know....you were on your own "mission" 😉

Love to ya!

Nancy Drew here! at your service Missy:-) Oh how I loved those Hardy Boys also:-)!!! So Hard😉 - so boy-ish:-)!! But then I don't have to tell you - you know exactly how I like my boys:-)!!!

A x
PS Talk later pal

Nancy, wow that Nancy...she "Drew" those "Hard"y Boys out alright! One must read between the lines!

And if one reads between those lines, one will probably never quite be the same again:-) - like you and me!!!- :-) - oh we are digressing into the realms of alan-bird-ish-ness....here.......enough twitter and twat!!! be gone you bird of birds:-)!!!!

lol...

I've done some similar investigative type things with my most recent ex, Alana, so I understand where you're coming from. I was lucky enough not to find anything *too* incriminating, but the couple of times I did (some phone numbers)...it was "those are my co-workers" and some stupid explanation followed. Then it was "that's my schoolmate, I need that phone number so we all can study" blah blah blah...Believe me, I know a lie when I'm being told it, and The Were All Friggin' Lies, because he was a pig and a pathological liar (many, many other "definite" examples of how, that I won't go into at the moment).

I was in a bad mood ("picking apples from the Negative Tree", as that same ex used to say...lol), and I'm in a better one now. Thanks everyone for your replies. 🙂

Glad to hear that your in better form now PR - hey, rather than those negative apples...let's just say, you fell out of the beautiful tree today and hit every branch on the way down:-)!!!
Yep, I've done the phone-book thing on Mr. Virgo too...unfortunately though he's not Irish so all the names are greek names as he is.....although there were a few Irish girls name too in it - but he's had a couple of Irish girlfriends in the past - he's shown me the photos of them etc...
One nite when I was in the bathroom, he took my phone and went through all the names in my mobile....oh god....he wasn't impressed..... naturally being a virgo he splurted out what he had done the minute I came back from the bathroom....lots of the names were ex-es and male friends.....when confronted...I lied to my teeth and said they were just work colleagues and cousins:-) and that I have a wide circle of friends.....he sarcasitcally replied...oh yeah, we know all about your friends....all 300 of them!!!! Anyway, he got what he deserved but then so did I:-)!!!
Ciao for now pal.
A x

ummm. . . ok. . .

"it's not always better to know"

I definitely think so. . . especially when it comes to knowing what other people know. . . information is a dangerour hurtful thing.

*hides in hole*

intlglince is a doubel edged sword.

PR.....how I wish you had never started this thread but then again......last week I told of a few occasions when I went snooping and found what I didn't think I was going to or liked!!! Well I guess I was still in Nanccy Drew mode last weekend also. I am down in Mr. Virgo's and he goes off to work last Monday - I see his wardrobe and decide to have a snoop inside....even as I am opening the press I am thinking of your post and know I shouldn't be doing this...but her goes ahead anyway....I never listen to myself!!!! let alone anyone else!!! Nothing found in wardrobe....ordinary stuff....then for some unknown reason I decide to get a chair and take a snoop at the top of the wardrobe...nearly broke my neck trying to reach up and see as the chair is wobbbly!!! And guess what, once again, I find another "famous box of condoms" - two gone out of it and not the type I use......I sit down on the bed and think....fcuk, he's been screwing around!!!! I am sick to the pit of my stomach.....in the heat of the moment I think I will just leave the condoms on his bed with a good-bye, get out of my life note...then I think to myself....no, too dam easy for him....I am going to get my revenge on him over the next two weeks - I am going to reel him in, get him more hooked and then dump him like he's never been dumped before!!!! I put the box of cs back where they were so he won't know I have been snooping. So then I write a little I love you note and leave it on his pillow...that's the start of the revenge mode!!! Then I went to his sitting-room and took his social security visa card...he needs this for rent allowance, all sorts of allowances here in Ireland..without it he is fuc.ed! and I put it in my handbag to be discarded. I go home and am so angry and feel used...you know all those feelings you get when someone has cheated on you.....anyway, there's ins and outs to the story but it's too long so anyway the next nite I am down in his house and a cousin of his is staying there for the past month or so....it turns out that the cousin had a one-nite stand the previous week and used my guy's bed and thus the condoms....I didn't have to challenge him or bring up the issue even - I just accidentally heard them discussing it among themselves.....he's had to take most of the week off work to try and fix up his social security card...(he thinks he threw it out in the trash and spent hours going through his and all his neighbours trash!!) - there's so much red-tape about it.....(I regret now all the trouble I have caused over this) but of course I cannot tell him that I took it or about me fidning the condoms.........so here and now I am saying to you all - "NEVER IN MY LIFE" am I ever going to go snooping or involving myself in other people's business.....it's taken a long time but I have now finally learnt the lesson!!
Ax

Wow. what a great story. Ax. well at aleast everything turned out all right. u have fun now. And why are u all over there in Ireland?

Glad you enjoyed it J13th:-) - it's life at the cutting edge over here all the time in Ireland!!!!.....the country is so dam small, everyone knows everyone....you can't get away with too much as someone will always see you with such and such...or doing blah blah.....anyway, for the moment, I am almost afraid to even open up my own wardrobe:-)!!!! -
Ax
PS - when you going to visit over here Mr. Pisces—? I'm waiting with open arms.

are you trying to stalk someone? why probe someones mind? are you a detective of sorts? a profiler? i think its silly, what ur trying to do. you can't know everything in a person, its better to take it day by day and find what surprises can come up from that person ur with.

sometimes its better not to know too much, it can be a downfall and a big disappointment to know it at once. quite overwhelming, you have to like the person for who they are if you like them, and compromise.

i forgot about his place i've been caught up with the whole friendster/myspace spiel.

this place should have pictures so you know who ur talkin too.
well, back to myspace.

Alana, couldn?t help but laugh out loud at your comment "the country is so dam small, everyone knows everyone". I totally agree with you, but then I live in an even smaller community of less than three-hundred-thousand souls! Everyone is aware of when you sneeze, let alone other unmentionables! But sometimes it has it?s advantages, though.

were u talkin' to me or some other piscies.