Polyamorous

What do you think about polyamorous relationships? And would you ever consider having one?

What is a polyamorous relationship? Never heard of that before. It dosent sound very good!

Sounds fake?

Polyamorous is like ppl who are in a relationship of 3. There's different kinds too...like a "V" is when lets say theres 2 men and 1 woman; the woman is sexually involved with both but the men are not, although they are all in one relationship. And a triad is when all three are involved sexually.

ISNT THAT POLYGAMY AND ILLEGAL TOO!

THIS IS SOMETHING BABOONS DO.

LoL... you must be psycic... I was going to post this topic.

Actually, I think that if three people agree to it (supposing they are not brainwashed first as happens at times such as the Mormans in Salt Lake City) there is nothing wrong with it. It doesn't harm anyone and everyone gets what they want. I don't think it would be wise to publicize such a relationship if it occurs because of the social pressure against it. Suzy Q- Polygamy is illegal but that means you have to marry two people, if none of them get married but stay in a relationship it is not illegal. I don't have any religious argument against it though so some people would pobably have reasons that are religious against.. (I'm not even going to mention the acts of polygamy with concubines in the bible-I can't use that as a defense because they had slavery too.)

THERE IS COMMON LAWS AND YOU ONLY HAVE TO GIVE THE APPERANCE OF MAINTAINING A RELATIONSHIP AND IT IS JUST A BINDING AS A LEGAL MARRIGE

poly-
pref.

1. More than one; many; much: polyatomic.
2. More than usual; excessive; abnormal: polydipsia.
3. Polymer; polymeric: polyethylene.

am?o?rous Pronunciation Key (mr-s)
adj.

1. Strongly attracted or disposed to love, especially sexual love.
2. Indicative of love or sexual desire: an amorous glance.
3. Of or associated with love: an amorous poem.
4. Being in love; enamored: He had been amorous of her since the day they met.


Although it can't be found in a dictionary as a real "word" persee, it's meaning is quite clear ~ "to be strongly attracted to, love or to sexually desire more than one person"

And I for one find nothing wrong with that if that's your cup of tea ~ It's happened to me before and even though I couldn't handle it at the time ( and probably couldn't ever, when I'm in a relationship, it's me and that person), I can understand when it does happen and why people can and do get involved in those types of relationships. In the words of Robert Plant ~ "I'm addicted to love!" ~ you can either be addicted to the feelings of being in love itself or you can be addicted to love making and the feelings that it gives you. I for one absolutely adore lovemaking ~ with my current honey ~ or if not in a permanent relationship ~ with someone who has the same consenting feelings that I do....to abandon myself to the unabashed desires and wonderful feelings of making love to someone and being made love to......

just my opinion on the subject.....lol....

"I don't have any religious argument against it though so some people would pobably have reasons that are religious against.. (I'm not even going to mention the acts of polygamy with concubines in the bible-I can't use that as a defense because they had slavery too.)"

THE BIBLE HAS ALL OF LIFES LESSONS INVOLVED, AND THIS WAS NOT TO CONCURE WITH SUCH BEHAVIOR; IT WAS TO SHOW THE WRONG BEHAVIOR OF MAN. GOD FREED MOSES AND AND THE JEW FROM SLAVERY AND TOOK THEM OUT OF EGYPT.

SO YOU NEED TO KNOW WHAT YOU ARE TALKING ABOUT BEFORE YOU START IN ON THE BIBLE AND PUTTING DOWN MY LORD AND SAVIOR, JESUS CHRIST.

*cough*

YOU SEE, I SEE WHERE YOU ARE HEADING WITH THIS CONVERSTATION AND I TOOK CARE OF IT AHEAD OF TIME!

~urgh~

Not exactly what I had in mind, Suzy. I am familiar with the story of hte exodus, of the freedom brought to the Jews under Moses. But in the beginning (I know this because I actually read the beginning though not any farther) (this is going to sound unprofessional but I don't know any names are names of parts) where the bible is going over the geneology decending from Adam and Eve... going on and on through names and who marries who and who moves where with what- numerous times it makes reference to a man moving with his wife, children, concubines, and slaves. I only said I wasn't going to use this arguement for polygamous relationships because I obviously disagree with slavery and yet it was often justified during the 1800s because of it''s reference in the bible. Yes, there were laws against adultury and etc. etc. and I know for a fact that you know a lot more about the bible than I do. I am also not religious, as you know, so I don't have any religious reason to be against polygamous relationships but I know others would and I respect that... in relation to themselves but not to tell others they can't do it.

As for common laws... what exactly do you mean? Yes a person who can live in a relationship that is just like a marriage but the actual legal (government, not religious) aspects (unless you can disprove me) is that there is no penalty for adultury- it is on the discretion of the married ones invovled that divorces or seperations evovle. But if three people consent to be with one another then they do not bring up adultury and live peacefully.

mhm..*gnaws on a barbie*

Cain and Able are decendants of Adam and Eve

shhhhhhhwing!!

The reason for more than one wife during that time was to populate the earth; they needed to reproduce the human race, because there wasnt that many. Same with families back a 100 years ago. They had alot of children to help out with the farming and the other work it entailed to stay alive. We are not at the place we were back then. It is a matter of our own survival that we change according with the times. Think of the greater good.

I don't see anything in this polyamorous deal that is too awfully bad, the only thing I have a problem with is polygamy when children are involved (children marrying). To each his and her own, but polyamorousness(?) is not something that interests me and I would never do it.

I AM NOT SHARING MY MAN WITH ANYONE!

THE ONLY WAY THAT WOULD HAPPEN IS IF I DIDNT KNOW ABOUT IT, AND IF I FOUND OUT, THERE WOULD BE HELL TO PAY!

"Think of the greater good." Actually, you have a good point with the rest of the post- I had never thouhgt of it that way. Still, I was looking at the greater good from the point of view of now- polygamy doesn't hurt anyone as long as it is by mutual consent. The only people it may hurt are any children resulting fom it (provided that it lasts) and the legal issues about parenting and a child growing up with two fathers or two mothers (i'm talking about the social prejudices). And I agree- I am not sharing my man with anyone (when I eventually find one htat I can add the possessive "my" to) and personally polygamy doesn't really appeal to me... but I won't stop anyone else from doing it.

My opinion on this topic is that it is a fact that a person can love a different person just as much as they love their formal mate. I don't think they should act on their actions because it could wind up getting them seriously injured. I also think that a lot of people just wouldn't do it because they themselves don't want to admit that they really could love two people the same amount. I have a freind in this situation, and he just knows he will always avoid the fact he loves someone else just as much as he loves his girlfriend. He also has amazingly good control over his emotions, I don't know what I'd do in his position, cause both girls are very much in love with him. Anyway, personally I could only be in love with one person at a time because I tend to be an obsessive lover. I would also never share my boyfreind with anyone. They can have him over my dead body.

I dream of this kind of relationship. lol

It might sound good at first, but it will become very trying over time.

Morgan, to your first post... I had the same sort of thing in mind.

On second thought, I have a really bad problem when it comes to relationships. I can't stand being in them. It's not that I'm not good with commitment: I put my heart and soul into everything I do. I think there are a number of reasons for it. One, I don't want to lose myself in it. Two, even though I get lonely, I really like being alone. And three, I really don't believe in the whole "romantic love" deal. Don't get me wrong, I believe in love, just not the gushy boyfreind-girlfreind kind. Infact, it really makes me sick. I hate it when I see my freinds sweet talking eachother like that. I hate seeing someone as being someone else's "possession". I would rather be alone my entire life than ever be anyone elses possession. I don't know... I mean I love playing the dating game, but I really hate it when someone I'm dating tells me they love me. I really do. I'm thinking, "you're so young, how could you possibly know what real love is—". Anyway, another thing is that I've always been this way. I never want to get married, I made that decision when I was five. I just don't see the point. And it really annoys me when my mother acts as if the only reason for me to got to college is to meat a rich guy to marry. Makes me sick!!! I don't know at all. I need romance, but then, I don't want it either. I just don't know.

Polygamy would be fine if mutual consent is involved BUT also, and more inmportantly, if it works both ways...women having more than one husband.

Actually I think the whole relationship thing would work better if women lived together, men lived together and you only got together over the weekend to procreate or have some fun. Then the women can raise the kids to a certain age, send off their sons over to the men and continue as such. I don't think women and men are meant to live together..you know, men are from mars, women from venus thing!

Lol, sometimes I'd far rather live with men than with women, as my female peers often annoy the hell out of me. Besides that, I also like living alone. Errr... And then there's the argument that what you suggested destroys "Good Family Morals and Values", which isn't really my argument, but I bet will be brought up anyway, so I thought I'd mention it. Besides that, I think that's a really good suggestion, LG. My friend (the one I mentioned on my other post) wants to get an island and start a utopian civilization, want to join—

LOL..sounds heavenly Morgan! (Esp. at the present time)

Morgan... I have things to say to that which would take t long to do it on the board.... but I defnitely have opinions about that (psychological ones too).

Well hell, everyone knows I have problems, there's no new news there...

That is really an interesting theory, Lawgoddess! I am extremely compatible with many women...but, there are some who drive me nuts! I get along best with women who prefer 'the natural' look...(I don't mean nudity! LOL!) I mean they wear comfortable clothes (for the most part) and little make-up and are more interested in animals and nature than the latest fashions. The women who have a a g'zillion shoes and purses to match usually don't have much in common with me! (But, they probably wouldn't be interested in this theory anyway! LOL! They just don't seem the type...)

I think much of what John Gray says is quite interesting...but, I still want to get Mrs. John Gray drunk and get her to talk! LOL! I wanna know if he practices what he preaches!!

Morgan, I am interested in hearing more about this utopian civilization...hmmm...

Yes ladies, you all fascinate me too, so go on, go on...

Aussies don't place alot of effort on the 'must have make up on before we leave the house' thing. Make up is not allowed to be worn in schools. Fashion is great, but shouldn't be used as defining the kind of person we are internally. I can relate to what you say Star...I have friends of both types, but feel closer to those that are more interested in getting to know ppl on an inner level than an outer one.